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PTSD as a result of school appeals process

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Lenart · 20/06/2025 19:13

Anyone else in this position. My daughter was denied a place at secondary school in our small town. She was the only one in her class and split from all her friends- transition days I had to pull her out of school so she wasn't sat in the class on her own while everyone else went to the school she was excluded from. The school refused to give us information on distances and communication was just awful- no compassion and made me feel like I was the one out of order- Kids on our street have always gone to the local school so it was a complete and utter shock. I gave so much evidence of kids much further away than us getting a place- but the school just lied- the panel was not from this area so took the word of the school over mine.. We now feel like lepurs in our town completely isolated. I no longer have anything in common with my old school mum pals and actually feel quite traumatised in their company. I can't walk past the school. I know for certain proper procedure was not followed and feel completely wronged and helpless- they know this too but the cover up and lies rather than admitting a mistake is shocking. There is no one left to appeal to and even if they were offered a place now I don't want anything to do with the school. The problem is I just can't move on. I have had PTSD previously due to childhood trauma and the symptoms now feel exactly the same. To be fair my daughter is coping much better than me so if course keeping a brave face but inside I am screaming.

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UmberJoker · 20/06/2025 19:49

If the appeal system was really corrupted you can raise it with your MP?

DillyDallyingAllDay · 20/06/2025 19:46

What exactly have the school lied and covered up? Usually the allocations are based on criteria that’s easily available on the school website. Is the school an academy or a maintained local authority school? If you have proof of children being admitted into the school that are lower down the priority list than your child- ie: live further away than you (and you’re certain they don’t fall into any other categories higher up the list) you should be appealing on that basis. If you’ve appealed already but appealed for a different reason, legally you can appeal again if the facts of the case are different.

HollyBerryz · 20/06/2025 19:46

Can't you go to the local government and social are ombudsman re admissions?

CorneliaCupp · 20/06/2025 19:43

So I you saying that according to the schools own admissions policy you should have had a place at the school, but because of an error you weren't given one?

Doitrightnow · 20/06/2025 19:41

greensidepatch · 20/06/2025 19:31

You took your child out of school rather than have her attend a new school without her primary freinds?

I think trauma and PTSD are an absolute over reaction here and your child has been denied a chance because of you. Why did you take her out?

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You've misunderstood.

OP, I am sorry, how awful for this school to lie and cover up.

What school has your daughter been offered? Can you focus on the good things about it? I went to a school miles from home where I knew no-one and it was fantastic.

greensidepatch · 20/06/2025 19:31

You took your child out of school rather than have her attend a new school without her primary freinds?

I think trauma and PTSD are an absolute over reaction here and your child has been denied a chance because of you. Why did you take her out?