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GCSE options due today help!

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nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 10:04

DS is struggling at school. He enjoys it at the moment thankfully but he is in bottom sets where applicable and we can see from homework and assessments he is not really keeping up.
School is thankfully a good one and are being helpful. I suspect dyslexia but we don’t know that yet so it’s possible that may not be the cause.

What I am struggling with right now is navigating GCSE options without making him feel discouraged and in any way lesser than his peers.
He can choose 4 or 3 with some ‘ blocks’ ruling out some combinations .
If he chooses 3 this is to enable him to take one fewer GCSE and do extra maths and English support. This is the route school are recommending and we support that in principle.

He has decided he doesn’t want to do this and wants to do as his friends are - with French, PE, food tech, and DT as his choices.

If he goes with his choices I am sure we can later drop one and pick up the extra support then.

my worries are -

  1. if School are offering the support route are we mad to turn it down
  2. the support route might turn him off school as he ends up doing multiple maths and English lessons additional to his peers - will this be a slog? If he ends up diagnosed with some SEN, dyslexia does a more varied teaching style work better than just more of the same at school ( we could afford to tutor if needed)
  3. Do the more practical subjects and provide light relief or a coursework slog?
  4. Is French mad if he struggles with English- he loves the teacher at the moment and enjoys speaking up in class with her .
  5. maybe minor but what impact does it have if we over rule his choices - he is pretty determined and got very upset last night when we discussed it all.
  6. he is seemingly better at Geography than French but can’t do that alongside the other choices - are either one easier for someone who will possibly struggle with longer questions ? ( older DC is doing it and it’s pretty demanding !)
  7. am I overthinking- does any of it really matter if our primary focus is to keep him happy at school and engaged with learning ?

one final point this is harder as he is young to be doing options - young for year , and doing options in year 8 he cannot imagine what year 11 will feel like yet .

Thanks for reading my long download and appreciate any insights and experiences .

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angelcake20 · 11/02/2026 15:37

Half way through year 8 is very early to make decisions about your facility for languages. At my school, languages are almost universally everyone’s least favourite subject and have the worst results (I taught one student who got 8 9s and a 5 in French). We have many parents begging us in year 10 to let their child drop the language (we don’t allow). I’d definitely take the support. DD did PE and food tech and I don’t remember the coursework timescales clashing particularly but she went on to PE A-level and would have taken food tech if it were an option. It’s a shame about the geography, which I feel
is more accessible to a wide range of students.

Snorlaxo · 11/02/2026 15:20

nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 15:08

Interesting this is what DH said to me at lunchtime do we say - you need to put some extra work in and if you don’t want to do it at school we can try to support with it at home.
meanwhile we need to pursue dyslexia screening ( depending on what school says) to see if that changes what support will be most effective .

Some teenagers wouldn’t want to do extra work in year 9 and 10 because they can’t see why they’d have to start studying so early for an exam in the future iyswim. If his friends are higher sets then they may not start revising until year 11 and some boys downplay how much they study anyway which might not help how motivation to work with the tutor and do homework for them year(s) earlier.

i understand that he might not want his friends to know that he needs support and not picking support will help that denial but they will find out during the course - especially if the friends are studying higher and he’s studying foundation. Having a tutor is still a sign of needing support but it would be easier to keep it private if he wanted because the only people who would know are you, him and his dad.

nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 15:19

Sedentarty · 11/02/2026 15:13

Would he do a level french? If not then not a huge point with the extra work.
As hes y8 only i would let him

have you not been given predicted grades?
We got some a few months ago (y9)
And its still hard choosing. Mine has asd/adhd and wants history, spanish art and RE.
Mine is also young in year. Its frustrating as our school enforce geo/history. But the ones we want would be possible alevel choices.

Before you said he was y8 i had been thinking he sounds young with wanting to pick for teacher and friends.

He is young , summer born so only 12 and not a mature 12, he doesn’t have a clue about what GCSE will feel like let alone thinking about beyond.
My older DC was a breeze and I didn’t even need to get involved when hers were done in year 9 so am finding this hard.

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KilkennyCats · 11/02/2026 15:17

redskydelight · 11/02/2026 10:57

DC's school would not allow a child who was struggling with English to take GCSE French - are you sure he'll actually be allowed to take it?

His other options look like they would be coursework heavy - which might suit him, of course.

Yes, the usual step when needing support in English is to remove all other language subjects.

