Hello, I would really welcome some advice.
DS starts secondary in September. He is a very bright boy who does well at school, NT/no suspected neurodivergence but he can be SO forgetful and scatty I really worry for him starting at secondary and just getting punished all the time for it.
Examples this weekend alone:
- football Saturday am, asked for the millionth time whether he should wear his footie boots or wear trainers and take boots with him. As per every week since at least January we told him to wear trainers and take boots.
- forgets to take boots with him. Hubby realises as they arrive at footie and has to drive him back in a rush to collect them (not ideal as hubby is one of the coaches and can’t be late).
- leaves bag with inhaler in the car a few streets away instead of taking with him to the pitch. Thankfully he rarely needs it but he knows he should have it with him.
- today, attends a birthday party and leaves his hoodie there.
I know this scatiness isn’t unusual in a pre-teen boy, but obviously secondary is a massive step up with so much more to remember in terms of different sports kit/equipment/books/laptop/instrument etc and of course remembering to take and bring back blazers/jackets etc. And whereas we’ve been able to take eg forgotten football kit to his local primary a 5 min walk away that just won’t be possible at secondary.
We’ve been trying to make him more responsible for remembering his own stuff (we write his clubs etc on the calendar for him to check, telling him we won’t bring forgotten stuff to his primary) it’s only semi-working.
So if you’ve been through similar and have any tips they would be very welcome!
As a PS if people have app recommendations he is not going to have a smartphone but will have a brick phone with a basic calendar/reminder app, and he does have an iPad at home.
Thank you!