Daughter being excluded from prom

I can't see why if they are supervising their own child only. I go to open days and take my child around the school.

A parent supervising creates it's own safeguarding issue, a member of staff has to stay with the parent at all times.

Just to reiterate- safety issues which would prevent a child attending: violence, drugs alcohol - an inability to cope with features such as loud music, - and anything that impacts actual safety.
Leaving without agreement- it's far from clear from the op if this is the prohibitive issue. They've told her something about points and don't seem to have discussed a specific risk. A parent being asked to come along and supervise the child for example could mitigate that risk. But are they likely to.leave a prom in the same way as a classroom?
Those are the kinds of discussions you'd expect the schools parent to be having to.enable attendance if unplanned absconding is a worry. Doesn't sound like anything like that has happened.

"There is no evidence such exclusion promotes enhanced performance it would probably be bullying if this as stated occurred in a workplace without a sound health/ safety reason."

In this case the pupil has regularly left the classroom without permission. This is clearly a safeguarding issue. No teacher wants to take pupils to external venues who cannot be fully trusted to follow reasonable instructions or rules of the venue , due to safeguarding issues involved and the possibility that not following said venue rules could jeopardise the prom for everyone else...

Because school is not a workplace it's a set of people you entrust your children to and hope they are going to support them. 14/15 year olds are not adults and no one expects them to be that's why they aren't generally in workplaces. Yes some are exceptionally able but a lot aren't. Social development is essential not optional for children if schools are going to contribute to that they should be promoting confidence during transition not trying to exclude kids to make some kind of point about past behaviour. . . There is no evidence such exclusion promotes enhanced performance it would probably be bullying if this as stated occurred in a workplace without a sound health/ safety reason.

To go to the toilet!! I would too! I do in work and also in meetings if necessary. Not to be awkward or obstructuve but because occasionally it's necessary! The OP is upset and confused because the misdemeanors have been relatively minor and infrequent. A child with anxiety isn't attention seeking or trying to be difficult and over the course of 5 years at school most of us might get a couple of black marks or oush the boundaries. The level of punishment in this instance is way OTT for the situation she describes.

How bloody insensitive are schools to exclude pupils who have not been malicious or bullying just because they have MH or physical issues

How do you know this is true? By OPs account her child has walked out of lessons. I bet there's more to this story.

Because once she gets into the workplace her employers will totally understand that she doesn't feel like going to work and will fall over backwards to accommodate her and ensure that there's always a place for her at work social occasions

What an f'ing arsey response!!! This is the last 'big' event in a child's schooling which involves all their peer group! How bloody insensitive are schools to exclude pupils who have not been malicious or bullying just because they have MH or physical issues which impact on their attendance. The school need to bloody grow up and realise this is absolutely NOT appropriate punishment for attendance issues!

In this instance it would be the definite, not indefinite, article needed as we are talking about a specific event - but it’s perfectly normal recognised usage now to refer to ‘prom’. It’s not about behaviour ‘at this stage’. It’s part of a long term strategy to encourage good behaviour in the year running up to the event. What do you mean there’s no right to use it as a behaviour management? Schools absolutely have the right to decide who can attend school events and how they are selected. Even if teachers were paid for it - and there’s no precedent or mechanism for overtime really - it would still be voluntary and many would still say no if they didn’t trust the behaviour of those allowed to attend.
As a retired teacher with about 35 years of experience, I’m very glad to be out now entitlement has risen to this level. No wonder there’s a retention crisis…for those who want to teach enough to buck the recruitment crisis I’m fairly sure many will come to regret their choice and will leave.

I think this discussion is a rehash. When did it start being called ' Prom?' Surely it's 'a prom?' A prom is a leavers disco or party.. Theres no ' right' to use it as behaviour management and that's clearly ineffective at that stage it satisfies teachers without helping pupils. . If someone is not safe as in a danger, they can't go the process needs to be risk assessment. It would apply to relatively few. Teachers need to be paid. And start applying the definite or indefinite article.

Following a dress code shows an ability to do what is expected. I wouldn’t expect a student to be excluded purely for uniform issues, but as part of a wider picture…
Prom isn’t a right. Follow the rules or else it’s not worth the unpaid volunteer staff’s effort. They won’t attend and then the risk assessment will shut the whole thing down.

As above, prom is a reward not a right. Students need to earn that reward throughout their school career. If they choose not to earn that reward, they're free to make that choice.

Prom is a reward. It’s out of school hours and off school premises. The expectation is that the (by then ex) students of the school behave like young adults. The teachers are not there in any supervisory capacity. So any student who can’t follow expectations (despite being told that would mean they can’t go to prom) shouldn’t go.

The fact that you are talking about a dress code in relation to safety in a prom is insane. What are you talking about, psychological injury from poor colour co ordination?
Absconding is a risk I discussed previously seeing earlier comments.
The risk should actually relate to the situation and be a real risk. Not bringing a pencil to class isn't a risk in a prom. Aggression likely to occur in a prom would be.

You can have that opini9n. I have experience of risk assessments based on students reaching a floor behaviour level. It’s not just uniform - behaviour reminders and going AWOL are involved for the OP’s DD, and imagine aggression and violence bring you to the floor level more quickly.
Why do you think a pupil who can’t follow instructions, wanders off and can’t follow a dress code sould be safe at a prom in a public space?

Setting out a floor of behaviour based on things from several years ago including uniform- is not the same as a risk assessment based on safety and does not relate to the risks of the event. That's making a random wish list and calling it a risk assessment.

Why would the Op know about the school’s risk assessment for an event? She says her DD hasn’t reached the level required to attend prom. I think it’s more likely than not that the risk assessment for prom sets out the floor level of behaviour expectation. The DD hasn’t reached it.
So actually, a risk assessment is a red herring. The school have said you have to reach a level of behaviour to attend prom. They haven’t announced it late. And the OP’s DD hasn’t reached it. She doesn’t get to go to prom.

That's highly speculative. Nothing about a risk assessment in the OP. It's not the case that every decision made by a school.is a risk assessment. Some schools are using it as an incentive. The op one seems to be operating some sort of points system.

For prom. They’ve (reasonably) decided that prom is too risky with pupils who can’t meet behaviour targets. She hasn’t met the behaviour target. Prom risk assessment will be on the basis that attendees meet the floor behaviour requirement.

I did not know this. I did not know that kids returned to school after GCSEs.
I did not have a year 11 prom, I actually think they are a stupid idea. I did not have a sixth form prom. We used to go pubs and nightclubs in groups; that was sufficient for us. I don't remember celebrating leaving school. We drifted away after A levels. I think we went up the pub to celebrate the end of A levels. We had a formal speech night to receive our examination certificates. Our next destinations were announced in assembly.
I taught in FE, and I do not remember one single one of my students ever mentioning their school prom.
I do know several people, younger than me, who had sixth form proms. Although enjoyable, they were soon forgotten.

Where are you getting risk assessment from? She's not on a behaviour plan.

How? They risk assessed prom and agreed a floor level of behaviour without which it wouldn’t be safe. Communicated the requirements to students then let them either prove they were safe or not.

It's not a risk assessment as I understand it.

Yes it is. Her DD’s behaviour has reached the level that the school’s risk assessment says is inappropriate for prom.