YEAR 8 YEAR 8 YEAR 8 !!

Things must be going well for all your dcs if no-one has posted for a while!

DD came home yesterday to say her trainers were not in her bag when she got it out of her locker for PE. Of course she can't remember if she definitely put them in it the week before . Apparently there is a box at the gym where they put stuff they find lying around int he changing room but they weren't there....

I am pretty annoyed as usually I get the dcs cheap trainers for school but these were more expensive and new at the end of the summer term. I have just retrieved her old ones from the shed - they are falling apart but I am not going to be in a hurry replacing them!

Suspect that we will be the bottom of the heap in the authority ranking LGP

Grr - DD is trying to do her philosophy homework (title: someone in authority that I admire) while watching Scrubs (plenty of excellent role models there ). She claims not to admire anyone in authority. Wot, not even me?

I'm still checking DS's bag for him and will probably be doing so when he's 16 if he doesn't start to get a bit more "with it". I blame the huge growth spurt he's just had and the fact that his mind is always elsewhere thinking about something more interesting. I caught him leaving the house wearing trainers yesterday instead of school shoes oblivious to the fact that he had put them on by mistake. I pity his teachers.

I'm a lot more chilled now. ds1 sorts his bag out each evening for the next day, and I don't double check it for him (as I used to much of last year). I do check in his planner most days to check he's keeping on top of his homework, and I flick through his exercise books to check his teachers are keeping on top of their marking!

But generally he's pretty organised and is good at sorting himself out now. I can't believe it really, as 13 months ago I was convinced he'd be utterly hopeless.

uh,I nearly forgot the milk for cookery today -my fault though for not telling ds to check everything was taken from the fridge and put in his bag..am now thinking that it'll sit all day in warm place until DT which is at the end of the day -and then it'll moulder through choir after school !
I say things like 'keep it upright,in the carrier bag,not your school bag' several times in the mornings (following the fruit salad incident last year) I do try so hard to just let him do the thinking/remembering but am too much of a control freak..I resolve to try harder.
LGP - they can be so stubborn - ds would do that too.
Excellent news about website money Salsavita

Welcome,Sheryl! It's a tricky one, how much help to give isn't it. DD "remembered" at 8pm last night that she had art homework due in today. Homework she was given two weeks ago. She then spent an hour doing a really straightforward piece of work that could have been done in 15 minutes, because she 'didn't understand what she had to do" (choose a painting and find out some facts about it). Only after about half an hour did she finally give in and allow me to give her the references books that I had offered her at the beginning which contained all the info she needed. Meanwhile, DD2 was having the hump because I was supposed to be reading to her.

Welcome sherylc

I think (secretly) DH thinks I pander to DS1 (and DS2), always reminding them what they need for school etc, asking them as they go out of the door if they have lunch, lunch money, bus pass.

Three mornings a week DH sees them out to school and I really panic, because he does not remind them about anything.

DS1 is quite lazy about homework, he needs to be pushed to do it. I felt sorry for him last night as a friend called for him and I said he could not go out because he had to finish his homework.

Well, he has been paid for doing the school website. Should have been £100 each and they actually got £150 each as they were asked to do a tinsy bit extra. He is made up and is now frantically saving a bit more to buy himself an I-Pod Touch. He does have an I-Pod but wants the latest one like DH has that came out last week. Tbh, DH and I really did not expect this money to materialise...

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Lucky you!! Mine's is tomorrow and he still doesn't know which "oil" he needs!!!! He's guessed vegetable oil (for choc muffins!!) so thats what I'll send

hi sherylc ! you are quite right - I do think that they should be taking responsibility for themselves - I just can't bear things not to be done/or done properly !! arghh ! though today ds has organised his food tech stuff pretty well.

Hiya - I'm new to mumsnet and have just been browsing the topics. My DS (one and only) is in year 8 and I'm wondering if I'm being a totally bad mother for trying to make him stand on his own 2 feet by not giving lots of homework help (he is very lazy) and, if he doesn't tell me things like his ingredients for food tech etc, he goes into school and faces the consequences!!! I love him beyond belief, but I do think that at almost 13 he needs to start taking some responsibility!!

am so looking forward to this evening !

MAS - you always manage to have fantastic name changes

I heart Strictly.

ta daa !

• phew!

Hey, in my new secondary school where I work, we have parents dropping ingredients off the period before the kids need them.... they complain the kids didn't tell them till wait for it...... 9.00pm the night before! So LGP you were spot on there. I even had one parent ring up (for a Yr7), bearing in mind this was only the second week the kids had been at school and said that he didn't want his child getting into trouble, but the parent had forgotten to buy the ingredients so his son couldn't do the cookery lesson...

Jeez, MAS, he doesn't need to tell you the list of ingredients until 9pm the night before the lesson. Didn't you know that's the law?

Poor DS. Glad he's cheered up.
DD has been a bit up and down this week too.

Glad it's all sorted out