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Dame Alice Owen's School - sibling policy?

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GlassMatryoshka · 21/10/2025 13:15

Dame Alice Owen's School (DAO) is very much an anomaly in many respects. Amongst other things, it seems quite odd to me that a secondary school with such a competitive intake, with a good number of students commuting in from some distance away, would also have a sibling policy.

So if I could have the temerity to ask: Should DAO rethink its sibling policy?

Before responding, may I please ask that you put yourself in the mind of someone responsible for high-level policy making decisions and NOT from the point of view of someone with a vested interest, i.e. a parent with multiple DCs. Of course parents with more than one child would say it needs to be kept for a host of individual reasons - this should be patently obvious.

If I could ask that this question is considered in the broadest possible terms - both for the longer term view and in the greater scheme of things.

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SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 15:47

Oh, and to pick up on this:

Or to bring this closer to education, how would it look like to imagine top universities doing this? "Since your older sibling got in, we could use more of your kind around here."

"Top" (indeed, all) universities are 100% selective, though. All candidates must reach the exam grades that the university has set for them (which may or may not be contextual)

ETA by parallel, top universities would hardly say "nice house, great location, your parents must be rich, we could use more of your kind around here"

SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 15:20

Honestly, your posts are so rambling, I'm not that clear what your message is.

The two options are:

DAO retains sibling priority, meaning 65-70 places go to siblings each year, roughly.

Or DAO does not retain sibling priority, which means that a pretty high number of the 65 aptitude places go to siblings, far fewer go to 'new' applicants, and then the remaining places go on distance, making houses near DAO even more expensive (and probably meaning that those with more than one child move nearby if they have the means, so they may end up being 'double qualified' on distance and aptitude).

Neither system is "the most fair system anyone could think of" - arguably, a lottery is the "most fair" but has its drawbacks of children criss-crossing an area and having longer commutes and more travel miles and more LA budget for school transport etc etc.

You (I think) prefer the latter. Though you have previously mentioned you felt my interpretation of your posts was simplistic - ultimately, an admissions policy has limited room to be complex (DAO's is probably one of the most complex already!)

I prefer the former, because I think siblings being at the same school is a good thing. I do agree with the PP who thought that the sibling places were (somewhat) selected by stealth as it's likely many would pass the aptitude test if they were allowed to sit it. But I still think a sibling policy is reasonable.

(I do agree DAO shouldn't win any 'comp of the year' awards against fully non-selective schools, though!)

GlassMatryoshka · 05/11/2025 14:55

@SheilaFentiman I really don't mean to come across as patronising, although I can see my words have failed me again... And my social graces definitely have a lot of room for improvement :(

Despite this, I hope that you (and others) can look beyond my terrible delivery, at the message being passed on by a poor choice of messenger.

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SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 10:06

I don't know how many of those 22 closest distance places are typically represented today by long standing families with "deep roots". After almost 50 years at Potters Bar, possibly close to none?

What does this mean?

BTW, I find it patronising for you to talk about “ruffling feathers”, as if you are the Great I Am on this and the rest of us haven’t bothered to think about admissions until you chose to come along and “enlighten” us with your verbosity. This is despite you admitting your own naïveté in thinking a 50/50 test/local policy would be good, when such a policy change would not be permitted under the Admissions Code.

SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 09:48

@wisteriawhite from DAO’s FAQs

The Governors maintain 2 exam result lists in rank order, one for Islington, and the second for all Local Priority Areas. This ensures that a minimum of 20 places overall are allocated to Islington children each year.

SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 09:36

Given how vocal you have been on this thread, (to which I very much welcome,) perhaps you would like to share what your stake in this is and thus your frame of reference? I've stated mine. It may help the discussion to know. We may not always agree, and that is perfectly fine. But at least we can try to understand each other better.

Given you have already asked this and PP hasn’t answered, it’s somewhat pushy to ask again, IMO.

SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 09:30

So I don’t think that makes it significantly less competitive, really.

SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 09:29

wisteriawhite · 05/11/2025 07:16

Where do the Islington kids fit into this? I’ve heard people say it’s much less competitive if you are coming in on one of those places?

