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London Oratory complete mobile phone ban even on long commutes

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Goldie1990 · 01/10/2026 13:40

Interested to hear from any current parents - how can there not be an outcry about this? With an intentionally pan-London intake where many commutes easily exceed an hour, it's the last school that should have this policy. Yet it's one of only a tiny number I can find that doesn't even permit brick phones - and it's deliberately extended to the entire school journey, making it an offense to have so much as a Nokia on hand during a transport emergency.

The head's rationale at the open evening was that there is far more danger on a smartphone these days than there is for an 11-year old crossing London by themselves. While that argument may be debatable, it breaks down completely when applied to brick phones. New guidance from DfE even recommends schools with large commuter populations to consider workarounds like handing in brick phones/keeping them switched off in their bag throughout the day. Even trackers with SOS call buttons are banned - all you're allowed is a basic tracker to see where they are (but with no means of contacting them).

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Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 14:26

Araminta1004 · 13/10/2026 14:22

“This is a massive and dangerous assumption. Schools have defended before and will do so again.”

Actually @Piglet89 - if you read what @ParentOfOne says, there are a fair few parents around that would welcome more guidance in the form of common law on practices in some schools these days. Because if you read the entire Michaela case, it is pretty clear that Barbalsingh’s practices are OK within the context of her very specific ethos that is supported further by lots of teacher attention, meal times together, community grouping, debates/poems/and a whole world view to support that to make sense.
Yet, a lot of schools have run with her practices without the community support aspect and the overall explanation behind it. That is when it can become authoritarian, arbitrary and harmful.

[Above nothing to do with LOS, which I believe does have a very distinct ethos backed up by expertise and history etc]

I don’t know where your kind of know-all “actually” comes from, @Araminta1004as nothing you’ve said contradicts or addresses what I’ve said.

It would take the school to defend for the challenge to reach a hearing in order for a judge to decide the point and therefore provide the “common law guidance” you’re talking about.

Are you a qualified lawyer with experience in public law, or just a motivated amateur? I’m the former, you see.

Araminta1004 · 13/10/2026 14:22

“This is a massive and dangerous assumption. Schools have defended before and will do so again.”

Actually @Piglet89 - if you read what @ParentOfOne says, there are a fair few parents around that would welcome more guidance in the form of common law on practices in some schools these days. Because if you read the entire Michaela case, it is pretty clear that Barbalsingh’s practices are OK within the context of her very specific ethos that is supported further by lots of teacher attention, meal times together, community grouping, debates/poems/and a whole world view to support that to make sense.
Yet, a lot of schools have run with her practices without the community support aspect and the overall explanation behind it. That is when it can become authoritarian, arbitrary and harmful.

[Above nothing to do with LOS, which I believe does have a very distinct ethos backed up by expertise and history etc]

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 14:03

KilkennyCats · 13/10/2026 11:20

You’ve got no option but to love it or leave it 🤷🏻‍♀️
You may not even be offered a place at this vastly over subscribed school, there are clearly a lot of people who have zero issue with their policies who will hopefully be allocated a place ahead of people like you.

Hopefully? That’s a bit harsh isn’t it. :-)

Also, not to be pedantic it’s not vastly oversubscribed. It’s moderately oversubscribed.

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Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 13:57

But no school would want to….

This is a massive and dangerous assumption. Schools have defended before and will do so again.

Araminta1004 · 13/10/2026 13:28

I think the conclusion is the DFE should add a few more case studies to their website to illustrate differing acceptable practices, if this kind of practice is becoming wider. Because when you “ban” something in a way, you need to think about it from all sorts of angles and also describe any bans that may or may not be overkill and why.

I think not allowing a tracker that contacts the parent in an emergency because (anecdotal according to the OP it went off once in a classroom) is a big overkill by the LOS and its Achilles heel. They could still issue a detention/confiscation if some kids decided to do it for fun.

Araminta1004 · 13/10/2026 13:22

“Ultimately, the question is whether the measure in question is proportionate. That is for the court to decide. In arriving at an answer to that question, however, the court will make allowance for the breadth of the decision making power conferred on the decision maker by Parliament and it will give appropriate weight to the relative expertise of the decision maker where they have made a judgment on an issue which is within their sphere of expertise, even if that judgment is made after the event. However, I agree with Ms Hannett to this extent: all other things being equal the better the quality of the decision making process, and the greater the relative level of expertise of the decision maker, the greater the weight which their judgment is likely to be given by the court, and vice versa.”

