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School suspension - reasonable or not?

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EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 11:46

I need a balanced opinion on a suspension - can't decide if I am being unreasonable or school is!
Teenage boys prior to school accidentally spill hair gel on a ramp. Try to wipe it with feet but as they do realise it is slippy, which they find hilarious so put some more on top so they can slide on it (but not a lot, it was only a 100ml tube to start with and still more than half full!).
Shortly prior to lessons, other pupils arrive and also slide on it but grab the rail and none fall over. They find this amusing too.
They leave and go to lessons, firmly in the belief that it would dry very quickly.
Fastforward and it didn't dry. At all. Not one bit. A number of other pupils slipped on it and a few hours later a teacher, who was also carrying books and a coffee so couldn't grab the rail, went flying. To the point they apparently needed to go to hospital, I don't doubt they did go to hospital but my suspicious brain wonders if they wanted a few hours out of work etc (maybe unfair of me!). No serious injury, some bruising to knee but apparently needs a few days off to 'recover'.

All only came to light when the teacher slipped, they watched back CCTV and saw the boys. Immediately suspended for afternoon, with a further one day suspension.

If I'm honest, I feel suspension is a step too far. Yes it was an avoidable accident and yes they deliberately put the gel down.
BUT they never intended anyone to get hurt or slip over, just slide/ skid a little.
The school's main issue seems to be that they didn't tell anyone to get it cleaned it and left it in a dangerous state.
They didn't see it as dangerous - they have only witnessed people slide on it, not fall etc AND they thought it would dry quickly/ go away. I mean tbh, who would not think that hair gel which usually sets rock hard would not dry quickly. And their teenage boys. Who incidentally were immediately remorseful and devastated they had caused injury to someone.

Is suspension for 1.5 days proportionate or are school being unreasonable?

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ReadingSoManyThreads · 08/05/2026 12:19

Suspension was absolutely justified. That teacher could have been seriously injured AND scalded.

TinyTear · 08/05/2026 12:18

Of course the SEN comes up after no one is agreeing with the OP

Tel12 · 08/05/2026 12:16

Well let's hope that they have learnt a valuable lesson in life. Actions have consequences. OP you asked if school the response is reasonable, looks like you've got your answer.

loislovesstewie · 08/05/2026 12:16

Of course it's reasonable. If they knew the surface was slippery and just carried on making it worse, they obviously hoped some poor person would fall. They should be glad that the injury wasn't serious and their suspension was short. Perhaps they could also learn a valuable lesson,and their parents tell them they deserve it.
Edited for typos.

ButterYellowFlowers · 08/05/2026 12:16

So they interfered with a ramp which is used for accessibility for disabled people and made it unsafe? And people were injured. Yes that’s suspension worthy.

All they had to do was report the spillage. If they saw people slide they knew they could fall… they’re teenagers not brain dead. People were injured. What if a wheelchair user had used the ramp and slid and been seriously harmed?

Stop excusing their behaviour. Yes they’re teens and they’re learning - this will teach them how serious it is to make somewhere unsafe for other people and make no effort to remove that risk of harm.

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:16

DreamyScroller · 08/05/2026 12:13

Well OP, looks like you've had your arse handed to you on a plate. 😂

What does that mean?

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yikesss · 08/05/2026 12:16

Impact over intention

MagdaLenor · 08/05/2026 12:15

OneTimeThingToday · 08/05/2026 12:13

Zero awareness a gel substance, that they knew was causing a surface to be slipperry, could cause sonmeone to slip over and hurt themselves?

Yes, and causing a teacher to get injured, although the OP seems to think that teacher is a dishonest malingerer.

Bottleup · 08/05/2026 12:14

What you are describing is reckless behavior which is legally punishable. Someone could have been very badly injured.

MirrorMirror1247 · 08/05/2026 12:14

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:09

zero awareness it could have caused injury

Your son didn't think that slipping on spilled hair gel could cause someone an injury? How old are these boys? Small children know that slipping and falling can mean you get hurt.

The hair gel presumably didn't dry because there was a large amount of it. A smaller amount might have done. I'm totally on the side of the school. The teacher probably has a case for a personal injury claim.

