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Is there any DeI-free private girls school in Hertfordshire?

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WorkinMumsince4ever · 26/09/2023 20:42

Hi,
I was wondering if anyone knew about schools in Hertfordshire where gender identity was not a thing.
Thanks!

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WorkinMumsince4ever · 26/09/2023 23:28

@AutumnCrow , thank you! Have a lovely evening.

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WorkinMumsince4ever · 26/09/2023 23:27

Thank you @NegativeCreeep , wouldn’t mind if it wasn’t too far from us. 😬

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WomenShouldStillWinWomensSports · 26/09/2023 23:04

Here OP I just found this on RMS in Rickmansworth. If you read what they're saying rather than how they're saying it, their actual policies seem sensible and sound. I especially like:

"Should a pupil disclose that they are having gender identity thoughts, that they are identifying as trans, gender fluid, gender non-conforming, non- binary or gender questions, the school’s overall approach is not an affirming and encouraging one, it is a supportive and inclusive one." [followed by exactly what they mean by that].

I also liked: "We remain a girls school." Which is an excellent complete sentence. ;)

Basically it sounds like they will facilitate girls who need to explore their gender but that they also understand their duty is to act in the best interests of all pupils not just the few. And that they are not going to allow biological males to attend any time soon.

They have also specifically addressed toilets and changing rooms (all cubicles), boarding and school trips.

If we lived closer to Rickmansworth or if we move further in that direction in the future I would consider RMS actually, they sound very sensible and very aware of the fine balancing act they need to maintain.

https://www.rmsforgirls.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/GENDER-IDENTITY-1.pdf

https://www.rmsforgirls.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/GENDER-IDENTITY-1.pdf

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 26/09/2023 22:35

everybody has gender identity, i think you’d be pretty hard pushed to find somewhere where it is not a thing.

Don't be so ridiculous. It wasn't really a thing anywhere until quite recently. And no, not everybody has a gender identity. I have a sex. Gender is simply a bunch of stereotypes. Unfortunately, some people have decided that rather than continuing to dismantle and reject outdated sex-based stereotypes, it would be better if we categorised everyone according to them.

WomenShouldStillWinWomensSports · 26/09/2023 22:28

iffyi · 26/09/2023 20:43

everybody has gender identity, i think you’d be pretty hard pushed to find somewhere where it is not a thing. i imagine you don’t want any pronouns either?

LOL no thanks. I have a sex not a gender. 🤣

What age are the children OP? Westbrook Hay has allegedly not drank the kool aid but it's a prep. Might be worth seeing where their girls end up for 13+ though. Hertfordshire has a massive dearth of girls schools at every level IME. It's why we couldn't put DS in private - there was nowhere within a reasonable distance to put DD when the time came.

BarqsHasBite · 26/09/2023 22:23

Here’s what I was told about STAHS.

Is there any DeI-free private girls school in Hertfordshire?
BarqsHasBite · 26/09/2023 21:37

iffyi · 26/09/2023 20:43

everybody has gender identity, i think you’d be pretty hard pushed to find somewhere where it is not a thing. i imagine you don’t want any pronouns either?

I absolutely do not have a gender identity! It’s utter rubbish.
@WorkinMumsince4ever I am also a Hertfordshire mum and would love to know too! I did get a bit of intel on St Albans High, will dig it out later.

AutumnCrow · 26/09/2023 21:02

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NegativeCreeep · 26/09/2023 20:45

St Chris School in Letchworth is very liberal (no uniform, teachers called by their first names etc), but is co-ed…

iffyi · 26/09/2023 20:43

everybody has gender identity, i think you’d be pretty hard pushed to find somewhere where it is not a thing. i imagine you don’t want any pronouns either?