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School suspension - reasonable or not?

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EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 11:46

I need a balanced opinion on a suspension - can't decide if I am being unreasonable or school is!
Teenage boys prior to school accidentally spill hair gel on a ramp. Try to wipe it with feet but as they do realise it is slippy, which they find hilarious so put some more on top so they can slide on it (but not a lot, it was only a 100ml tube to start with and still more than half full!).
Shortly prior to lessons, other pupils arrive and also slide on it but grab the rail and none fall over. They find this amusing too.
They leave and go to lessons, firmly in the belief that it would dry very quickly.
Fastforward and it didn't dry. At all. Not one bit. A number of other pupils slipped on it and a few hours later a teacher, who was also carrying books and a coffee so couldn't grab the rail, went flying. To the point they apparently needed to go to hospital, I don't doubt they did go to hospital but my suspicious brain wonders if they wanted a few hours out of work etc (maybe unfair of me!). No serious injury, some bruising to knee but apparently needs a few days off to 'recover'.

All only came to light when the teacher slipped, they watched back CCTV and saw the boys. Immediately suspended for afternoon, with a further one day suspension.

If I'm honest, I feel suspension is a step too far. Yes it was an avoidable accident and yes they deliberately put the gel down.
BUT they never intended anyone to get hurt or slip over, just slide/ skid a little.
The school's main issue seems to be that they didn't tell anyone to get it cleaned it and left it in a dangerous state.
They didn't see it as dangerous - they have only witnessed people slide on it, not fall etc AND they thought it would dry quickly/ go away. I mean tbh, who would not think that hair gel which usually sets rock hard would not dry quickly. And their teenage boys. Who incidentally were immediately remorseful and devastated they had caused injury to someone.

Is suspension for 1.5 days proportionate or are school being unreasonable?

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MagdaLenor · 08/05/2026 12:06

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:00

Also missed the point. It was never their intention for anyone to get injured in the slightest and were mortified that someone did. They thought it would dry as soon as they left. It's quite frankly bizarre that it didn't. There is not one bit of doubt, had they thought it wouldn't have dried or caused injury they would have cleaned it up prior to going to lessons, or told someone so the area could have cleaned.
What is 'punishment' as you call it going to add in this situation? Absolutely zero when they have insight and remorse.

So they have insight and remorse?
I'm assuming you haven't shared your unpleasant accusations about the teacher fancying time off and lying about the extent of the injury?

allmycats · 08/05/2026 12:04

They should have a week suspension and you need to change your attitude.

SparkyBlue · 08/05/2026 12:04

I think it should have been a longer suspension. It could have had very very serious consequences. I know it was just teens being a bit stupid and not necessarily malicious but they need to learn that actions have consequences. My friends son was suspended two years ago for something similarish and she went apeshit with him and totally agreed with the school that he needed to be punished.

ImWearingPantaloons · 08/05/2026 12:04

Totally justified in my opinion

MagdaLenor · 08/05/2026 12:04

Dozycuntlaters · 08/05/2026 12:01

I'm not missing the point at all. The point is your kid deliberately put something on a ramp to make people slip and slide. Any kid with half a brain will know that there is a chance if someone will slip and slide they can also fall over. But I really dont know why you posted anyway because you clearly disagree with anyone who thinks the suspension is warranted. It WAS a stupid thing to do, and whether they realised it or not, someone could have been badly hurt and incurred life changing injuries. That's the harsh reality of it so I'm really not sure what point you think I am missing.

Absolutely this.

McSpoot · 08/05/2026 12:03

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:00

Also missed the point. It was never their intention for anyone to get injured in the slightest and were mortified that someone did. They thought it would dry as soon as they left. It's quite frankly bizarre that it didn't. There is not one bit of doubt, had they thought it wouldn't have dried or caused injury they would have cleaned it up prior to going to lessons, or told someone so the area could have cleaned.
What is 'punishment' as you call it going to add in this situation? Absolutely zero when they have insight and remorse.