See 168. https://www.judiciary.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Judgement-R-v-Michaela-Community-Schools-Trust.pdf

It seems to me the overall ethos of the school in that case did carry very significant weight, prior knowledge was relevant via open days etc.

Also note very brief mention of “contraband” - anything the school did not specifically permit! So it is quite wide. As is the discretion of the head teacher decision, as conferred by Parliament, provided it is based on expertise and proportionate.
There is brief mention in the Michaela case of confiscating mobile phones until half term.

But no school would want to go to court surely and have their discipline and ethos aired in this much detail, for all to see and discuss. I would have thought most schools if they possibly can would reach an agreement with a parent.

Also note the reference to “resilience” and the Invictus poem, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul”...
The LOS would probably run pretty much very similar arguments.

starsinthemaking · 13/10/2026 13:13

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 11:00

See my post on page 9 regarding the Ergo Decedo / "Love it or leave it" fallacy). Also, the school is not private - that’s part of the issue.

It takes a certain level of self centredness to expect an organisation or employer to change because you disagree with its direction. Sometimes, it really is a case of take it or leave it. I had to let someone go a couple of months ago, and they told me they didn’t like the direction the company was heading in. I thought to myself, well, didn’t we already know, you may now go.
There are plenty of schools out there. If this school isn’t right for you or your family, find one that is.

C8H10N4O2 · 13/10/2026 12:50

RoobarbsCustard · 01/10/2026 18:23

How did kids manage before smartphones? They did.

Really? Oh come on, we had public phone boxes. We don’t have those now. I had to use them often when I was a child catching the train or a bus, and there was an issue. It was probably at least a weekly occurrence. You know the other time I used it? When I was harassed by a man at a train station.

Someone always pops up with "public phone boxes".

I remember public phone boxes - or rather the lack of them on school routes and those which did exist were usually vandalised. I don't ever remember a functioning phone box on my route.

What I do remember is learning multiple routes to school and proactively being taught strategies to deal with strangers, harassment and traffic problems. Astonishingly we all made it through seven years of school without being kidnapped, run over or getting lost. We were are lot more independent than children tracked and monitored to within an inch of their lives.

Phones do not come with only the upsides - the downsides are multiple and loss of confident independence without a phone is a big downside.

KilkennyCats · 13/10/2026 12:11

Any school can include conduct whilst wearing school uniform part of it’s behavioural policy.

Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 12:05

In terms of possible challenge: the question isn’t whether whether LOS may ban phones on school premises. It almost certainly can. The more nuanced point is whether disciplining a pupil merely for possessing a phone during an off-site journey is a proportionate extension of the school's behavioural jurisdiction.

Curious to see the exact wording of the school's "Journeys Policy" and behaviour policy, because the strength of any challenge may turn on how the school defines misconduct during travel rather than on the phone issue itself.

Twistingoliver · 13/10/2026 12:01

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 10:38

You can disable texts on dumb phones. They also aren’t allowed trackers with SOS buttons that allow calls to parents only in emergencies because apparently one went off in a classroom once. It’s not about banning distractions - it’s about banning all possible means of communication even in emergencies. I call that grossly disproportionate to what the school is trying to achieve.

It is grossly disproportionate.

Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 11:51

I mean, @Goldie1990while you’re busy philosophising (and @Araminta1004is busy trying to Jonathan Sumption their asses) LOS will just carry on with a pretty defensible policy.

It’s all just pie in the sky, really.

KilkennyCats · 13/10/2026 11:20

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 11:00

See my post on page 9 regarding the Ergo Decedo / "Love it or leave it" fallacy). Also, the school is not private - that’s part of the issue.

You’ve got no option but to love it or leave it 🤷🏻‍♀️
You may not even be offered a place at this vastly over subscribed school, there are clearly a lot of people who have zero issue with their policies who will hopefully be allocated a place ahead of people like you.

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 11:00

starsinthemaking · 13/10/2026 10:52

Don't send your dc then. Why are you in a rage about their policy when your dc isn't even a pupil there? It's got nothing to do with you. You are the wrong kind of family for this particular private education provider, better to find out before paying deposit for your dc. Other schools in London will suit your specific preferences.

See my post on page 9 regarding the Ergo Decedo / "Love it or leave it" fallacy). Also, the school is not private - that’s part of the issue.