At least 20 children from Islington must be admitted each year. If 20 haven’t already been admitted under siblings, LAC or music, then the balance of the 20 must come from the academic aptitude test (ie they would have to go below the lowest “general” admission-qualifying ranking to the next highest Islington child(ren) if insufficient Islington children were in the top 65)

SheilaFentiman · 05/11/2025 09:09

Dear goddess, what a wall of text!

To pick you up on one early point before I read the rest:

say there was a younger sibling in a household within the 22 closest, they would get assigned under criteria 2,

Please remember it isn’t the 22 closest households, it’s the 22 closest applicants. So in one year, a child in the 40th closest house might be the 22nd in closest applicants, but their younger sibling 2-3 years later might be the 24th closest and therefore get in only on sibling criteria, even if the family haven’t moved.

wisteriawhite · 05/11/2025 07:16

Where do the Islington kids fit into this? I’ve heard people say it’s much less competitive if you are coming in on one of those places?

GlassMatryoshka · 05/11/2025 00:27

Ugh... annoying autocorrect in my earlier post re the maths. Seems it wouldn't let me start the list with a 0. number.

Here is how they should have looked and shown numbered:

Official allocation of places from 2025:
0 - (9) EHCP = 4.5%
1 - (5) LAC = 2.5%
2 - (22) closest distance = 11%
3 - (68) siblings = 34%
4 - (10) music test = 5%
5 - (65) academic test = 32.5%
6 - (17) staff kids = 8.5%
7 - (4) remaining distance = 2%

Finally, a Readjusted look at the demographics of the school without the "mask" of the sibling category to hide behind:
0 - (9) EHCP = 4.5%
1 - (5) LAC = 2.5%
2 - (22) closest distance = 11%
3 -
4 - (17) families of a music test DC = 8.5%
5 - (111) families of an academic test DC = 55.5%
6 - (29) families of a staff DC = 14.5%
7 - (7) families of a remaining distance DC = 3.5%

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GlassMatryoshka · 04/11/2025 23:55

Coming back to the slightly more abstract question of "inherent" betterness -

At its more basic, the question we are dealing with here is, "How should one apportion/distribute rewards, which are very valuable and very scarce?" As this is what those places at DAO are.

DAO is undoubtedly (in its current guise today) a highly "selective" school which is heavily oversubscribed. It is not a pure grammar, nor a pure comp. So the potential messiness that can ensue is practically inevitable. Amongst this, I do welcome discussion which may be on somewhat more abstract or symbolic principles.

If we could start with the test-based places. These were given on merit, in a way that is quite clean and straight-forward - score high enough and you are in. It could thus be said that these places were given in a way that is meritocratic in nature. One could have a field day arguing whether this is "inherently" fair, (spoiler: it isn't,) but that is not the subject of this thread. (Many other threads for how unfair the 11+ is.)

Moving on to the distance places. Assuming these were for the most part effectively "bought", this is really just the free-market in all its open glory. It is not unlike an auction. Nobody is forcing those families to buy those spaces - they buy them because they want to and they can. The great leveller here being price. This is not "inherently" fair either. But does it mean this system itself is "inherently" bad? At the end of an eBay bidding war, I don't see people shouting for the platform to be taken down.

Coming back to the sibling places. These are effectively, for lack of a better term, a form of institutionally-aided nepotism. Now, (before you all go on again about my use of caustic language,) I would NOT dare dream of using a word like nepotism in the context of a normal comp. But DAO spaces, of which are a majority made up of "selective families" (where one of a family's children got in via a test,) are highly coveted. (Do I hear that endowment knocking on the door again?) So I would say that DAO is fair game.

These three "systems" may not be the most perfect descriptions of those entry routes, but I don't think they are incorrect or without a good element of truth.

  • A meritocratic system
  • A free-market / open-bid system
  • An institutionally-aided nepotistic system

I think we can all agree that none of these systems are "inherently" fair. Anyone trying to make that claim in absolutist terms is either naïve or disingenuous. The question then falls on what is better in relative terms. Or to put it another way, less bad.

I'll use an outside example. If we were talking about how to award government contracts, is it not glaringly obvious which of those three systems should not belong?

Or to bring this closer to education, how would it look like to imagine top universities doing this? "Since your older sibling got in, we could use more of your kind around here."

