Shouted at daughters bully

Really not a smart move. Get ahead of this and go to the school tomorrow. Have you been to the school about the bullying

It’s really upsetting when your child is upset but I would never, ever get involved in this way directly with children or speaking directly to parents.

I know a lot of people assume that the child will be intimidated by an angry adult but a lot of the time they aren’t; they find it funny. Rather than ending up with a child stammering and agreeing to leave your child alone you end up being mocked and that potentially is going to make life more difficult for your child.

Then on the off chance that they were intimidated by the adult, they can very rightly use this as first line of defence if challenged by school or whoever and you can end up in situations like this where parents are involved who may be more intimidating than you are, or who know people who are.

I imagine the school will probably say you should let them deal with it and I do think this is best. By all means press the school if nothing seems to be happening.

Thing with recording is the people who use the videos want to loom whiter than white.

So a video of you saying everything she's done to bully DD isn't a useful tool.

And if they go to the police you just report the bullying to them and ask for an investigation.

There is no way for them to come out of this unscathed which may be your saving Grace!

Totally understand why you did it too.

I always love the ‘move schools’ like there is 1000s of spare school places at any school you choose!

If you are actually able to stand toe to toe with bullies mother, find her, corner her, and tell her in words of one syllable to stay away, and keep her daughter away, from yours.
If not, move schools because your daughter now has a massive target on her back, and the bullying will escalate.
Don't expect any help from the school, they just won't, no matter what they might say, they won't care or actually do anything.

They sound like utter shits and pretty thick too. What do they think the police are going to see from their video? A mum trying to get them to stop bullying her child.

I agree with PP, move to a nicer school.

with respect.... rough parents?what is that?
youre no better-yelling at kids really -will getchu in serious shit.

Oh come on, hardly the same now, is it?

with respect.... rough parents?what is that?
youre no better-yelling at kids really -will getchu in serious shit.
is really crap for dd.understand how difficult situation is to navigate.who said go school,police etc?
kids or rough parents.if you shouting wht you say you did-is far from ideal,BUT...exposes wht they been doing so let them.are school already aware?they need to be

I wouldn't worry about the police.
I'd be more worried about the repercussions from her family.
If this girl is ballsy enough to chase after your car, shouting abuse, she probably knows her parents are going to back her up, that there'll be no repercussions for her.
It takes some balls as a teenager to shout at a parent.
I'd move your dd out of that school.
I saw a similar incident recently where a dm confronted a schoolgirl for bullying her dd, I was walking on the other side of the road, it really wasn't a good look, understandable as everyone would want to protect their dc but I walked away thinking the dm had just shot herself in the foot by confronting the "bully".

If we were that rough, our kids wouldn't be bullied. What we do have is a fierce urge to protect our children like the OP here, even when we might be frightened.

Change schools. Your daughter has a target on her back now and if you can’t match the roughness of the bullying family (as others on here can) you have no hope in rectifying this situation.

I'd have no problem doing that. I won't let my kids be bullied. My partner's family won't either. There was a time where a girl wouldn't leave another family member alone and the school didn't do anything about it. A confrontation with the girl's mother and a few of our family members where they were told what would occur if it didn't stop and it was all cleared up. We don't play once we've tried to do the right thing. We won't have our kids terrorised. We will knock on your door.

Change your daughter's school she will be happier. I wouldn't keep putting her in that situation if it's causing her to have issues with eating etc. and the school is doing nothing. You probably won't be in much trouble but the video will get shared around her school and will make things worse.

Don’t worry you didn’t say anything wrong she shouldn’t call your daughter a fat cow and you’re right for telling her. The police have got way more important things to do 😆 I would ask the school to keep a close eye on her this week though. Well done on standing up for your daughter.