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starsinthemaking · 13/10/2026 10:52

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 10:38

You can disable texts on dumb phones. They also aren’t allowed trackers with SOS buttons that allow calls to parents only in emergencies because apparently one went off in a classroom once. It’s not about banning distractions - it’s about banning all possible means of communication even in emergencies. I call that grossly disproportionate to what the school is trying to achieve.

Don't send your dc then. Why are you in a rage about their policy when your dc isn't even a pupil there? It's got nothing to do with you. You are the wrong kind of family for this particular private education provider, better to find out before paying deposit for your dc. Other schools in London will suit your specific preferences.

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 10:38

Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 10:16

@Goldie1990presumably one can still text on a dumb phone, though? It’s still a distracting device that stops them interacting with the world around them.

The reality is, kids don’t really need either smart phones or dumb phones.

You can disable texts on dumb phones. They also aren’t allowed trackers with SOS buttons that allow calls to parents only in emergencies because apparently one went off in a classroom once. It’s not about banning distractions - it’s about banning all possible means of communication even in emergencies. I call that grossly disproportionate to what the school is trying to achieve.

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Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 10:16

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 09:38

Yes, that’s his argument for banning smartphones - a view shared by many other schools (and one I agree with too I might add). None of that justifies banning brick phones (which, sensibly, almost no other school does). It’s like banning children from carrying water bottles because energy drinks are unhealthy.

The two products serve fundamentally different purposes and have substantially different risk profiles, despite belonging to the same broad category.

@Goldie1990presumably one can still text on a dumb phone, though? It’s still a distracting device that stops them interacting with the world around them.

The reality is, kids don’t really need either smart phones or dumb phones.

ParentOfOne · 13/10/2026 10:05

@Goldie1990 First you talked about Catholic families wanting to send their kids to the Oratory. Are you now admitting that there aren't clear, faith-specific reasons to do so?
It is unclear to me if you agree with me or not that the only thing you'd get out of a faith school is being surrounded by a few more religious symbols and maybe praying a couple of times a day.

@Araminta1004 Schools are not allowed to do just do as they want. Just to make that clear.

In practice they are. Have you ever looked at the complaints policy of a secondary school? Not even the department of education can overturn a school's decision. Only a judge can

I very much doubt that a judge would ever find that Ashcroft's ban on bicycles is reasonable and proportional.

Or take Mossbourne. Do you remember my two huge threads on Mossbourne here? Hundreds of former students have come forward. An investigation confirmed the practice of shouting at children and isolating them in corridors. And what has changed? Nothing. The school has basically said: "Our way or the highway, we ain't gonna change a thing, suck it up and f# off"

So, please, do tell me again how schools are not allowed to do just as they want

Araminta1004 · 13/10/2026 09:58

School policies have to be reasonable, proportional and in line with common law principles and any applicable statutes (eg disability discrimination). Further, where the DFE has specifically issued guidance it is reasonable to expect school policies to have considered the guidance and be operated within the spirit of that guidance.

Any parent could go through the internal processes first and then refer the matter to the DFE for consideration.

Schools are not allowed to do just do as they want. Just to make that clear.

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 09:54

ParentOfOne · 13/10/2026 09:32

@Goldie1990 Yes, sure, you have every right to criticise the policy, but, also, be practical. Reading between the lines, I almost get the impression you are outraged that not everyone agrees with you.

Again:

  • You will NOT be able to change this policy
  • You MIGHT (maybe yes, maybe not) be able to get a SEN exemption if you manage to prove your boy needs it. If this is important for you, start contacting the school and doing the legwork now, otherwise you risk being in a situation where you boy gets a place but no exemption/adjustment is granted
  • accept that this policy is not as batshit crazy as those of Mossbourne or Ashcroft, and that reasonable people can reasonably disagree with you on the merits of the policy
  • accept that some people are rude and come back with aggressive / nonsensical replies (like saying the school won't care, which, I agree, doesn't per se mean the policy is right). Ignore them.

We may well be in the privileged position of having strong alternatives, but for Catholic families across London living in areas where there isn’t one

I have always found this line of thinking puzzling. What many people truly mean, without admitting it explicitly, is that they really want a more socially selective school where people of the "wrong" socioeconomic background or skin colour are less likely to be admitted. The Sutton trust and plenty of other research have repeatedly confirmed that state-funded faith schools tend to be more socially selective.