A free market auction at least has the benefit of being publicly open for all to see and participate. Systems which are nepotistic are closed door affairs to divvying up the spoils.

There may be those of you who will now think, how can you expect an 11 year old to get, "this"? To which I would say, I don't. But I would also highlight that our DCs will not stay 11 forever. There will come a day when they do understand concepts like "reparation" and they should rightly ask questions about why we made the choices we did and about the role that institutions and their practices played in our decision-making. I think it does a great disservice to our DCs if we were to under-estimate their long-term potential.

For all the ruffling of feathers my posts may have caused, I'm just an eyebrow-raising messenger. I'm sure I am not the first, nor will I be the last. If we truly want to get to the root of the issue, we should be asking more questions about the effects of the endowments - what they have done over time and what they will continue to do. Or is it that those who get in are content to keep their mouths shut in a closed cycle of complicity?

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GlassMatryoshka · 04/11/2025 23:54

Now, getting back to @GravyBoatWars question,

"... So my question to you is why is that inherently better? Why are you opposed to children getting places at DAO based on having a sibling there but not opposed to children getting places at DAO based whether their parents can and do move the family very close by?"

As I read your use of the word "inherently", it suggests to me a need to answer this in a slightly more ideological way. I am ok with going there, as I think the underlying symbolism is important to address. But if I can first give my take on the specific effects of this on the ground.

In a school that is a mix of test and non-test places, I assume a good portion of those non-test places would and should go to local families. The principle of a school which is surrounded by a good number of families in geographic proximity, I would say, is a good one. This being the nice aspect of a comp - nearby families with a meaningfully anchored stake in the community in which the school resides.

I acknowledge this is not necessarily picture perfect. As it is mostly those who can afford to live in the postcodes close to the best schools who can get those places. And therein the ugly aspect underneath what comps can be - selection by house price.

I do get this. If my DC were to get into such a situation, would I be happy for them to be mostly surrounded by rich kids. Perhaps on the surface of it, I may admit to a tinge of wariness at first? But I don't feel it is my place to judge in the slightest. Just because parents have money does not make them evil nor does it mean they will raise their DCs in an evil way.

I don't know how many of those 22 closest distance places are typically represented today by long standing families with "deep roots". After almost 50 years at Potters Bar, possibly close to none? It is hard not to feel some degree of lament for this. On a practical level though, assuming all of the 22 closest places go to families who have effectively bought their way in, how would this aspect be different from an ultra desirable comp? As long as they are happy to play the role of the "locally" invested family, with the symbiotic benefits to both family and school/neighbourhood, would it matter so much that their relationship to the area is something akin to an adopted child?

Getting back to the effects of DAO's current sibling policy - these spaces are dominated by families who have previously passed a test. Collectively combined, if you were to pick out a random child from a box of DAO kids, you would be more likely than not to choose a child from a family who knows what it takes to get through the baptism-of-fire that is the DAO tests. In many cases, these families would have also applied to pure grammars such as HBS, QE, Latymer, etc.

Many (if not nearly all) of those test families won't be complaining about the value of having that advantage of automatic sibling entry at DAO. I'm sure the convenience of it all is a big selling point. Do they deserve it though? By and large, these are generally not families who "need" such charity. If they can get a DC1 to pass the test, the odds are pretty good that they can do the same for DC2. Pure grammars are clean in this way - everyone needs to score high enough to get in. No favouritism.

Put it this way, if there was no sibling policy, I'm pretty sure there would still be plenty of siblings attending the school together. But this would be through individual choice in each case rather than an institutionalised holding of the door open for the next one. And to be clear, I never said I was against siblings attending a school at the same time - for which there are many positive benefits. Nor have I set out to ban siblings from being together.

But we are talking about the highly coveted spaces at DAO, not some idyllic comp.

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GlassMatryoshka · 04/11/2025 23:53

Amidst the earlier back and forth in this thread, I agree with @GravyBoatWars in saying that, "People who want a pure comprehensive school or a pure grammar school are not key stakeholders for DAO..."

I am one of such people. I am attracted to the idea of a school composed of a mix of both test and non-test places. I'm not interested in making it an exclusive one or the other. But then comes the debatable muddle...

