School unable to identify sexual harassment perpetrator and are doing nothing

Do you know whether this has happened to other girls?

Sometimes there are hotspots where incidents can happen so schools should try to put measures in these places to prevent further incidents.

I would be taking it further as your DD should not be the one having to change her behaviour.

For those who are trying to minimise this behaviour maybe you should read this
https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/review-of-sexual-abuse-in-schools-and-colleges/review-of-sexual-abuse-in-schools-and-colleges

Although this is obviously extremely distressing fir the op's daughter, the actions of a 12 or 13 year old boy who are in the main very anmoying and immature is very different to an assault by an older boy or man which is more likely to be sexually motivated.

Bollock. The age of criminal responsibility is 10. You can be tried for murder at 10yo. 12/13yo boys know what they are doing and know it's wrong and digressing for their victim - hence the laughing and refusing to implicate the perpetrator.

Police please

An equivalent event happened locally at a school a few years ago but it was a racial not sexual attack.

All the boys were expelled. National outrage. Literally on the news. Ofsted visited and annihilated the school in a scathing report. Questions were asked in parliament. Bloody rightly so.

Similar incident but to a girl? Nothing to see here / shoulder shrug / fuck off snd sit in the library love. You can really see where girls are in the pecking order in 2024.

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It's a completely appalling response stance by the school. Akin to telling a victim to just stay away from the bully. They're saying they can't keep their students safe from sexual harrassment. The very least they could do is tell the boys they have to be near the teadher in the library for a week so OPs DD feels ok going back.

I think I'm most shocked that the advice from school seemed to be that she, as the victim, should hide herself in the library, in effect. By this they condone it as a non issue. So so bad

If they are covering for each other, then the school must sanction them all (as they are all in the wrong), and tell them all that they will have to escalate the matter to the police. The school's response is pitiful.

Tell the school you plan to write to the governors/board members, copying in to MP. And do it.

Can you leave me alone please. It’s the second thread now, where you have made a dig. Thank you.

Oh, I got your point. I agree.

I know, I completely understood the irony!! 😀

My point was that the school would be inclined to take it very seriously and probably not suggest that the boy just sits with a teacher

It's a stupid plan, and not only because she doesn't know who he is 🙄

This sounds like a good plan….👏😀

Why on earth should she have to hide away in the library at break times!

I think all the boys should be punished, daily detentions until they can name who actually did it. I'd bet the name comes out fairly quickly!

If I were in your shoes then I would not allow my daughter to return to that school until they've made it clear to the boys that they have to disclose the perpetrator of the assault or else they all face the same punishment which in my opinion should be they all get banned from school for a week to put the onus on the parents to let their sons know that their behaviour is unacceptable.

Sadly the culture today is 'snitches get stitches' and schools are wishy washy about banning children.

@ilovebreadsauce
surely assault is assault

What would they do if she got a few mates together and broke his nose? Would they say oh we don’t know which girl it was, he’d better sit in the library? I’m guessing not.

@ilovebreadsauce oh that old boys will be boys crap. Why should girls have to put up with behaviour like that?

Well its moot now because they are now grown men!
Had something like that happened when they were 12 or 13 year old boys, I think they would probably have told the perpetrator to knock it off and dissociated themselves from the wrongdoer and group.

Although this is obviously extremely distressing fir the op's daughter, the actions of a 12 or 13 year old boy who are in the main very anmoying and immature is very different to an assault by an older boy or man which is more likely to be sexually motivated.

@Birdsflyinghigh1

Who in the school has been dealing with this?
It sounds like its the HoY who is being useless.
It should be the head teacher or child safety officer.

If the boys are covering for each other, then all the boys involved need to be disciplined. IMO a day or two suspension is appropriate. The school are setting a very dangerous precedent by allowing the boys to cover for each other in this way. It won't work for them in the real world and it shouldn't work for them in school. If my son was involved in something like this, I would want to know and I would want him disciplined, and two days suspension for covering up another boys violation of a girl is entirely appropriate.

When I was a teen, if a group covered for each other like this, every single one of them would be put in detention. Most of them would pretty quickly "remember" what happened.

They were all involved in the harassment even if they just shouted etc, and they know full well who lifted her skirt, so the punishment would be deserved.

Glad to see victim blaming is still alive and well 🙄
Your daughter should be able to wear to a skirt if she wants to.

And the school should be isolating the group and spending lunchtime with teachers until someone owns up, instead of punishing your DD. Unbelievable!

Refer to the latest KCSIE document. There’s a huge focus in there on child on child sexual abuse. Might help to focus the school’s mind.