Again, remember that the Oratory used to consider financial donations to the Church in its admission criteria, and that it took a fierce legal battle, which the school fought tooth and nail but ultimately lost, to have that declared illegal! If we want to talk about values and ethos of the school, let's talk about that!!!

What I truly, genuinely, sincerely fail to understand is: what, exactly, do you think a child gets in a faith school that they wouldn't get in a non-faith one?

The Supreme Court with its ruling on religious indoctrination in Northern Ireland clarified that schools cannot teach one religion as the truth but must teach multiple religions and worldviews.

So, what, exactly, do you get that's so unique?

Christian values? Such as? Do you think Christian schools teach kids to be nice...while non-faith schools teach them to be evil? I don't get it

Being surrounded by more religious symbols and maybe a few short prayers once-twice a day? That's it? That's all?

@ParentOfOne “What many people truly mean, without admitting it explicitly, is that they really want a more socially selective school where people of the "wrong" socioeconomic background or skin colour are less likely to be admitted.”

I agree quite a few people probably do mean something along those lines. That’s definitely not what I mean though - schools objectively vary in their effectiveness and added value. A comp on the edge of London with a negative Progress 8 score, a Requires Improvement Ofsted rating and widespread reports of bullying is going to concern a lot of parents without the means to move to Fulham. So they send their DS to the Oratory, not necessarily for any faith-related reason, but because it’s the only school without those problems that will take them. I feel that LOS may, perhaps unconsciously, be taking advantage of the fact that many parents have few realistic alternatives.

A parent whose DS qualifies for a good school should be able to send him there without having to worry about not being able to get in contact with him on a long journey. A family living in Fulham might have a relatively short journey to school, whereas a less affluent family travelling from outer London may have a much longer and more complicated commute. A blanket ban on basic phones therefore potentially places a disproportionate burden on the latter. A policy ostensibly designed to protect children may itself disadvantage less affluent families who cannot afford to live near the school.

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Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 09:38

Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 09:26

@Goldie1990 ok. And I understand logical fallacies in philosophical debate. I’m have never suggested you have less of a right than current parents to question the policy - I’m just suggesting there are definitely more productive uses of your time because the Oratory won’t change to suit your views, current parents are clearly happy enough and that’s why there’s no outcry.

I mean, I travelled to and from secondary school in the middle of Troubles-ridden west Belfast with no mobile phone and I’m still here.

As I understand it - the policy is about creating a completely phone-free culture and removing what the school sees as the biggest threats to adolescent development: distraction, addiction, social media pressure, and constant digital connectivity.
From reports of London Oratory open evenings, the Head's argument has been that modern smartphones pose a greater risk to children than travelling across London independently. According to parents who attended, the school explicitly extends this logic beyond the school gates and into the journey to and from school.

The current parent body clearly agrees with the Head and I agree too, so I’d be happy to send my kid there (if we didn’t live so far away - but that’s a consideration of practicality, it’s not to do with the phones bit).

If you are not; don’t. But I’d suggest starting a Mumsnet thread wringing your hands about it is a colossal waste of time.

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Yes, that’s his argument for banning smartphones - a view shared by many other schools (and one I agree with too I might add). None of that justifies banning brick phones (which, sensibly, almost no other school does). It’s like banning children from carrying water bottles because energy drinks are unhealthy.

The two products serve fundamentally different purposes and have substantially different risk profiles, despite belonging to the same broad category.

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ParentOfOne · 13/10/2026 09:32

@Goldie1990 Yes, sure, you have every right to criticise the policy, but, also, be practical. Reading between the lines, I almost get the impression you are outraged that not everyone agrees with you.

Again:

  • You will NOT be able to change this policy
  • You MIGHT (maybe yes, maybe not) be able to get a SEN exemption if you manage to prove your boy needs it. If this is important for you, start contacting the school and doing the legwork now, otherwise you risk being in a situation where you boy gets a place but no exemption/adjustment is granted
  • accept that this policy is not as batshit crazy as those of Mossbourne or Ashcroft, and that reasonable people can reasonably disagree with you on the merits of the policy
  • accept that some people are rude and come back with aggressive / nonsensical replies (like saying the school won't care, which, I agree, doesn't per se mean the policy is right). Ignore them.

