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Poor attendance, how to help DP see this is not ok?

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DreamyCritic · 07/03/2024 09:19

DP received DSDs report last week, she is in Y10. Subject wise all good mostly passes and ATL is 2 across the board however attendance is 89%.
DSD is a bright girl and polite/good student but will avoid school wherever possible.

We are looking to take all our DC abroad in December for a long weekend which will require a few days out of school. I have spoke to my sons (Y10 also) school and as his attendance is 98% the HT agrees he will authorise the absence as the trip is educational along with it being a family break.

I am concerned the given DSDs poor attendance they will refuse the absence & DP simply keeps repeating that 89% is not that bad.

I am struggling to get him to see that regardless of the trip 89% is poor and he needs to take it seriously. Anyone have any suggestions as its difficult ground for me given that he can become very defensive of DSD.

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Desecratedcoconut · 07/03/2024 09:30

We wouldn't get an authorized absence for anything like this regardless of any attendance rate. And, tbh, how detrimental the time is away from school is entirely irrelevant to it being chalked up as authorized or not. So, presumably the issue is whether they will chase you for a fine for removing dsd - is that right?

If your dh and his ex are relaxed about their dsd's poor attendance rate, I doubt there will be anything you can do to alter that. This is one of those things that has to do with differing personalities and principles, you can't change that with a collection of words.

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