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No touch policy at school?

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purpleme12 · 27/08/2025 17:32

My child is going into high school
Apparently there's a 'no touch' policy at school!
Ie you can't even hug .....

Out of all the rules I didn't foresee this one...

Wondering how common this is?
Is this the case at anyone else's school?
Seems really draconioan to me

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noblegiraffe · 27/08/2025 17:51

Good. Boys are always bloody scuffling.

FourTop · 27/08/2025 17:50

BotterMon · 27/08/2025 17:48

I find it sad that it's come to this with batshit rules. But of course common sense isn't a thing anymore.

Not in 11-16 year olds who haven't been properly socialised, no. They need boundaries because they can't seem to judge for themselves what is acceptable towards others.

BotterMon · 27/08/2025 17:48

I find it sad that it's come to this with batshit rules. But of course common sense isn't a thing anymore.

FourTop · 27/08/2025 17:48

This is actually very sensible to outline, as it's mostly going to be inappropriate in that environment and there's total clarity. Everyone knows what to expect and how to behave. Touching others can be intended as harmless, but perhaps not be. And where the intention is the problem, the consequence can follow regardless of having to debate what either party felt, believed or says they did, as the rule was broken. This should protect children and adults alike.

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purpleme12 · 27/08/2025 17:48

Nobbqtoday · 27/08/2025 17:46

So not even linking arms?

Apparently so

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Nobbqtoday · 27/08/2025 17:46

So not even linking arms?

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purpleme12 · 27/08/2025 17:45

Yes, sure that's it's between students.

No touch. Boys can't do that greeting they do with the hand and like a manly hug (didn't know how else to describe, sorry 😂). One got told don't do that school actually starts cos you'll get told off for real then.

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MissyB1 · 27/08/2025 17:44

That’s interesting, I wonder if it’s because they’ve had too many previous issues? I mean at least it makes things crystal clear to the kids I suppose . But then how do they manage football at break time etc.. kids inevitably end up having physical contact.

Piffle11 · 27/08/2025 17:41

Do they need to be hugging each other at school?

I can’t remember actually hugging any of my friends at school, even though I liked them very much indeed!

SheSmellsSeaShells · 27/08/2025 17:39

Are you sure that’s the case between students? A lot of secondary schools have a no touch policy between staff and students.

Sirzy · 27/08/2025 17:38

Seems an easy way to stop any confusion.

They can hug on their own time if they want!

DiscoBob · 27/08/2025 17:36

They can hug their friends outside of school. I guess I can see it just means there is less ambiguity. It's black and white. Otherwise you could have someone saying they were touched sexually and the other person says it was just a hug or whatever. I am not sure how common it is though.