In my naivety, (and I am very grateful to have since learned of the various histories from those who shared here,) I felt that an idealised picture of a mixed test/non-test school would be a ratio of 50/50, with the "harmonious balance" or "healthy deadlock" of neither side being able to claim a majority on their own. (Like a marriage for example.)

What has surprised me from the previous maths exercise is to learn that only about 14.5% of a given intake today is made up of "local" distance places. (And I hold my hand up to my test-based lean, and thus ignorance.) This amount, in my opinion, seems something of a pittance. A result of a system, with the official appearance of only taking in a "minority" 1/3 of its cohort by selection, but under the covers an inadvertent collaboration to hoard places for those seen as preferable to be on the inside.

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GlassMatryoshka · 04/11/2025 23:49

As an earlier PP said, "It's a way of increasing selectivity by stealth." (I wish I had the gift of being so pithy, which I clearly don't!)

This may be a bit of flogging an almost dead horse, but for the benefit of others not familiar with this school, (and to satisfy my own curiosity,) I thought it might be a useful exercise to spell out the quantitative effects of their sibling "mask" using their actual numbers and hopefully getting a better understanding of their specific mechanisms through the process.

As a basis, I'll use the latest admission figures as an assumed constant played out over successive years:

Official allocation of places from 2025:

  1. (9) EHCP = 4.5%
  2. (5) LAC = 2.5%
  3. (22) closest distance = 11%
  4. (68) siblings = 34%
  5. (10) music test = 5%
  6. (65) academic test = 32.5%
  7. (17) staff kids = 8.5%
  8. (4) remaining distance = 2%
TOTAL: 200

If you break it down, the placement of the siblings criteria at number 3 is quite tactical. It is primarily the criteria after number 3 which impact on the demographic makeup of the siblings category. The criteria above number 3 don't need to rely on sibling places for future DCs. So for instance, because the 22 closest distance are higher in priority, if say there was a younger sibling in a household within the 22 closest, they would get assigned under criteria 2, in effect, preserving those sibling spaces for the lower criteria and not resulting in a net gain on a new 22 closest distance place. Basically preventing criteria 2 from spawning. Unless of course there are Address Houdinis around.

While the exact number of siblings in any given year can be very variable, for illustration purposes let's say they are repeated as the same figures and extrapolate them in simple proportion. As it is primarily the younger siblings of criteria 4-7 which propagate into forming the siblings category for the following year -

Criteria 4-7 only on their own, with percentages readjusted:

  • (10) music test -> 10.4%
  • (65) academic test -> 67.7%
  • (17) staff kids -> 17.7%
  • (4) remaining distance -> 4.2%
TOTAL: 96

Taking those percentages from the previous year and applying them as an illustrative breakdown of the sibling category:

  • siblings of music test DCs: 68 x 10.4% = 7
  • siblings of academic test DCs: 68 x 67.7% = 46
  • siblings of staff kids: 68 x 17.7% = 12
  • siblings of remaining distance: 68 x 4.2% = 3
TOTAL SIBLINGS: 68

Finally, a Readjusted look at the demographics of the school without the "mask" of the sibling category to hide behind:

  1. (9) EHCP = 4.5%
  2. (5) LAC = 2.5%
  3. (22) closest distance = 11%
  4. (17) families of a music test DC = 8.5%
  5. (111) families of an academic test DC = 55.5%
  6. (29) families of a staff DC = 14.5%
  7. (7) families of a remaining distance DC = 3.5%
TOTAL: 200

Whilst this is just an extrapolation, it gives a more concrete sense of this being a majority "selective" school. Out of 200 places, approximately 128 of these will be held by families with experience of getting in via a test. And these aren't easy. Their music places are known for only selecting the most elite and their academic test is known for being difficult. (In one of their sample English papers, there was a question asking to work out the meaning of "reparation"... For a 10 year old... Really?!?)

So it should come as no surprise that DAO gets the results they do - it was foremost by design.

