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Shown myself up at school

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Wereallcrazynow · 05/03/2008 14:31

My DS is 14 and is always in trouble for being silly. He's not a bully, he's just very, very immature, easily led and likes to be laughed at. This has been the same all through primary and secondary school.

Anyway he was suspended for 2 days last week for locking his friend in a toilet cubicle and leaving him there for 2 hours. He went back last thursday and he's been in trouble non stop since.

Anyway I got called in today and was read a catalogue of incidents involving DS since last thursday.

Thing is some of them were actually funny and I had to contain myself so hard throughout and I could see that the head was starting to notice which just made it worse. Part of it was the way the head was reading the stuff out.

Anyway the final one was that he'd written "BO Brig" on the whiteboard in reference to his teachers BO problem. When he said it I just burst out laughing, tried to disguise it as a cough which just made it even worse and by the end I had to apologise and leave.

My excuse - My son has been a constant cause of worry and concern for me since he learnt to walk, I have had years of teachers complaining about him, other parents, neighbours...I'm a single parent and in the end was advised to pick my battles with him. Therefore the dafter stuff I ignore, the worse stuff I come down hard on. I also suffer from a terrible nervous laugh which is worse under pressure.

I have not heard from the school yet since I walked out, what should I do? Write and apologise? phone and apologise or just leave it?? I'm sure they're probably thinking we're one of "those families" now but its not that I find his behaviour funny...its just that from all the other stuff he could be doing and probably will be doing next week...I just couldn't help but laugh at a daft comment wrote on a board.

Am I making too much light of this? seriousness of it is that I'm hugely embarrassed and don't know what to do next

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nametaken · 05/03/2008 15:28

what MB said

Blandmum · 05/03/2008 14:36

Locking someone in the toilets is quite a dangerous thing to do, if there had been a fire, he might not have been able to get out.

He could also get into trouble for 'skiving' a lesson.

The BO thing was insulting, deeply insulting. I bet if the teacher had written it about your son, you wouldn't have thought it was funny.

I think you are making light of this, individually these may be lesser problems, but put together they are painting a picture of a child who is becomeing out of control, sorry, but that is how I read it.

And while it may well be sensible for you to pick your fights (and I think that it might well be) the *school cannot do that, because of the message that it sends to the other 29 kids in the class.

I'd write and tell thenm that the laughter was nervous, and that you do intend to take it all seriously, make another appointment and agree a common stratagy with the school

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