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Pregnant teacher struggling with Year 9 behaviour: how should I handle Monday?

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Heellllooo · 16/05/2026 12:03

Hello, I’m 13 weeks pregnant and work
in very challenging secondary school in Northern England. I have a year 9 class that have been horrendous all year and I have reported something every single lesson, had conversations with head of year and removed several students. There is one particular student who consistently disrupts my lessons and is incredibly rude, across the school she often has her sanctions removed and has not been suspended for behaviour that other students have been e.g swearing and walking out of lesson. This week I was very tired, stressed from other things at home and obviously pregnant. That girl in particular was being her usual self. I was trying to remove her and she was refusing. I said “get out of room now”, turned away and I had started crying. Another student said “miss is crying.”
I walked out found the on call teacher and was sent home. I have asked for something to be arranged for that girl going forward and am due back in school Monday. Advice - do I acknowledge this with students? Do I tell them I’m pregnant? Do I get signed off for stress? Thank you for any advice.

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menopausalmare · 16/05/2026 12:25

If the behaviour of that class is so bad, your CAM needs to look at shifting a couple of students between classes on year 9. If you have a nice top set, a poorly behaved student can be moved in so there is no-one one to bounce off. That can help settle them down.

Heellllooo · 16/05/2026 12:23

24Dogcuddler · 16/05/2026 12:16

Can you ignore some lower level behaviours? Typed previous post without reading yours.

Have tried this and she just escalates quicker. I really don’t understand her. In some lessons she is great. I feel like she hates me but HOY says she doesn’t and is quite vocal about who she hates. Throughout the year she has stayed in two lessons for the full hour. She does have ADHD but she is also very rude. Eg when I try and help her “don’t stand near me or try to talk to me, I don’t like you”

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Heellllooo · 16/05/2026 12:21

Thank you that makes sense. I would like it in my risk assessment that she causes me repeated stress and anxiety so other arrangements should be made and have brought this up with the head, HR and head of year. Union rep said I can’t exactly refuse to teach a student, but I feel I have so much evidence of issues every week that it could be enough?

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Heellllooo · 16/05/2026 12:18

They do want to be sent out yes, but cause absolute havoc beforehand and often argue about being sent out. The two worst pupils, you are supposed to be call for support but it never arrives. In the meantime they become much worse. I have spoken to SLT about them but in terms of support it has just been “follow behaviour policy” and left to cope.

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Tellmetomorrow57 · 16/05/2026 12:17

In my experience kids won't bring it up. Do you think you can be calm and manage the situation well? If they do mention it, thank them (most kids will be genuine) and say you're ok now. No need to give further details, it's more reassurance.

I'd make sure you aren't teaching the girl who caused you the problem.

Log all of this in your risk assessment, keep a log of it yourself and speak to your union if needs be.

24Dogcuddler · 16/05/2026 12:16

Can you ignore some lower level behaviours? Typed previous post without reading yours.

24Dogcuddler · 16/05/2026 12:15

Should have said sorry that if this group have been challenging all year, have you had support or advice with behaviour management? From the SENCO or SLT?
Does the pupil have a behaviour management plan? Some may be deliberately trying to be sent out of class. Good luck.

Heellllooo · 16/05/2026 12:13

Thank you, I have done all of that. I’m more wondering in the classroom what’s best, acknowledge what happened or just carry on? I know some students will ask if I’m ok etc.

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24Dogcuddler · 16/05/2026 12:10

You can ask SLT for a risk assessment. I’d also ask if they have a policy on pregnancy in the workplace. May form part of the Health and Safety Policy.
Ask your union rep for help and support if needed. Other unions will have similar info but this is from the NEU.
You absolutely shouldn’t need to be sharing personal information with students.

https://neu.org.uk/advice/your-rights-work/family-rights/maternity-rights/being-pregnant-work

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