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What is your schools policy on prevention of forced arranged marriage of students?

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JoeyF · 31/08/2009 19:13

What is your school's policy on the protection of teenage girls (and boys) from forced arranged marriage, spotting danger signs and stopping these from occuring abroad or in the uk.... bearing in mind we are talking 1000s of victms a year forced by parents into what is effectively sex slave trafficing little different to that done by east european groups forcing teenage girls into prositition away from thir country.

Where threats of violence, honour killing, ostracistion, taking victems abroad under the guise of holidays then taking their passport in remote areaa ar common place.

And what is the policy of aiding rescue of any student beleived to have been 'disappeared' in one of these situation?

Bearing in mind culture, tradition, relgion cannot ever be respected if it is supporting rape and abuse...

This can be done to girls as young as 12 in particular regarding pakistan, Bangladesh, Afganistan

This is not being racist either as you are not born with any culture, relgion or tradtion its something you choose just like choosing to be a hippy, goth, football fan, or surfer as opposed to a member of the KKK national front, football thug, gang member etc.

Likewise a policy on supporting a students right to date and form relationships regardless of their brother or parents wishes.

Also any policy on what to do if a tacher suspects a girl may be indanger of female circumcsion/female genital mutilation?

Look it up FGM

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foxytocin · 31/08/2009 20:30

my thoughts exactly annh.

foxytocin · 31/08/2009 20:30

I don't think it is a meedja request tbh. If it is, heaven help us. To me it reads more like someone from a 'British-only' organisation or a perv.

annh · 31/08/2009 20:28

Is JoeyF related to Informer2? They both seem to have arrived from nowhere with big axes to grind.

StewieGriffinsMom · 31/08/2009 20:25

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TheDMshouldbeRivened · 31/08/2009 20:19

its the DM! Run! Run for your lives!

iheartdusty · 31/08/2009 20:09

it reads to me like someone with a racist agenda -

By JoeyF on Mon 31-Aug-09 19:16:42
"why support a culture/tradtion/religion that victimises anyone? "

KnickKnack · 31/08/2009 19:46

I'm with Foxy on this one...the OP completely reads like a media request

mumblechum · 31/08/2009 19:35

As ds is one of only 2% non whites in his school I very much doubt they have a policy.

Seriously, though, I would hope that inner city schools would be v. aware of this potential problem and have someone that the children can confide in if it arises.

Sidge · 31/08/2009 19:26

Well I'm a school nurse and in my area the police are running study days for schools and associated health professionals to raise awareness of forced/arranged marriages as well as cultural and 'honour' violence. (sorry not 100% sure of all the correct terminology as not at work now).

Unfortunately a parent has the right to remove a child from the school, and if they give a spurious reason all the school can really do if they suspect forced/arranged marriage or 'honour' violence is inform Children's Services and the police. The same as a school's safeguarding policy really.

frakkinpannikinAGRIPPA · 31/08/2009 19:22

I would expect a school to follow the Child protection policy it has in place if a teacher has concerns. However, sadly, if a child has been removed from the school there is probably not very much any policy will be able to do.

TheDMshouldbeRivened · 31/08/2009 19:22

someone with an axe to grind mayhap?

foxytocin · 31/08/2009 19:20

JoeyF it would be nice to say who you are and why you are asking beforehand. 3 threads in one hour in different education boards - 2 on race etc and 1 on sex (ed?) for 8 yr olds?

what is your agenda. if you are in the meedja, then cough up the £30 to MN for asking.

TheDMshouldbeRivened · 31/08/2009 19:20

Given schools rarely even tackle bullying I doubt any of a policy on this to be honest. And social services is way overstretched. I'd gladly pay more taxes to see money going into children's services myself.

TheDMshouldbeRivened · 31/08/2009 19:19

I'm wondering why 'right to date' is being lumped in with rape and FGM etc?
And maybe you need to divorce culture from Islam?

thisisyesterday · 31/08/2009 19:18

i doubt anyone does, as inflamitity isn't a word.

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JoeyF · 31/08/2009 19:16

If anyone finds this inflamitity have a good look at yourself.

Which is worse? opening up an issue like this to try and prevent harm done to girls

Or wanting it hushed up and brushed under the carpet and censored so girls cn be effectively subjected to continual rape with nobody to stop it and how wouldyou feel if the victem was your daughter.? and not simply a girl whos skin pigment is different to your own.

Likewise why support a culture/tradtion/religion that victimises anyone?

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thisisyesterday · 31/08/2009 19:16

sorry but i have no idea what on earth this has to do with the school.

if a parent takes their child out of school then the school can't do anything surely?

i am not condoning any of the things in your post but i really fail to see how any of them are a school's problem. or what they could do about it