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My son sent a nude - will he be prosecuted? What happens now?

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MumOfOneB0y · 27/05/2025 20:22

Hi,

My son is 15 and has just admitted to some stuff.

He met a girl online through his other friend (also 15). She asked his other friends (let's call him Joe) for a picture of his penis. Joe sent one. Joe then ended up (my son doesn't know how) with a picture of her breasts in a bra. She also asked my son (who she was at this point dating) for a picture of his penis. My son asked if he will get anything in return. She said he can see her breasts. They traded these nudes. My son deleted the photos (as per her request). But then she asked to see my son ejaculate and my son sent a video. He then asked if she would feel comfortable sending a picture of her butt in pants. She then responded with "my dad just saw that message on my watch". And my son asked what he said and apparently her dad was threatening to call my son and ask to speak to me. I would've been okay with this but now she is 'gohsting' my son and him and his friend are worried. We live in Leeds and this girl lives in Durham. What is going to happen? Please help!

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JohnnyLuLus · 27/05/2025 20:41

This does indeed sound like sextortion. I work for a local authority in a children's mental health role and this is an exact story we hear again and again from teen boys.
I would agree with PP, get in touch with CEOP.

LittleHangleton · 27/05/2025 20:40

Safeguarding Lead here.

If things happened as he described, there will be no legal consequences. Police will not criminalise consensual exchange of nudes at this age.

If he sent a nude unsolicited, or pressured her for a nude, that could get him in trouble. Remember he's likely to give you a sanitised version of events.

Another risk is that he's now lost all real control over the imagery sent. If he finds out they are onward shared, that makes him a victim. He should never onward share someone else's image.

What's good here is the speed and apparent ease he told you about this. That's the right thing for him to do and suggests he has a good relationship with you. Most teens i deal with dont tell their parents. Support him to make good choices and learn, rather than shaming him.

Aitchemarsey · 27/05/2025 20:38

Sigh.

Very unlikely he would be in trouble with the police, although obviously both sending and receiving intimate photos of minors is against the law.

More importantly, as others have said, this is quite possibly a blackmail scam if he has never met this girl.

He should contact CEOP as previous poster has said. If the photos turn up online, Childline have a service that can find and remove them.

90% of "child porn" online is now generated by young people themselves, and then used or traded by God knows who. You really need to talk to your son about these things.

Stripeyanddotty · 27/05/2025 20:37

Hope he’s not blackmailed.

AnonWho23 · 27/05/2025 20:37

You son needs to gave his phone and socials taken away from him. He isn't responsible enough to have them. There are a few possibilities.

1, it's a girl, and he's disrupting child porn. Unfortunately, this is the best case scenario.
2, it's a scam and he'll be ask for money or the video will be posted online.
3, it's a gang and he'll be blackmailed to fo jobs like deliver drugs or it eill be sent to you/ posted online ect

I'd take the phone and see what demands are made. You may need to get the police involved if it gets nasty. Also, i there have been suicides linked to this scam so watch your boy closely, remind him that you love him and your proud of him always.

babyproblems · 27/05/2025 20:36

I highly doubt the ‘girl’ was a 15 year old girl from Durham!
Agree it’s probably a scam… he’s learnt the hard way to listen to the advice to not send pictures or talk to strangers on the internet!!!!

LIZS · 27/05/2025 20:33

How are 15yo “dating” when they live so far apart? Have they met? Unfortunately he could be in trouble as both underage. He has been very naive.

cestlavielife · 27/05/2025 20:31

"Met a girl online"
Who is probably not a girl at all
He has been very silly
Has this not been covered at school?
Now he will get blackmailed but at least he has told you
Get advice from ceops https://www.ceop.police.uk/Safety-Centre/

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titchy · 27/05/2025 20:31

How can he be ‘dating’ someone a hundred miles away? Did they ever actually meet?

Arran2024 · 27/05/2025 20:28

I suspect they are about to be scammed. Seriously, have they no idea about this stuff? I thought 15 year old boys knew about not sending nudes, not responding to requests from online "friends". Do you speak to him about online safety?