DreamyScroller · 08/05/2026 12:13

Well OP, looks like you've had your arse handed to you on a plate. 😂

OneTimeThingToday · 08/05/2026 12:13

Zero awareness a gel substance, that they knew was causing a surface to be slipperry, could cause sonmeone to slip over and hurt themselves?

ThreeDeafMice · 08/05/2026 12:12

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:09

zero awareness it could have caused injury

And that there is the problem. They either knew or should have known.

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:12

PotolKimchi · 08/05/2026 12:11

But zero awareness that it could cause injury is not a defence: unless they have learning difficulties or are very young for their age, ignorance that their actions could cause harm is not an excuse is it.

They all have varying degrees of SEN

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PotolKimchi · 08/05/2026 12:12

So these are Year 7 boys with SEN who were messing around? Right that's why they were given 1.5 days not a full week off. This is why the school was lenient!

ChickenBananaBanana · 08/05/2026 12:11

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:10

12, most with varying degrees of SEN

Oh that's alright then Shame the teacher didn't snap her neck and die that would have been a real hoot

Frostynoman · 08/05/2026 12:11

I can see where the lack of social responsibility and not taking ownership of their actions comes from

PotolKimchi · 08/05/2026 12:11

But zero awareness that it could cause injury is not a defence: unless they have learning difficulties or are very young for their age, ignorance that their actions could cause harm is not an excuse is it.

NovemberMorn · 08/05/2026 12:10

Presuming your son and his friends are of average intelligence, it should have been obvious to them they had made, and were leaving, a potentially dangerous slide in a public area, yet they didn't report it....so that's why they got their detention.

As a parent you should be teaching your son to be more aware that actions have consequences, not acting all indignant when his dangerous actions cause others injury.

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:10

PotolKimchi · 08/05/2026 12:09

So the ramp is there for disabled kids. One of mine is a bit unsteady, something like this could cause him serious injury.

Yes they were thoughtless but they are not primary school kids. For the record @EvaB0710 how old are the boys? It's a big difference if they are 12 or 17 isn't it as well?

And what a nasty thing to say about the teacher. She was carrying a hot drink. If you spilled a large cup of a hot drink on yourself because a colleague at work had been thoughtless I doubt you would be quite so sanguine.

12, most with varying degrees of SEN

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PotolKimchi · 08/05/2026 12:09

So the ramp is there for disabled kids. One of mine is a bit unsteady, something like this could cause him serious injury.

Yes they were thoughtless but they are not primary school kids. For the record @EvaB0710 how old are the boys? It's a big difference if they are 12 or 17 isn't it as well?

And what a nasty thing to say about the teacher. She was carrying a hot drink. If you spilled a large cup of a hot drink on yourself because a colleague at work had been thoughtless I doubt you would be quite so sanguine.

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:09

ineededanewnameitsbeentoolong · 08/05/2026 12:02

It was a monumentally stupid and mean thing to do.
He was completely aware others could have been injured, and considered that ok.
1.5 days is actually a very measured response, he got of lightly.

zero awareness it could have caused injury

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Feelingstressedbutdoingmybest · 08/05/2026 12:08

EvaB0710 · 08/05/2026 12:00

Also missed the point. It was never their intention for anyone to get injured in the slightest and were mortified that someone did. They thought it would dry as soon as they left. It's quite frankly bizarre that it didn't. There is not one bit of doubt, had they thought it wouldn't have dried or caused injury they would have cleaned it up prior to going to lessons, or told someone so the area could have cleaned.
What is 'punishment' as you call it going to add in this situation? Absolutely zero when they have insight and remorse.

Teenage boys often mess around without intending for anyone to get hurt, but they need to learn. I remember one instance of teenage boys letting off a fire extinguisher and putting it back (must have been a CO2 one I guess). Messing around and didn't intend to hurt anyone, but didn't tell anyone they'd used the fire extinguisher and were suspended because of what could have happened.

The punishment reinforces that their actions were serious and could have had serious consequences. It also inconveniences the parents and means they have to take it more seriously.

Personally, I think community service would be more appropriate: litter picking and cleaning up round the school.

OnionFishDiamond · 08/05/2026 12:08

Completely justified to be suspended. I’m shocked that you’re even asking.

TheZTeam · 08/05/2026 12:07

i am a part time wheelchair user as a result of an accident like this. I will be full time at some point.

tell me again how I’m missing the point @EvaB0710 ?