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Can I have a quick survey: Are your secondary-age dc expected to attend parents' evening with you?

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frogs · 11/03/2009 21:51

Cos at dd1's school it's strictly parents only. Now I can see that there are some advantages to this, that both sides can say things they might not want to say if the child was present.

But conversely, it would be quite helpful for the child to hear some things straight from the teacher's mouth, rather than relayed through the parent -- somehow has less impact that way.

I'd just be interested to see what other schools do -- I'm assuming the vast majority of secondary schools include the dc.

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lilolilmanchester · 11/03/2009 22:18

State grammar; hall & dining room here

brimfull · 11/03/2009 22:15

big comp
they use hall and classes

scienceteacher · 11/03/2009 22:15

Yes, from Y7 onwards. There is an increasing expectation as they get older, and certainly 100% from the second half of Y10.

We find that about half of our Y7 and Y8 will tag along, which increases from there on.

Tinker · 11/03/2009 22:14

Comp and they use hall and classrooms

NotAnOtter · 11/03/2009 22:14

dc's are old style grammars

both want the children there

dp and I do not want them there!

Tinker · 11/03/2009 22:14

I would have liked my eldest to hear what the teacher said (some of it was good ) but I don't think the teacher would have expressed it in the same way if she had been there so, um, don't know what I think.

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frogs · 11/03/2009 22:14

ggirl -- you have to find the classrooms? Ours they do it all in the hall. But it is 3-form entry only, so relatively small i guess.

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brimfull · 11/03/2009 22:13

comp

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frogs · 11/03/2009 22:13

Ah, so there is a mix. Could I ask also what kind of schools we're talking about to see if that makes a difference?

Dd1's school is a fairly old-fashioned grammar school and meetings are strictly parents=only (tho' I wonder if that changes at KS4 and 6th form).

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NotAnOtter · 11/03/2009 22:12

yes

BUT we never take them and our teacher friends do not either

today ds's teacher said he preferred it when under 16's do not attend

my friend said to me ' they just dont dish the dirt the same when the child is there'

brimfull · 11/03/2009 22:12

dc included here
I wouldn't beable to find the right classrooms otherwise

def helps as teacher often speaks directly to dd ,especially i the older yrs

2shoes · 11/03/2009 22:11

yes ds used to come

Tinker · 11/03/2009 22:10

Yes, they want them to at mine. But my eldest didn't come as too embarrassed by me (she said)

elvislives · 11/03/2009 22:10

Yes ours are expected to go. Helps when you don't recognise the teachers

lilolilmanchester · 11/03/2009 22:10

strictly parents only at ours.

itchyandscratchy · 11/03/2009 22:08

It's not expected at our school but it's not frowned upon either. The kids usually find it mortifying though, unless they are saints, and try to avoid it if at all possible

Docbunches · 11/03/2009 22:06

Yes, my DCs' secondary school expects children to attend with parents, although it's not compulsory.

I can see both sides but, on balance, I think it's better if DCs do attend.