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My DS failed every one of his mock GCSEs

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Choirsinger7 · 16/12/2023 15:14

That's it really, found the results screwed up and he got 3s and 2s in everything. He was predicted 5s last year. All of my friends have high achieving focussed children, and indeed my DD is also one of them, and don't feel I can talk to anyone as feel upset and different to everyone else. He has recently been diagnosed with ASD and is on the pathway to ADHD assessment based on guidance from CAHMs which is undoubtedly having an impact I would have thought. He said he was revising but he didn't really do much despite the school giving the kids lots of support and revision tips and I bought all the study guides for him, watched films on the GCSE English lit texts and offered to sit with him or pay for a tutor (which we can't really afford). He didn't want any of these. He has applied for sixth form for courses he needs 4s and 5s which seems ambitious now, and also a college course where he needs two 4s in English and Maths. Feel pretty distraught and worried for him. Any comforting words or guidance would be gratefully received

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Choirsinger7 · 16/12/2023 15:19

He doesn’t have a plan as was only diagnosed recently and his school have offered lots of adjustments (all of which he has refused to take as he doesn’t want to look different to him friends), I understand the EHCP plan takes ages to get and may be too late for GCSEs now

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Moglet4 · 16/12/2023 15:18

Choirsinger7 · 16/12/2023 15:14

That's it really, found the results screwed up and he got 3s and 2s in everything. He was predicted 5s last year. All of my friends have high achieving focussed children, and indeed my DD is also one of them, and don't feel I can talk to anyone as feel upset and different to everyone else. He has recently been diagnosed with ASD and is on the pathway to ADHD assessment based on guidance from CAHMs which is undoubtedly having an impact I would have thought. He said he was revising but he didn't really do much despite the school giving the kids lots of support and revision tips and I bought all the study guides for him, watched films on the GCSE English lit texts and offered to sit with him or pay for a tutor (which we can't really afford). He didn't want any of these. He has applied for sixth form for courses he needs 4s and 5s which seems ambitious now, and also a college course where he needs two 4s in English and Maths. Feel pretty distraught and worried for him. Any comforting words or guidance would be gratefully received

I’m sorry- this is always really upsetting and worrying. Having said that, do try not to panic; I’ve had plenty of students get poor results in the mocks then suddenly panic and pull it out of the bag last minute. I would say a last minute tutor might be helpful at least for English and Maths or you could well end up in an unpleasant resit cycle.

Lilithlogic · 16/12/2023 15:18

Are you ashamed of him? yourself? how it looks to others? Such a wierd word that seems to make it all about you

FrancisSeaton · 16/12/2023 15:18

He hasn't failed
The system has failed him.

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Choirsinger7 · 16/12/2023 15:17

Yes that could be relevant but how do we address it?

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bunhead1979 · 16/12/2023 15:17

You are ashamed of your disabled child? I hope you’ve not said that to him! School is really tough for autistic kids, and it gets harder over time. Time to make a support plan with school if he doesn’t already have one.

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Choirsinger7 · 16/12/2023 15:16

If I go quiet it’s because my DD wants to borrow my phone but will check in later to see if anyone has responded, thank you

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Daftasabroom · 16/12/2023 15:15

Look up "demand avoidance".