Year 7 - 2025 to 2026 - first time at BIG school

Disregulates and needs help

not sure my our school defo gives more in 7 then 8 and 9!

Why would they give more in year 7? I don't get that

No that's not what I mean. Like I say, homework is one of her triggers.
She doesn't cope well and gets incredibly stressed.
and doesn't cope well with stress or worry

So she was tired and not in the right frame of mind then tonight?

It really isn't that with her
She's aware of the consequences and she doesn't want the consequences which is why she is doing the homework
But homework has always been a trigger for her. She finds it very stressful and doesn't cope well.
We are getting into the habit of doing a bit each day. On Thursday for example she did the English bit.
The only thing we've tried to do today is the science homework. She's been on a trip all weekend so hasn't been able to do anything in between then.

Does she have homework every night?
Personally I would get her into the routine of little and often ie 30 mins per night Mon-Fri is better than facing 2 hours on a weekend. But ultimately at this age it's up to them. Some kids can only learn by getting into trouble for not doing it.
Secondary is the transition to becoming more independent and autonomous so hard as it is you need to step away slightly.
Talk through the consequences of not doing it and then it's up to her.

Year 7 homework is insane but it does get easier.. my eldest is in year 10 and obv now is getting more but in year 8 and 9 it was less then year 7.

my youngest in year 7 has loads but we are slowly getting though it

An hour and 20 minutes doing Sparx science and there's still one set of questions to do

This is bloody awful
She's so worried about getting a detention that she wants to do so she doesn't
But she's in such a state that she's screaming and writhing around on the floor and crying and it's been 45 minutes and she's only done one set of questions..

I don't know what to do
Or how to get through high school

Literally just came on MN to ask if anyone’s DC had issues with homework! My sympathies.

DS is acting like I’m the enemy/shouted that I’m “being mean” because I reminded him of homework due, and pointed out that he won’t be able to do it on X day because of clubs, etc… So I’ve told him I won’t say a word anymore about it, let’s see how the next few weeks pan out. He has an app that shows tasks set, though he barely checks it, and so far hasn’t written down reminders on a calendar without me instructing him to… It’s hard because I did really well at school but (or therefore?) my parents were never involved in my schoolwork, they’d not have a clue what homework I was set or what I was learning. I’m trying to be different and help him get a system in place, but arghhggghggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

My child is getting really stressed about homework and screaming and getting really worked up

I don't know if I can do this for years

DD has already got one new friend's phone no - a boy who gets on the bus a stop after her and goes to the same place for music lessons. She was playing her flute to him over the phone today!

Mine hadn't had any homework.yet either

I ask her most days and she said she isn't sure.

So think they haven't had any yet.

She just always seems to not know about what's going on around her. So really wouldn't be surprised if she did have homework and just didn't know it.

Luckily we've got into a routine where she packs her own bag usually the night before. That's one less thing for me to do in the mornings.

My main concerns was her making friends. She seems happy enough so hopefully it is OK.

She doesn't have a huge friendship group but seems to have a couple of people she hangs out with .

Also luckily they posted the clubs on the Facebook account. So I've told her to go to a few.

She hadn't realised. Said they flashed up on a screen at school. But changed too fast so she couldn't read them.

I can totally relate – Freddie’s had quite a bit of homework already too. I’m glad the Synergy app works well for keeping track, but I agree it’s definitely a big leap in ability at senior school. I feel lucky my eldest is quite bright, but I know I’ll probably find it much more stressful with my youngest as he’s not as academic. It’s such a big adjustment for them (and us as parents!).

DD hasn't had any homework yet - they are giving them a month's grace.

I Find it really stressful remembering everything for high school
There's more homework than I thought
I find the homework really stressful. Getting her to do it rather than doing anything else.
She finds homework really stressful and gets stressed out and worked up half the time

DD has been getting money from DH wallet and spending it, mainly on toys. We've read her the riot act and she decided to leave home. We also sent a message to the Y7 pastoral lead who called us straight back, bless her, it's common (I kind of knew this but it was reassuring) and we decided that part of learning to be responsible for her own and other people's things was to try and manage packed lunch requirements and not spend all our money on school lunches (she's very good at making her own lunch, but not good at not eating all the packed lunch contents on a Monday night).
She had a major meltdown and packed a backpack and went to sit in the garden while I had to go to a meeting at Scouts. Things have been getting to a head with her disorganisation (she finds it very hard to keep her things straight, but won't accept help) and we haven't even started with homework yet so we really need to get this sorted now rather than when things get busier.

My child says the corridors are too busy and there's lots of shoving and pushing (from year 10/11 maybe from what she says?)
She says some of the year 10/11 aren't very nice
She was shoved into a wall last week when they were trying to get by
And shoved against a wall again today she said.

I found clubs listed on our school website, but it might be worth getting in touch with school and asking for a list.

I was thinking about that this morning. We get notifications on the school app for important messages but usually dd says she already knows.

And with clubs, I had no idea any existed (although now I’ve realised they are listed on the website) but dd has signed up for some and stayed behind a couple of times for different things. We are a short walk from school so it’s not a problem at all and she just sends me a text saying she’s stopping for art club or whatever.

It is a nice feeling! I hated all the primary school correspondence. It felt like there was a new ‘thing’ I had to sort out every day!

So I think she'll miss out cos she might not know the information for it

Yes

But with clubs. (After school/in dinner)
I know nothing about these cos it's given to the children. But my child i think would love certain clubs and really enjoy them once started but needs a bit of encouragement from me first. I can't really do that when I don't know anything about anything.
And to top it off, she's rubbish at taking information in sometimes and relaying what that information is to me!

I’ve noticed one of the biggest changes when they move up to senior school is how much of the communication is aimed at the kids rather than us as parents. In primary we got every letter, email and reminder, whereas now it’s things handed to them in form time, messages on portals, or told in assembly. The idea is to make them more independent, but in practice it can mean a lot of letters sitting at the bottom of a bag or you only find out about things when your child remembers to mention them 😅.

I’ve found it helps to check the school app/portal regularly, ask them to show me any letters/texts, and not to be shy about emailing tutors/admin if I’m not sure. Schools do expect parents to still need info, but they put the responsibility on the kids first. It’s definitely a bit of a learning curve in Year 7!