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Tutoring an able child

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RoundTheBloch · 14/11/2023 13:10

I'm just musing really. Is there any point in tutoring an already academic child, not for entrance exams etc?

DC is yr 8 and very able/top sets etc in all subjects. But in maths in particular I feel a bit more time or focus would help her to reach her potential. I know there are a lot of ifs and buts at her age, but the school reports suggest she is working towards a potential 8 at GCSE. Homework is always done, but no actual work/textbooks come home to learn from it's all online quizzes etc, and having never struggled I feel there is a lot of coasting going on... But then, I don't want to be an overly pushy parent either and she is doing brilliantly already. I'm not sure how much benefit a potential a small grade increase would give?

Is this a thing people do?

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Grimbelina · 14/11/2023 13:37

It really depends on whether she is a child who likes/wants/needs to be stretched. If she is and you don't tutor you can run into problems of de-motivation, coasting, not really developing the resilience you need to get further in subjects, especially at A level. If she is happy where she is, then I wouldn't interfere.

You really need to be led by the child.

ErrolTheDragon · 14/11/2023 13:33

A possible downside might be if she starts to feel she's under pressure to get 9s across the board.

MaryJanesonabreak · 14/11/2023 13:31

The problem with coasting is that she might benefit from learning how to apply herself to something she finds difficult.
The middle of the road ‘plodders’ don’t expect everything to be easy and are used to working for their results.
I don’t think it would hurt your academic able child to learn some useful study skills for confidence in the things that don’t come easily.

lanthanum · 14/11/2023 13:29

Schools are often reluctant to forecast 9s, so "on course for grade 8" may actually mean "on course for at least grade 8".

CurlewKate · 14/11/2023 13:26

No.

RoseAndRose · 14/11/2023 13:26

I wouldn't tutor regularly, but I would look for holiday activities - eg coding/logic/maths, that will seem like fun, not deliberate enrichment.

ErrolTheDragon · 14/11/2023 13:24

It might depend on why she's not currently achieving her potential (if that is indeed the case). At yr 8 it might be not properly understanding a few things (my dd got temporary stuck because her teacher managed to totally confuse her about basic trig, rectified by me in about 10 minutes on the back of a napkin). Or it might be that she's a bit slapdash and prone to silly errors - that can affect good mathematicians doing 'easy' stuff, not sure if tutoring would help with that.

At this stage I suppose it might make a difference to which maths set she's in for GCSEs and whether she's able to do gcse FM if it's available at her school.

RoundTheBloch · 14/11/2023 13:22

Thank you. That is the way I am thinking, that actually doing your best has benefits, even if it isn't your favourite thing (she doesn't dislike it, but leans more towards other subjects). She does have a long running hobby she spends a lot of time on out of school so the concept of "practice" will hopefully stick from that. There is a bit of a difference between something purely of your choosing and a core subject you have to study at school though. I think she'd be happy to do it, but you're right, homework will ramp up at school naturally and maybe there isn't enough benefit.

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MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 14/11/2023 13:20

My dd is a tutor. She tutors a few very able children and one quite exceptional one. She thinks that most of them seem to really benefit from it, though she thinks the mother of the exceptional one is far too pushy!

For some, it's about making the most of their natural abilities. For others, it's more about building confidence.

MadKittenWoman · 14/11/2023 13:19

I wouldn't say it's usual, but if she wants to go on to do maths at A level leading to a degree subject at a university that requires an A* then it may be a good idea as prep. My DS missed out on his first choice university as he only got an A. Depends whether she would enjoy it or not.

Jellycats4life · 14/11/2023 13:19

You’ve asked the key question - what is to gain from increasing a grade 8 to a 9?

Not much, I’d say. Far better to coast a little than push a child into burnout.

Besides, they’re only in year 8. There’s plenty of time for the school to to ramp up homework expectations, surely? In year 8 I’d be glad to see the school keeping it manageable.

froginawell · 14/11/2023 13:15

I did for ds1, who was doing very well anyway, but I felt like he could do with some support to keep on track.

Tutor was lovely but a bit bemused (he'll get an 8 anyway... but it's your money type of comments)

We did 6 months, I think it helped set the idea that you can always improve and work harder, which has carried ds1 through into adulthood.

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