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Kids staying in uniform after school

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MilesManchester · 19/10/2025 22:55

When I was a teenager, I'd get changed as soon as I got home from school same as most people. My 2 DS are in years 9 and 11 and stay in their uniform the vast majority of time after school, seeing no point getting changed. Is this commonplace? I don't get it 😁

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LizzyEm · 20/10/2025 19:23

LizzyEm · 20/10/2025 19:22

We used to have to get changed because we weren't getting a complete full new clean uniform every day. As a single parent with 4 kids, my mum couldnt afford or be arsed to do that much washing. Plus I don't think we had 5 full sets.

Our uniform was proper uniform though, shirts, ties, the lot, not a coloured polo shirt.

LizzyEm · 20/10/2025 19:22

We used to have to get changed because we weren't getting a complete full new clean uniform every day. As a single parent with 4 kids, my mum couldnt afford or be arsed to do that much washing. Plus I don't think we had 5 full sets.

YourSpryWriter · 20/10/2025 19:20

We got changed when we got home when I was younger but my own son leaves his uniform on. He has a clean one each day so it saves me washing after school clothes too.

PGmicstand · 20/10/2025 19:11

I'd get changed as soon as possible.
DC does exactly the same.

SoftPillow · 20/10/2025 19:02

My youngest two don’t get changed, they get home late, 6.30pm most nights and so there isn’t much point. And I would wash the shirts every night anyway, so it wouldn’t save on any washing. I don’t worry about dinner spills.

That said, if they want to change they’re very welcome, they just don’t bother unless it’s my youngest who sometimes gets straight into PJs if she’s exhausted.

ColdWaterDipper · 20/10/2025 18:55

I always got changed immediately as I had horses and went straight out to spend the whole afternoon & early evening riding & mucking out etc. my own children get changed most nights but not straight away. They tend to have various sports training every evening so they get changed into kit and head off for that after an early supper. On the rare occasion that they decide to miss a training session then they just stay in their uniform but do tend to take their blazers off as they are woollen ones and quite heavy / warm for inside (and ties are usually removed and instantly lost so that we can have a fun panic looking for them the next morning!).

theyellowjumper · 20/10/2025 18:53

Jamesblonde2 · 20/10/2025 18:15

It’s bad habits and slovenly. Tell them to get changed.

Why? I never got changed after school, neither did my kids. School uniform is pretty robust and it saves getting something else dirty. I also don't get changed after work. One outfit per day is fine if you're not going anywhere special or doing exercise.

SquigglePigs · 20/10/2025 18:47

I don't know about secondary but my 6yr old stays in her uniform after school too.

I was always straight out of mine when I got home. I just reason that uniforms have improved enough she's comfy in hers all evening and that can only be a good thing.

80smonster · 20/10/2025 18:45

Not if you go to private school, the uniform is fiendishly expensive, if DD wants to troll around our house - she can do it in her comfies. I also went to PS and my mum insisted uniform came off as soon as I stepped inside the door. Equally, if I have a central London meeting in smart clothes, I want them off when I get home to keep them looking new.

QuickPeachPoet · 20/10/2025 18:43

I don't allow it. My kids are racing off round the park, riding bikes, playing with the dog, getting dirty (even dirtier than they are already) and I actually want that uniform to last. Plus they are more comfortable in home clothes.
They put a tracksuit on after swimming classes.

JaninaDuszejko · 20/10/2025 18:33

Mine never changed. I went to a school without a uniform and never changed. I don't change after work either, CBA. I don't wear clothes I find uncomfortable.

BeMellowAquaSquid · 20/10/2025 18:30

If I’m at home I make my two dds give me their shirts and socks straight away for a very quick 15 min wash as they tend to stink not necessarily of BO but impulse or some other spray crap that smells like wee if you don’t get it out quickly

Pharazon · 20/10/2025 18:28

oura generally stayed in uniform after school when they were in infants and juniors as it was sensible shorts and cotton polos but in secondary school they get changed straight away as it is so uncomfortable. DS in particular is in shorts year round and hates wearing long trousers.

Mcoco · 20/10/2025 18:26

Always told mine to change and they did throughout primary and secondary school. Think they were happy to do so really!

MaurineWayBack · 20/10/2025 18:25

Mines stayed in uniform when it was trousers and polos/jumper.
When they started at a new school where they wore shirt and tie, they got changed as soon as they got home 😁😁

Cafebara · 20/10/2025 18:24

Depends if they will wear the same uniform again tomorrow? Mine were both clumsy and messy so a uniform didn't last for a second day, they had extra sets and it was all easy to wash and dry anyhow except the blazer. I left it up to them. They liked putting pyjamas on as soon as they got home.

CurlewKate · 20/10/2025 18:23

Up to them, really. My dd tended to stay in uniform-ds changed at once. He used to say “I want to be a home boy”🥰

IWantAShitzu · 20/10/2025 18:21

I have enough washing to do with four kids I definitely don’t want to add to that and get mine to change when they come home 🤣

dh280125 · 20/10/2025 18:21

I always changed, from a young age. My kid keeps uniform on and seems happy/comfortable about it so I let it go, no point making more washing...

Neurodiversitydoctor · 20/10/2025 18:19

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 19/10/2025 23:01

I always got changed as I only had one skirt as they were very expensive so didn't want it to get dirty.

This, I think if you only have one expensive skirt/ v. neck logoed jumper then you don't want to eat in it, if ot has got dirty it needs to get washed straight away to be dry for the morning. If it is all cheap supermarket clothes of which you have multiples, it doesn't matter.

ThePoshUns · 20/10/2025 18:17

I don’t think k I always for changed out of my uniform unless I was going somewhere

Jamesblonde2 · 20/10/2025 18:15

It’s bad habits and slovenly. Tell them to get changed.

HarlequinHare · 20/10/2025 18:14

I never changed out of secondary uniform but it was a very lax uniform - no tie or blazer - and I was a very scruffy child - long shapeless skirt, long shapeless cardigan. We didn't have a primary school uniform.
I strongly encourage DS1 to change because he's in sixth form and his suits are stupid expensive but he doesn't immediately. DS 2 almost always does some kind of exercise after school so is more likely to be in PE kit
They never got changed out of primary school uniform

Ireadnovelsbyfrenchauthorswithloosemorals · 20/10/2025 18:11

I can't remember - does it matter?

Tessabelle74 · 20/10/2025 18:07

My kids remove ties and blazers but otherwise stay in the uniform until they get ready for bed, why dirty up more clothes?

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