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GlassMatryoshka · 04/11/2025 23:45

@SheilaFentiman Just wanted to note that a "simple removal of the sibling places" is not my "proposal" per se, but a response to your earlier post:

"So if DAO was to remove the sibling preference, it could not increase its number of pupils selected for aptitude above the current 32.5% and presumably would then go on distance for all pupils after the first few preference categories.
Meaning, @GlassMatryoshka , that there are 65 aptitude places for which your child is competing, and there would be even if the sibling criteria was removed (in fact, the competition would be higher as presumably all siblings would sit the aptitude test and - whether through genetic ability, past parental experience, good connections with local tutors etc - many would score well.)"

I was just following that hypothetical scenario through. I now better understand GravyBoatWars and your following question though, but please let me come back to it.

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GlassMatryoshka · 04/11/2025 23:44

GravyBoatWars · 31/10/2025 02:23

Sorry, I'm missing the answer to my main question.

You think DAO should get rid of the sibling policy, yes? If they did that there would not be more attainment places available, but it would increase the places available based on distance. So my question to you is why is that inherently better? Why are you opposed to children getting places at DAO based on having a sibling there but not opposed to children getting places at DAO based whether their parents can and do move the family very close by?

Ok, I think I understand your question better now. Please let me try to respond better.

By the way, I notice you haven't yet shared what is your stake and frame of reference in all of this? (Despite the benefit of anonymity on this forum?)

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SheilaFentiman · 31/10/2025 09:34

FWIW OP, before publication of the 2007 Admissions Code, there was considerable debate about whether to continue to allow sibling preference in schools selecting more than 10% of their intake, on the basis that it might disadvantage children local to the school. My understanding is that the schools with such policies were considering seeking a judicial review had it been not been allowed by the Code. But in the end, it was.

I believe that this background is part of the reason why DAO has the "22 nearest applicants" category- and why they are vanishingly unlikely to change the sibling policy unless the Admissions Code changes such that they must.

(I was slightly amused by you pondering what Dame Alice would make of it - given she established a boys' school centuries ago in Islington for a small number of pupils, and DAO school is now a fairly large mixed school in Potters Bar, I think she'd find a few more things to be curious about before getting on to the admission policy specifics!)

SheilaFentiman · 31/10/2025 08:11

Yy Araminta - I would expect the vast majority of siblings to rank highly in the test, given genetics, familial experience with the prep work needed etc.

As an aside - although the academically 66th ranked child has been mentioned, the last rank admitted is usually 110-140, as some children with higher ranks go to private schools, to other selective schools, or fall into a higher category (music or 22 nearest, say)

PinkPanther57 · 31/10/2025 07:48

bruffin · 31/10/2025 04:41

I think the emphasis is now on aptitude rayther rhan ability ie the language test for Goffs is a not based on knowing a language but being able to work out the logic behind a laguage.
The STEM test my ds sat was similar to CATs. In fact a parent took the school to court saying it was a test of ability and therefore not fair but lost.

They would do an ‘aptitude’ test to decide which of us deserved the resources to study German back in the day. If you didn’t do well enough you couldn’t study it. You had no or little aptitude it was thought, interesting. It felt like a slanted IQ test.

I remember thinking I lacked the logic/way of thinking needed to pass the test at the time yet oddly I could have managed German. My approach to French was out of box yet I was good & I could pass exams well.

Previously they just set unless SEN made it impractical.

Araminta1003 · 31/10/2025 07:38

I bet a lot of the siblings are selective standard, judging by the results. It is a selective school, low SEND rates, low FSM, Outstanding Ofsted. Attainment 8 at 73.6 (GCSE 2025) is really quite selective.

I have 4 DC, all passed 11 plus, all musical too (every single one had at least one Grade 8 ABRSM distinction by age 12). Had the eldest gone to this school, the younger 3 would not have been allowed to take a selective or music aptitude place/test, according to the Admissions policy. This would not have made them less academic or musical.
Most of my DC’s friends at grammar school have siblings who also got into grammar schools. Ours went to superselective grammars, if the siblings of friends missed “superselective”, it may have been a slightly less selective grammar school, but still strings of GCSEs 7-9 for pretty much all of them.

SheilaFentiman · 31/10/2025 07:11

@GlassMatryoshka i have read and processed every word you have written (lucky me!)

