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Change in behaviour since starting secondary

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Laurenmummytoo2 · 08/01/2025 18:28

Just looking for some advice if this has happened with any other children. At my wits end 😔

My child started secondary fully in september. Since starting he has drastically changed in behaviour. Everyday he is getting phone calls home, detention, sanctions, isolations. His behaviour consists of disruptions constantly in lessons, answering back, no respect towards teachers. He is a very bright boy and scared of what he doing for his future. He is already been moved down sets for English and in talks of been moved down from top set maths.

His behaviour is also bad at home, tormenting his brothers and fighting, back chatting, swearing, don't care attitude towards everything.

I'm not sure why, I have spoken to him over and over and he doesn't take any responsibility for his actions it's always someone else to blame.

He turned 12 in December.

I just don't know what to do or how to treat this and nothing is working so far.

Does anyone have experience from this and any advice on anything that helped your child through this, isit a phase? I just don't know anymore. 😔😔

OP posts:
SometimesYouWinSometimesYouLearn · 09/01/2025 12:00

Does he get enough sleep? It is essential that he goes to sleep at a right time.
I think he may be trying to impress his buddies. How is he behaving at home?

Why did they already move him down to the lower set? That depends on his results and not his behaviour

Solent123 · 08/01/2025 22:00

Secondary school is a huge change, if you've tried to talk and listen to what's going on with him and you're not getting anywhere I would look at moving schools.