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Where do we stand on girls not being allowed to go to the loo?

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JandamiHash · 24/01/2025 09:40

DD is 11 in year 7 and I reckon she will be staring her periods soon. Lots of signs and some cramping. Shes really nervous because her lessons are an hour long and they aren’t allowed to go to the toilet. She says everyone is always told no.

My periods were so heavy when I started mine aged 14 that I would have leaked everywhere if my lessons had been any longer than the 35 minutes. Even now when I get my period one days 1 and 2 I need to change sanitary towel at least once an hour.

What is the consensus about this? DD is my eldest so secondary is all new to me. Is this standard? I do get that gen school will have piss takers but do they think about girls in these situations at all?

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JandamiHash · 24/01/2025 09:48

Natsku · 24/01/2025 09:44

I think its wrong and I'm glad I left the UK before I had children because I would not want to send my children to British secondary schools the way they are now.

Perhaps you could ask the school if they give any leniency to girls on their periods? I have heard that some schools do. That might reassure your DD a bit.

I think you’re right, she’s had contact with the pastoral team because of some very toxic friendships she found herself part of in which she was physically hurt, and the staff are brilliant so I may drop them an email

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Octavia64 · 24/01/2025 09:45

Speak to the head of year or pastoral team.

There is usually a system of toilet passes and they are happy to hand them out if needed.

Justme2023123 · 24/01/2025 09:44

Same position here, I'm dreading it for my DD who is already an anxious being.

Natsku · 24/01/2025 09:44

I think its wrong and I'm glad I left the UK before I had children because I would not want to send my children to British secondary schools the way they are now.

Perhaps you could ask the school if they give any leniency to girls on their periods? I have heard that some schools do. That might reassure your DD a bit.

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