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Elite award

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Mrsmouse71 · 09/07/2024 22:37

High school do a KS3 award night annually. Last year dd won a specific subject, this year nothing. Represented the school at a regional final and only dropped one mark from a recent assessment, is an A+ student with no conduct or attendance issues. Would you mention it in next meeting with form tutor or am I being 'that' mother?? The teacher said she's literally years ahead of the class

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NewName24 · 09/07/2024 23:45

Smartiepants79 · 09/07/2024 23:18

What are the criteria the school use for choosing who receives this award? Just being academically good? Or a more complex collection of reasons?
I really wouldn’t go to school and tell them you think your DD was robbed and they should give her the award. You would not look good. And they’re extremely unlikely to change their minds.
She sounds like she gets plenty of recognition for her efforts. Maybe someone else’s child also deserved a chance to be recognised this year.

This.

and yes, you would be "that parent"

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Mrsmouse71 · 09/07/2024 23:26

Angelcake20 they did it last year as the best possible in each subject. I don't get how she isn't after the results

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Smartiepants79 · 09/07/2024 23:18

What are the criteria the school use for choosing who receives this award? Just being academically good? Or a more complex collection of reasons?
I really wouldn’t go to school and tell them you think your DD was robbed and they should give her the award. You would not look good. And they’re extremely unlikely to change their minds.
She sounds like she gets plenty of recognition for her efforts. Maybe someone else’s child also deserved a chance to be recognised this year.

angelcake20 · 09/07/2024 23:16

We will not give our subject awards to any child who has had one for that subject before and they can only have one award each year. We also like to award effort and engagement as well as achievement so they are not always given to the top students. DCs' school however gives the prizes to the highest scoring student, occasionally resulting in one child having more than half the rewards. Different schools will have different processes for allocation. Yes, you would be 'that' mother for raising this. I'm very surprised that they use the word 'elite'.

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Mrsmouse71 · 09/07/2024 23:12

She and a male child represented the school at a university. I would expect him to win the other award
Last year, 3 got to the regional final, two to the national, they all got awards. Slightly different subjects

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Geppili · 09/07/2024 23:05

How can you know that?

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Mrsmouse71 · 09/07/2024 23:01

She is though...

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combinationpadlock · 09/07/2024 22:58

She might not be the only one that all those things are true for.

Ioverslept · 09/07/2024 22:57

Maybe another child deserved it too and they can only give it to one?

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Mrsmouse71 · 09/07/2024 22:54

She only won the award a year ago. How do you have an elite award if the top of the class don't win?? There is both boy/girl award

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BestZebbie · 09/07/2024 22:46

Perhaps they feel she has won enough already? (I don't necessarily agree with this if they are also pretending it is done on pure merit, but it is common).