You're missing the point. It doesn't matter what their intent was (or, rather, what they now claim it was). Somone was hurt and it was reasonable to think that this was possible. And, they don't appear to have either insight or remorse given the whingeing.

Feelingstressedbutdoingmybest · 08/05/2026 12:03

To the point they apparently needed to go to hospital, I don't doubt they did go to hospital but my suspicious brain wonders if they wanted a few hours out of work etc (maybe unfair of me!). No serious injury, some bruising to knee but apparently needs a few days off to 'recover'.

Why do people hate teachers so much? So nasty to put recover in quotation marks. Lucky it wasn't a pregnant teacher.

TheZTeam · 08/05/2026 12:03

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:00

Also missed the point. It was never their intention for anyone to get injured in the slightest and were mortified that someone did. They thought it would dry as soon as they left. It's quite frankly bizarre that it didn't. There is not one bit of doubt, had they thought it wouldn't have dried or caused injury they would have cleaned it up prior to going to lessons, or told someone so the area could have cleaned.
What is 'punishment' as you call it going to add in this situation? Absolutely zero when they have insight and remorse.

I haven’t missed the point. I never said they intended for someone to get hurt. Or don’t you think injuries from preventable accidents count somehow?

Punishment will make them think twice before they do such stupid shit again.

As to they didn’t think - well, we all know what thought did.

MagdaLenor · 08/05/2026 12:03

ThePaleDreamer · 08/05/2026 11:56

To the point they apparently needed to go to hospital, I don't doubt they did go to hospital but my suspicious brain wonders if they wanted a few hours out of work etc (maybe unfair of me!). No serious injury, some bruising to knee but apparently needs a few days off to 'recover'.

Wow! Where did you do your medical training, as clearly you can diagnose remotely without even seeing the 'patient'

Hmm

Imagine having that outlook, how unpleasant. Assuming nefarious intent on the part of the teacher. Nasty.

Lindy2 · 08/05/2026 12:02

Causing an injury to another pupil or staff member is an immediate suspension at my child's Secondary School.

I think it is a reasonable punishment here.

They knowing left the ramp in a dangerous state and several people were injured as a direct result of what they did.

They had options, they could have reported the spill, they could definitely have not added more gel, they could and should have cleaned it up.

As it was they left it. It didn't dry. They only guessed it might. People got hurt.

I'm sure if your son and his friends were injured by someone else being pretty stupid you'd expect consequences.

Luckily no one ended up very seriously hurt. Someone falling while carrying a hot drink is very dangerous.

Notupforthis · 08/05/2026 12:02

I think that is fair enough, as they added more that is intentional. Ramps are presumably there to support disabled DC, who could have been seriously injured if they slipped.

Yellowpapersun · 08/05/2026 12:02

I assume you're the parent of one of these little horrors. If so, you're one of THOSE parents. The boys are lucky to have such a lenient punishment. They deserve at least a week's suspension. It's disgusting that you question the effect the sheer stupidity had on the teacher who fell and hurt themselves. Maybe these boys will learn that their actions have consequences.

ineededanewnameitsbeentoolong · 08/05/2026 12:02

It was a monumentally stupid and mean thing to do.
He was completely aware others could have been injured, and considered that ok.
1.5 days is actually a very measured response, he got of lightly.

Dozycuntlaters · 08/05/2026 12:01

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 11:56

Missed the point. Perhaps re-read it prior to commenting.

I'm not missing the point at all. The point is your kid deliberately put something on a ramp to make people slip and slide. Any kid with half a brain will know that there is a chance if someone will slip and slide they can also fall over. But I really dont know why you posted anyway because you clearly disagree with anyone who thinks the suspension is warranted. It WAS a stupid thing to do, and whether they realised it or not, someone could have been badly hurt and incurred life changing injuries. That's the harsh reality of it so I'm really not sure what point you think I am missing.

