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Deregestering in year 9, starting fresh in year 10?

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WitsHaveEnded · 10/05/2023 16:02

Am I mad? DD is in the brink of being permanently excluded. Awaiting ADHD diagnosis and her behaviour has just tanked year on year since starting seniors. High performing results focussed school. Late nearly every day, constantly skipping lessons, not a day goes by they aren't calling me at work to let me know. Met with headteacher 2 weeks ago who said she is 'unlike any child he has ever met', is polite and doesn't argue back but is quietly defiant. They're focusing and really driving home how it is affecting staff more than her. They gave her 4 weeks to sort it out.

Nothing is getting through to her. Her field of fucks is barren. Phone call again today to let me know she's truanted most lessons today in the toilets and that the paperwork to go before the Governors has been filled out.

So do I jump before we are pushed? She's so unhappy there, too much has happened now and she is 'that kid'. I'm considering deregestering her and homeschooling for the rest of the academic year, and applying for new schools to start in year 10. Is that even possible?

Managed move not an option, already refused that due to their suggestions of places - ofsted failing academies.

Anyone experienced similar or have any advice please? I'm so torn on what to do for the best. Thanks if you got this far!

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cansu · 10/05/2023 17:50

Why is she late to school?
Why is she refusing to go to any lessons?
Why would this be different in another school?

If you are doing this so that she isn't permanently excluded, the new school will ask for her records from the old school and will therefore know what happened previously.

The more important question is what do you and the school need to do to get her into lessons? What can you do as a parent to get her into school on time?
What can you do if she refuses a reasonable instruction to attend her lessons? What could the school do if she spends the day truanting all her classes?

EduCated · 10/05/2023 17:39

Agree, don’t write off the schools based on their Ofsted’s. It sounds like the current school probably has a high Ofsted, and that isn’t exactly working out. They may be schools with more experience of dealing with a range of behaviours and being more flexible to facilitate engagement.

Moving now may also enable some input into GCSE choices, rather than being slotted into whichever subjects have space.

titchy · 10/05/2023 17:34

And actually does the Ofsted matter? Go visit with an open mind.

titchy · 10/05/2023 17:33

Where would you start afresh from though if not through a MM?

Needmorelego · 10/05/2023 16:51

Where I live a lot of teens switch schools for Year 10. Plus there are some schools (the UTCs) that only start at Year 10 or some colleges run specific 14 - 16 programs.
If you live in an area that has similar options and you can be fairly certain she can get a place in September then I say go for it.
Remove her from school. Focus on what's causing her behaviours, do some home learning on things she actually enjoys doing and is interested in. Get her mental health better.
The only issue is you may have missed the deadline for applying for Year 10 places so I am not sure how it would work.
Good luck.

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