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Anti-misogyny classes - have schools lost trust in boys, what went wrong

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Renati · 18/04/2026 01:56

Why do I feel like the default expectation from boys in schools is that they are a threat so that we need to have these classes in schools.

What went wrong?

We all know and can feel what boys need and want in life to be good brothers, fathers, husbands and people in the community and somehow...instead of reinforcing these things in schools they are going off on a tangent based on what? The manosphere? Seriously? How distracted can an entire government get.

Is the only way out of this backwards caveman style teaching is to homeschool? Boys in school are not given the space to express themselves without first being told the reason the feel the way they feel is...innately probably because they are a person who needs correcting.

This doesn't just affect men, if you provide a society where men grow up resentful of the conditions and expectations set around them, you will have men more resentful for women....and guess what...this does encourage boys to not the become the brothers, fathers and husbands they could be because this is only possible if society creates a safe space for boys to feel secure and validated for their feeling growing up.

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SoScarletItWas · 18/04/2026 03:14

You ask ‘what went wrong’ like things were ever ‘right’! Misogyny and patriarchy have been causing girls and women problems for centuries, and never worse than recent times.

I would imagine any such classes will actually discuss how to express feelings in a healthy way as part of their curriculum.

ThatFairy · 18/04/2026 03:13

I had an argument with my sister where she was telling me I should tell my teenage son to cross the street if he is walking behind a woman. I refused as I wasn't going to put it in my son's head that he is seen as a potential threat and should act accordingly. She started going on about male violence and rape etc and I said it's not all men and we can't treat them all like this and she went mental at me

AbzMoz · 18/04/2026 03:07

No. Misogyny is a threat - online and in real life - and it’s everyone’s duty to recognise it and call it out.

What exactly do you think these ‘conditions and expectations’ are? Would you be happy if a young man in your life ‘expressed himself’ by being abusive towards women and girls?

Not everyone has male role models in their lives. Not all of these role models are good. Not everyone grew up with respect. If you think lads cannot sit engage in a discussion around this topic without feeling ‘resentment’ towards women who don’t want to be at risk of assault / abuse / coercion then we have an even bigger issue.

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