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:00

TheZTeam · 08/05/2026 11:56

It should have been 5 days because someone was injured and they’re lucky that person wasn’t badly hurt.

a day and a half is nothing.

I hope they’re written a letter of apology to the teacher concerned and I hope you’ve punished them at home too and not let them lollybob around on screens and/or gaming whilst suspended.

Edited

Also missed the point. It was never their intention for anyone to get injured in the slightest and were mortified that someone did. They thought it would dry as soon as they left. It's quite frankly bizarre that it didn't. There is not one bit of doubt, had they thought it wouldn't have dried or caused injury they would have cleaned it up prior to going to lessons, or told someone so the area could have cleaned.
What is 'punishment' as you call it going to add in this situation? Absolutely zero when they have insight and remorse.

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Growlybear83 · 08/05/2026 11:59

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 11:53

And your reasoning?

Because it was an extremely serious incident and resulted in someone being injured. The boys are old enough to understand that something like hair gel, which they presumably use on a regular basis to be carrying it around on school premises, won’t dry quickly. Having caused the spillage, and then supposedly tried to wipe it away with their feet, they didn’t do why a responsible person woukd do and get paper towels to wipe it away. Instead they chose to not only ‘find it hilarious’ to see other people slipping on the ramp but to add more gel to the spillage. They then left the ramp knowing that it was extremely dangerous, and didn’t bother to report it. If they had done so, a member of staff wouldn’t have been injured and taken to hospital. I can’t believe thst you seriously think suspension isn’t warranted.

Pastit12 · 08/05/2026 11:59

You’re being really unreasonable OK it was done accidentally in the first instance but then because they see it’s causing others to slip they decided because they think it’s funny they make it worse and now a member of staff has been hurt.
I bet the teacher who was hurt thinks it’s highly unreasonable that the punishment they received was so lenient
You need to get a grip I’m surprised you even bothered to post and ask

ChickenBananaBanana · 08/05/2026 11:59

You are in the wrong op, jesus. What if the teacher landed and broke their neck?!

ohtowinthelottery · 08/05/2026 11:58

They've just learnt a great big lesson in 'actions have consequences'. Not realising it wouldn't eventually dry when they knew people were already sliding around on it is just pure stupidity - which i realise teenage boys are often prone to. If i spill water on the floor, it will eventually dry, but in the meantime someone else could slip in it. So the sensible thing to do is wipe/get it wiped up immediately.

The suspension will focus their minds when engaging in any future 'hi jinx' and is entirely justified as someone got injured.

WhosGotTheKeysToMyBimma · 08/05/2026 11:58

If he did this at home and you slipped and had to go to hospital you'd be fine with it then? It's just a joke?

The lack of respect some parents have for staff in schools is unbelievable sometimes.

McSpoot · 08/05/2026 11:58

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 11:51

Friday morning actually, Why did you read it then and comment?

You do realize that people live in time zones other than yours, don’t you? Just because it was Friday morning for you, doesn’t mean it was for everyone.

Aniccaanicca · 08/05/2026 11:57

Your attitude is appalling. You show no empathy towards the teacher. A child whose parents have such irresponsible attitude will unlikely develop empathy or compassion towards others.

shellyleppard · 08/05/2026 11:57

I'm with the school on this one. It would have been sensible to get it cleaned up rather than add more hair gel and make it worse. Suspension justified

FloralDeerPattern · 08/05/2026 11:57

This sounds fair enough to me. They purposefully made it slippy and someone got hurt. If it was an accidental spillage you might have a point.

TheZTeam · 08/05/2026 11:56

It should have been 5 days because someone was injured and they’re lucky that person wasn’t badly hurt.

a day and a half is nothing.

I hope they’re written a letter of apology to the teacher concerned and I hope you’ve punished them at home too and not let them lollybob around on screens and/or gaming whilst suspended.