We may well be in the privileged position of having strong alternatives, but for Catholic families across London living in areas where there isn’t one

I have always found this line of thinking puzzling. What many people truly mean, without admitting it explicitly, is that they really want a more socially selective school where people of the "wrong" socioeconomic background or skin colour are less likely to be admitted. The Sutton trust and plenty of other research have repeatedly confirmed that state-funded faith schools tend to be more socially selective.

Again, remember that the Oratory used to consider financial donations to the Church in its admission criteria, and that it took a fierce legal battle, which the school fought tooth and nail but ultimately lost, to have that declared illegal! If we want to talk about values and ethos of the school, let's talk about that!!!

What I truly, genuinely, sincerely fail to understand is: what, exactly, do you think a child gets in a faith school that they wouldn't get in a non-faith one?

The Supreme Court with its ruling on religious indoctrination in Northern Ireland clarified that schools cannot teach one religion as the truth but must teach multiple religions and worldviews.

So, what, exactly, do you get that's so unique?

Christian values? Such as? Do you think Christian schools teach kids to be nice...while non-faith schools teach them to be evil? I don't get it

Being surrounded by more religious symbols and maybe a few short prayers once-twice a day? That's it? That's all?

Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 09:26

@Goldie1990 ok. And I understand logical fallacies in philosophical debate. I’m have never suggested you have less of a right than current parents to question the policy - I’m just suggesting there are definitely more productive uses of your time because the Oratory won’t change to suit your views, current parents are clearly happy enough and that’s why there’s no outcry.

I mean, I travelled to and from secondary school in the middle of Troubles-ridden west Belfast with no mobile phone and I’m still here.

As I understand it - the policy is about creating a completely phone-free culture and removing what the school sees as the biggest threats to adolescent development: distraction, addiction, social media pressure, and constant digital connectivity.
From reports of London Oratory open evenings, the Head's argument has been that modern smartphones pose a greater risk to children than travelling across London independently. According to parents who attended, the school explicitly extends this logic beyond the school gates and into the journey to and from school.

The current parent body clearly agrees with the Head and I agree too, so I’d be happy to send my kid there (if we didn’t live so far away - but that’s a consideration of practicality, it’s not to do with the phones bit).

If you are not; don’t. But I’d suggest starting a Mumsnet thread wringing your hands about it is a colossal waste of time.

Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 09:22

ParentOfOne · 13/10/2026 08:54

@Goldie1990 Thank you for recognising that I did not engage in any of those fallacies nor attacks.

I was simply trying to be practical.

FWIW, I view that as a policy which some people may reasonably agree with, while others may reasonably disagree with.

Considering that, in our system, schools are so unaccountable that a #@@@##!! like Mossbourne can continue to harass and emotionally abuse children with total impunity, the odds of you ever changing the Oratory's phone policy seem zero.

If you want to make it a SEN issue, and request a reasonable adjustment to the policy, it's a different matter. I suspect the odds of success there won't be huge, because it's likely to be a hugely subjective issue with no consensus among experts, but good luck.

However, I remain surprised that you seem to want to focus on this specific issue. Like I said, The Oratory is a very marmite school; there are plenty of reasons to love it or hate it. I wouldn't have thought this was a priority, but of course these things are subjective.

As others have pointed out, it remains unclear if you are truly considering the school, if you wanted a discussion about the phone ban in general, if you don't want to send your boy there but still want to have the policy changed because you find it outrageous, or what.

May I ask how you feel about the rest of the school's policies and ethos? Is this one of the many things that don't convince you? Or is the school perfect for you, other than for the phone policy.

Still considering it as a possible low-down CAF option depending on how other schools go (it’s also one of the only schools in the country that makes you put them on the original CAF if you want a place; you cannot just join the waiting list after national offer day).

We may well be in the privileged position of having strong alternatives, but for Catholic families across London living in areas where there isn’t one, I do find it unfair that they may feel they have no choice but to endure this policy if they want a good school.

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Goldie1990 · 13/10/2026 09:13

Piglet89 · 13/10/2026 06:19

So OP were you looking at this question purely from a “I fancy a moral debate about the LOS’s phone policy” angle, or had you actually been considering the school for your child?

I said at the very start I was considering it as a CAF option for my DS and I think it mentioned somewhere I’d just been to their open evening. That gives me as much right to question the policy as a current parent at the school. In fact, even if I were just a concerned member of the public with absolutely nothing to do with the school and nothing better to do that start 8 page Mumsnet threads complaining about it, I’d still have as much of a right to do so as current parents.

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