Sedentarty · 11/02/2026 15:13

Would he do a level french? If not then not a huge point with the extra work.
As hes y8 only i would let him

have you not been given predicted grades?
We got some a few months ago (y9)
And its still hard choosing. Mine has asd/adhd and wants history, spanish art and RE.
Mine is also young in year. Its frustrating as our school enforce geo/history. But the ones we want would be possible alevel choices.

Before you said he was y8 i had been thinking he sounds young with wanting to pick for teacher and friends.

nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 15:08

SoftIce · 11/02/2026 14:43

If his French teacher is encouraging him to take French, then I would let him take the subjects he has chosen and re-evaluate at the end of year 9. They should still let him drop French for support then.

Does he need support in both English and maths or would English be sufficient? Could you maybe afford an English tutor once a week or once a fortnight? Maybe even just initially to figure out what and how much support he needs and then drill a bit on that. I wouldn't go over board with out-of-school tutoring though unless it really is necessary. Does he read for pleasure?

If he needs tutors in two subjects, I would take the school support.

Interesting this is what DH said to me at lunchtime do we say - you need to put some extra work in and if you don’t want to do it at school we can try to support with it at home.
meanwhile we need to pursue dyslexia screening ( depending on what school says) to see if that changes what support will be most effective .

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TeenToTwenties · 11/02/2026 15:06

@5gymbabe Some schools choose in y8 and then have a 3 year KS4.

5gymbabe · 11/02/2026 15:04

nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 10:04

DS is struggling at school. He enjoys it at the moment thankfully but he is in bottom sets where applicable and we can see from homework and assessments he is not really keeping up.
School is thankfully a good one and are being helpful. I suspect dyslexia but we don’t know that yet so it’s possible that may not be the cause.

What I am struggling with right now is navigating GCSE options without making him feel discouraged and in any way lesser than his peers.
He can choose 4 or 3 with some ‘ blocks’ ruling out some combinations .
If he chooses 3 this is to enable him to take one fewer GCSE and do extra maths and English support. This is the route school are recommending and we support that in principle.

He has decided he doesn’t want to do this and wants to do as his friends are - with French, PE, food tech, and DT as his choices.

If he goes with his choices I am sure we can later drop one and pick up the extra support then.

my worries are -

  1. if School are offering the support route are we mad to turn it down
  2. the support route might turn him off school as he ends up doing multiple maths and English lessons additional to his peers - will this be a slog? If he ends up diagnosed with some SEN, dyslexia does a more varied teaching style work better than just more of the same at school ( we could afford to tutor if needed)
  3. Do the more practical subjects and provide light relief or a coursework slog?
  4. Is French mad if he struggles with English- he loves the teacher at the moment and enjoys speaking up in class with her .
  5. maybe minor but what impact does it have if we over rule his choices - he is pretty determined and got very upset last night when we discussed it all.
  6. he is seemingly better at Geography than French but can’t do that alongside the other choices - are either one easier for someone who will possibly struggle with longer questions ? ( older DC is doing it and it’s pretty demanding !)
  7. am I overthinking- does any of it really matter if our primary focus is to keep him happy at school and engaged with learning ?

one final point this is harder as he is young to be doing options - young for year , and doing options in year 8 he cannot imagine what year 11 will feel like yet .

Thanks for reading my long download and appreciate any insights and experiences .

They don't choose gcse options until year 9 ?

nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 15:01

1000StrawberryLollies · 11/02/2026 14:56

Interesting to note there is a foundation level - his ( lovely !) teacher said at parents evening he is doing well and she would be happy to teach him for GCSE.

Yes, I say that to my students and their parents too, and I mean it, but we don't get to choose who we teach. Just because she would be happy to teach him, that doesn't mean he will actually get her as a teacher.

Oh I know that don’t worry I was just trying to paint a picture as to why he wants to do it - as I said in my clarifying post if he doesn’t want to take up the extra support in maths and English option then he doesn’t the extra GCSE which is MFL . It’s either or. And right now he doesn’t want to be different and take that route - so for us this one choice feels quite loaded as we either over rule or let him start with French gcse while we try to establish how far behind he is and what the root causes are.

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1000StrawberryLollies · 11/02/2026 14:56

Interesting to note there is a foundation level - his ( lovely !) teacher said at parents evening he is doing well and she would be happy to teach him for GCSE.

Yes, I say that to my students and their parents too, and I mean it, but we don't get to choose who we teach. Just because she would be happy to teach him, that doesn't mean he will actually get her as a teacher.

