pfb -in fact only child - off to secondary on Thursday...

Tomorrow, DH and I are having to go see another boys parents .

He is an old primary school child.

He will not leave DS alone, although they were friends in the summer holidays, they slept over, I have fed him on lots of occasions, but he seems to go from one friendship to another.

Tonight on the school bus was the last straw, he has pulled the hood off DS's coat, torn the collar it was attached to and the buttons have gone awol. A yr10 boy asked him to leave DS alone and he was cheeky to him.

He comes down our street, everyone plays nicely, then he pushes and pushes until DS cracks, DH had to go out last week and say something (DS has got a huge black mark on his back where he was pushed into the privet hedge).

The boy was told off by a teacher just before half term for repeatedly pushing DS over and on the last day of term he constantly banged DS's head on the floor (despite him being unwell), that night he literally collapsed through the front door and was hysterical.

When we say anything to him he is just cheeky back (I have even and I know I shouldn't have done) rang his mobile phone (no courtesy of DS) and said enough was enough and we would see his parents if it did not stop which it hasn't.

My thoughts on this boy (even though I have taken him into my house) have never been favourable - stems from about Yr3 when DS's sweat shirt went missing for a month and he was wearing it. The teacher literally had to go and look at the back of the labels and see who had it. It came back to me filthy with extra's on the sleeve from his nose!

I don't think (based on what I have seen) his parents have got any control over him. They both work full time, Dad works away quite a bit and the boy went to kids club and now a child minders. He says what he wants and he gets! This bit has come from his mum - who is really quite nice.

Wish me look girls!

OrmIrian - at the school I work at teachers tell it like it is. They try and say positive things as well as negative and targets for improvement.

But if things need saying, they say them, especially for yr7 first parents' evening, as for some children that's the only time the parents will come into school for the next 5 yrs

Thanks.

Still feeling a bit shell-shocked. Any secondary teachers out there? Do you tend to sugar-coat the pill for the first parents' evening in yr 7?

I am still having trouble beleiving it's the same child. Honestly. Not complaining obviously. We told DS how pleased we were with him. He just said 'huh, shows I don't need to make an effort' Could have killed him!

Well done Orms DS

Have to wait till around April for ours.

oh that's fab Orm !!

Yes. Just a leetle bit.

I bet you were really pleased Ormirian!

Oh yes. Hooooursssss! We did manage to fit some appointments in early but even so we were there at last knockings. Completely disorganised chaos. But good-natured. Anyway we floated out of that hall

Fantastic OrmIrian
How was the evening for you? Did you have to stay for hours as you feared, or did you manage to sneak in some appointments early?

He is involved, interested, lively in just the right way, sits at the front, speaks up, isn't afraid to speak even to give the wrong answer, is on a level 4 or 3 for everything. His latest science assessment put him on a 5c.

DH and I had to keep pinching ourselves to remind each other this was the same child.

Sorry that was meant to be

{shock]

no,that's Surrey ! I've only ever been to Yorkshire once but really liked it - my friends parents lived there (Gillamoor/Kirbymoorside) - lovely !

In a village about 7 miles from York.

Not sure if I have been to Hampshire or not, we used to live in Berkshire. I did many a trip to the huge Marks and Spencers at Camberley - is that Hampshire?

in Hampshire - where are you ?

Where are you MAS?

no snow here, just cold and wet...but ds did wear his coat,no choice ! the 2 other boys were wearing theirs which helped

Well done magenta's dd

I have DS1 at home today - no school bus!

and I have to take DS2 in at 11.00 - this time was pre-arranged yesterday so it gave all the teachers time to get into work (bloody snow).

excellent news about junior magenta -hooray !

Hurray for young magenta!

I am dying to let you know what they say about DS#1 tomorrow. I predict the words 'bright but unmotivated' may be spoken, or even 'laidback', and certainly 'could do well if he made some effort'. I'd put money on it .

That's great magentadreamer - she was obviously ready for a new change/challenge at high school! Some teachers say some daft things, don't they?
ds1 had a nursery teacher when he was 4 who predicted a bleak school career for him, at that tender age!
She said he would probably be a late reader and would be unable to do phonics ... She hadn't noticed that he was actually reading pretty fluently at that time!

In my evil moments I imagine writing to her to tell her how he's excelled in so many ways in his school career.

Apparently DD is a hardworking, interested motivated child who will comfortably meet her end of year targets I am rather proud and relieved after hearing that this evening at DD's form tutor meeting - she has two tutors one said she was really sweet! I didn't like to ask how much DD had bribed him to say that! I remember all to well her teachers comments last year where it was put that she wasn't motivated and put in as little effort as she could. Her yr6 teacher predicted rather a bleak High School career for her.

OOh apple cake
That sounds scrummy: I love apple cake.

I'm impressed at ds1's school's marketing. They do a big christmas concert which is very popular (perf arts school). Performers' families get first priority and tickets sell out very fast.

The concert is at 7.30 and you sit round tables and eat mince pies and so on.
But you can only book your table number at the Christmas Fayre which is 6.45-7.30

And under the slip to order your tickets there is also a slip to inform them if/what you'll be providing a prize for the raffle/tombola/bottle stall!

I think it's a canny way of optimising fundraising opportunities. Hats off to them.

christMAS - thought I had better use some of my italian heritage!

Ds's coat is absolutely filthy from yesterday when he decided to do snowball fights before actually telling me he was off the bus and in the street.

I was beginning to worry because it was 4.20 and rather dark - but no, he did not bother about that - just his own needs as per usual.

hope apple cake is nice an in one piece btw