A child getting a distance place at DAO (in your scenario) because their parents are wealthy enough to move nearby is surely just as dependent on the efforts of other family members as your Cost Tail Rider sibling. So what I and @GravyBoatWars do not see is why you see the hypothetical as philosophically better.

Many children going for DAO are also applying to other selective schools and sitting the 11+ at private school. Nothing to stop you spending the time prepping the hypothetical younger sibling for one of those if the bonding over Bond books was very important to you.

SheilaFentiman · 31/10/2025 07:03

Yy bruffin - agree it is aptitude testing now for the 10%.

bruffin · 31/10/2025 04:41

SheilaFentiman · 30/10/2025 17:26

That would be John Major!

Partial selection was introduced in some grant-maintained schools during the final years of the Conservative government led by John Major.[3] Grant-maintained status was introduced by the Education Reform Act 1988, and gave such schools control over their own admissions. Circular 6/93 permitted these schools to select up to 10% of their intake on the basis of ability or aptitude in music, art, drama or sport. Circular 6/96 permitted more selection. By 1997, over 40 schools were selecting up to 50% of pupils.

[Under Labour] the School Standards and Framework Act 1998 permitted selection of up to 10% by aptitude for certain subjects for which a school is a specialist college (section 102), and also permitted the retention of partial selection that existed prior to the 1997 entry, provided that the proportion selected was no higher than that in 1997

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I think the emphasis is now on aptitude rayther rhan ability ie the language test for Goffs is a not based on knowing a language but being able to work out the logic behind a laguage.
The STEM test my ds sat was similar to CATs. In fact a parent took the school to court saying it was a test of ability and therefore not fair but lost.

GravyBoatWars · 31/10/2025 02:23

GlassMatryoshka · 31/10/2025 01:04

I appreciate your tolerance of my admittedly long-windedness.

My starting frame of reference is via the academic places. I've now noted that I am a parent with a DC who will be going down that route. I thus carry the weaknesses and biases that may come with this. My use of the phrase, "the quiet cloud of personal ignominy" was my own personal take on it, in the specific context of those who go down the route for the test places. Am I not entitled to voicing my own personal opinion?

This was not at all meant as a "marker of disgrace" for anyone other than myself. Of course, I do not wish these feelings on anybody. Particularly for the countless families not going down any test-based route, which I agree is normal and very right for normal comps. And I do acknowledge that the limited nature of this kind of discussion doesn't do much more than nibble around the edges of far bigger problems. But I can see that my regrettable use of the word "ignominy" has had some deleterious effects and for this, I sincerely apologise.

I'll try to answer your other question re parents moving in versus sibling places -

To begin with, my focus has solely been on this specific school. I am not here to discuss the wider school system across the country. My position remains unchanged in that this is not an ordinary or typical school.

With regard to parents buying or renting a home to get into DAO, I didn't say I thought this was fair. I said it was understandable how these places were "earned". Parents who have money can simply use that money; this is expected in a market economy. I don't have that kind of money myself, but I see no need to be bitter about others having it.

With regard to the sibling places, this is an institutionalised practice whose function is to support local neighbourhood comps (and very understandably so). Perhaps DAO was a school like that in the past. But I don't think anyone can say that with a knowledgeably straight face today. So I question its current fitness-for-purpose as well as the suitability of arguments such as, "This is just how it is for comps." Because, well, it's not.

And given the money that keeps flowing in, those parents' elbows will continue to get sharper every year. I actually think a more productive question, which may be a subset of this, is how should the DAO foundation be distributing its annual endowments? This money is a huge part of what has made the school into what it is today and if/as continued, I imagine will only make questions on equitability grow louder.

Given how vocal you have been on this thread, (to which I very much welcome,) perhaps you would like to share what your stake in this is and thus your frame of reference? I've stated mine. It may help the discussion to know. We may not always agree, and that is perfectly fine. But at least we can try to understand each other better.

Sorry, I'm missing the answer to my main question.

You think DAO should get rid of the sibling policy, yes? If they did that there would not be more attainment places available, but it would increase the places available based on distance. So my question to you is why is that inherently better? Why are you opposed to children getting places at DAO based on having a sibling there but not opposed to children getting places at DAO based whether their parents can and do move the family very close by?

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