SoftIce · 11/02/2026 14:43

If his French teacher is encouraging him to take French, then I would let him take the subjects he has chosen and re-evaluate at the end of year 9. They should still let him drop French for support then.

Does he need support in both English and maths or would English be sufficient? Could you maybe afford an English tutor once a week or once a fortnight? Maybe even just initially to figure out what and how much support he needs and then drill a bit on that. I wouldn't go over board with out-of-school tutoring though unless it really is necessary. Does he read for pleasure?

If he needs tutors in two subjects, I would take the school support.

nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 14:31

Thanks so much all I am reading all the replies and appreciate everyone’s views.
I realise my OP is misleading in a few ways so will try to clarify - if he doesn’t take extra support route then he has to do MFL which in his case is French. Interesting to note there is a foundation level - his ( lovely !) teacher said at parents evening he is doing well and she would be happy to teach him for GCSE.
I think he does quite well as he enjoys speaking in class but perhaps won’t do as well in the written work. He is saying he wants to carry on French instead of the maths and English support group (maybe avoidance !)
We are somewhat unhelpfully timing wise awaiting some school screening /assessment results which may help us understand if dyslexia is at play so whatever we decide now may need to evolve if we end up needing to get full dyslexia screening and understand better what help he needs. ( the more I read the more I think this is a likely cause but I know that’s maybe bias and self diagnosing is risky - may start another thread on this theme !)
I do agree that it’s inaccurate of me to say practical subjects are light relief - but what I meant really was that he says he enjoys those and finds it easier to focus and learn.
He is a good sport all rounder and can probably do football / tennis / rugby / cricket and will be relatively interested in the science parts so I think this one works.
I don’t think he is at all ready to make the connection between what he puts on the form tonight and what years 10 and 11 will feel like bht my older DC is in year 10 so maybe he can see this play out next year ! ( different school and very different subjects.)
He does well in geography currently but this relies on memory and essay skills from what I see of other DC curriculum.

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Hazelmaybe · 11/02/2026 14:15

so tricky. If you can encourage him to take the support route that would be the most sensible option. The less GCSEs the better in my opinion! However it’s hard when they just want to be like their friends. Ultimately you could say if he wants to go to the same colleges as his friends he will need to pass maths and English. It’s hard when they are that age as they can’t really think ahead.

Is he being assessed for dyslexia? I would push that if you can.

clary · 11/02/2026 13:39

I know a number of YP who have dyslexia and did very well at MFL GCSE. Not that that proves anything for the OP's DS. A friend of DD's got an 8 in her German GCSE. And I know others who got good grades. It’s harder for sure but then so is anything involving reading. Which is every GSCE to some degree really. I am not saying he should take French as noted already.

elevenpiperspiping · 11/02/2026 13:35

I would avoid a language with dyslexia. Especially if poor memory/recall with it

HawaiiWake · 11/02/2026 13:09

Check DT GCSE curriculum, for our school DT there is a practical as well as exam part. The exam is maths and physics heavy so easy for some and very tough for others.

Snorlaxo · 11/02/2026 13:03

My ds really enjoyed Food Tech because he’s naturally very practical so learning stuff like how to make pasta from scratch was both fun and a good learning experience for him.

Does your son know that this year’s subject teacher may very well not be next year’s teacher?

I would ask the school about French. His teacher may have a better idea if he’s a good candidate for GCSE.

clary · 11/02/2026 12:48

lol @MrsAvocet ”this is not GCSE footy” - yes indeed.

I know you agree but it annoys me when people talk about PE (or anything) as less academic or lighter.

All GCSEs are challenging as they are meant to be.

I missed that his main reason for French was liking the teacher! Yes that might need a rethink as he may have a different teacher or that teacher may leave. I do still think a keen student should be encouraged to take MFL but yes if English is a struggle it may not be the best plan.

You don’t say if he plays sport or likes science but if not then I suggest geog or French (depending on above), DT or food, and another.

CoffeeChocolateWine · 11/02/2026 11:51

My DS sat his GCSEs last year and two of his options were food tech and PE. He’s quite able but doesn’t perform his best in exam conditions so we felt these were good choices for him.

However, this time last year he was snowed under with coursework at a time when ideally I would have wanted him to be revising for his mocks. I would imagine with DT thrown in there too it would be pretty overwhelming. I guess it may vary depending on the exam board though but both his final pieces of coursework were due in by February half term.

I notice a pp said that food tech was very heavy on theory rather than the practical element but this was not my DS’s experience of it. There was a fair amount of theory content but he did practical cooking every week and it was a huge part of the course. He loved it and did well.

PE had a lot more theory content than maybe we had anticipated. DS is very sporty (although he plays a lot of sports well rather than excelling at any particular sport) but he found the biology and psychology stuff very difficult. The grade boundaries are also higher than many other subjects so despite being his favourite subject, it ended up being his lowest grade.

My DD is now in year 9 and choosing options. She was originally keen on doing food tech and art together but we’ve strongly encouraged her to do either/or because of the amount of coursework.

MrsAvocet · 11/02/2026 11:48

This is one of the reasons that I am opposed to schools starting GCSEs in year 9. A young for the cohort year 8 is only 12 - how can they be expected to understand the implications of their choices at that age. It's hardly surprising that things like what their friends are doing and whether they like the teacher are a bigger influence than long term goals. To be honest I think year 9 is too young to be making the decision to rule out multiple subjects but year 8 is ridiculous.
However I appreciate that you have to work with your school's policy as it is now @nextchapterplease. I think I would be asking them how set in stone this decision is, especially given his young age. Can he start with the full set of subjects and if he is struggling with maths and english in year 9 or 10 can he change his mind? Or indeed will they impose a change on him if that is the case? If there is room for manoevre I would probably let him make his choices now, but if not, I would probably insist on the extra maths and english. Whatever else he does, not passing those would hinder him going forwards.
I'd also add my voice to those advising caution regarding picking multiple subjects with a large coursework component and seeing such subjects as "light relief". I can't speak for all of them but PE GCSE is 60% theory and as quite a lot of the practical assessment is based on sport that pupils do out of school, it's likely that the actual GCSE PE lessons in school time are likely to be more like extra science classes than extra sport. I remember when my DC were choosing, the "practical" subject teachers made a point of stressing that their subjects were not an easy option - the PE teacher specifically said "This is not GCSE footie. Don't pick PE if you think you'll be kicking a ball around for 2 years". Lots of kids didn't listen and were disappointed though. There's still a lot of theory in most of these subjects and the practical element can be very time consuming so personally I probably would only pick one.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 11/02/2026 11:28

Y9 (and Y12) mum here. Have you looked at the requirements for PE? My Y9 DD was keen for PE and knew that there was a big extra curricular sport requirement. The syllabus her school follows requires continuous improvement in 3 sports - but parkrun and kickboxing (2 of her sports; the other is year round cricket) aren’t eligible.

DS (17 now) last year struggled a bit with Maths, but breezed through English. All the 16+ options her considered made you do m&e alongside whatever else you do anyway if you don’t get GCSE passes. I wouldn’t turn down the school’s offer for support now. Unless he’s in a tiny school, he may well not be in the same classes as his friends anyway.

IAxolotlQuestions · 11/02/2026 11:25

I would take the support route, and do it now. Then there's more of a chance of getting 5x passes at GCSE inc maths and english.

I would not take French, unless he understands he's likely to get poor marks, the teacher may change, and he's just doing it because he enjoys it (rather than because he thinks he'll get an A).

NutButterOnToast · 11/02/2026 11:17

If he was year 9 going into 10 I would suggest you overrule him, but the extra year changes things a bit. tbh I would be speaking to his head of year and asking if he took the options he wanted and he struggles, can they be changed to the support route for year 10?

redskydelight · 11/02/2026 11:16

nextchapterplease · 11/02/2026 11:05

Yes he can do it but they have suggested extra support in maths and English instead , which is resisting so do I let him run with it and rethink at end of year 9 given that he is essentially starting GCSE subjects a year early .

French won't be "starting a year early" - it's a subject where you gradually build up knowledge, so he'll be likely doing the same in Y9 as if he "officially" started the GCSE in Y10.

The main concern if he doesn't have the extra support in English and Maths in Year 9, he will fall further behind. Not having a French GCSE will not hinder his lack of later prospects in the same way that not having Grade 4 in English and Maths will.

If school are offering support, I strongly suspect they are expecting it to be taken up, and only framing it as a "choice". Does he have extra support now? What level is he working at currently?

Buscobel · 11/02/2026 11:13

Please don’t let him choose French because he likes the teacher. It rarely ends well. The GCSE teacher may be someone else, the teacher may leave part way and if he has some difficulties, it’s not a great idea.

Is there an option support at the school. It usually means one less GCSE with support lessons for the other subjects, not just core subjects.

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