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If in London and you got a place at your preferred school via the waiting list, how far down were you and how long did you have to wait for your place?

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CloudsOverHead · 18/04/2023 11:13

We're 40+ on the waiting list for our preferred school (250 intake) but before any second round offers were made. I was told by the admissions people that there was a lot of movement to come (in London so always lots moving in/out/going private) but don't know whether to hold hopes high or assume it's never going to happen.

In previous years, I know people who were in the 60s on the list (same school) who got their place in early April but others who only moved from 50ish to 30ish before giving up in August.

Really interested to hear other experiences please!

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SleepyRooster · 05/09/2023 13:34

We are now #6 on WL and top choice school started yesterday. Can't see that many kids either no-showing or turning down late offers?
So bloody disheartening to be this close.
And going by historical data only a few places turn up over autumn term.
Am disappointed but DC doesn't know. She starts 2nd choice tomorrow.

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 10:57

@Turquoiseturtle3 we sound exactly the same!
Plus I don’t like not getting something I want! I’m turning into Verruca Salt x

Turquoiseturtle3 · 05/09/2023 10:54

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 10:51

@Turquoiseturtle3
Hope he has an amazing day.
You’re the same as me, he has more friends at current school but we can’t shift that nagging feeling of the 1st choice school. Plus it’s so much closer.
Maybe by the end of the week things will move a little xx here’s hoping xx

Sounds like we are in exactly the same boat. My husband isn’t keen on the switch but I am a bit like a dog with a bone. I need to seriously think because it’s been an obsession for 6 months now so maybe I’m just getting swept along with the desire of that school. Argh!!!

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 10:51

@Turquoiseturtle3
Hope he has an amazing day.
You’re the same as me, he has more friends at current school but we can’t shift that nagging feeling of the 1st choice school. Plus it’s so much closer.
Maybe by the end of the week things will move a little xx here’s hoping xx

Turquoiseturtle3 · 05/09/2023 10:31

He started this morning. He knows a lot of kids and good friends going to the current school. He won’t really know any at the top choice school so it will be tough to move. Atm he is up for it. It will depend on how well he settles. Frustrating when people don’t turn up. But maybe it will work to our advantage as some won’t move now they have bought the uniform and won’t want to inflict the stress of moving. One of the local schools doesn’t start until tomorrow and that might prompt a tiny bit of movement. Going to keep the faith until the end of the week.

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 10:25

@Turquoiseturtle3 No I haven’t asked them. Whenever I got the number I just wanted to get off the phone 🤣.
Wishful thinking is always good.
I’m not sure, maybe end of the month or October. I wouldn’t want to put him through that new school thing again too late.

He’s ok at the school he’s at but would love to be with his friend at the one we want, that may change.

At the point now where, if it happens we will cross that bridge.

When does your DC start school? X

Turquoiseturtle3 · 05/09/2023 10:18

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 10:11

I know!!
I wish I knew. The admission lady said when I called she had just had a late application in. Seems so unfair.
Infuriating isn’t it. They should have some sort of cut off.
A lot of people round here rent to get them into the school, as I don’t know who’s buying at the moment as there are hardly any houses for sale near that catchment.
Feeling very flat today, just not happy with him at that school at all. X

Really sorry. Try to keep the faith. I can’t remember if I have asked - do you have any knowledge on past offers made once school has started? That might give an indication of what you might expect.
Agree - seems very unfair people go straight to the front at such short notice.
There is always a chance that they accept the school they have been allocated as would have automatically been placed on the waiting list for higher preference schools. So when offered they might all reject. Wishful thinking perhaps!

When is your cut off for moving?

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 10:12

Ps let me know how you get on with the no shows info x

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 10:11

I know!!
I wish I knew. The admission lady said when I called she had just had a late application in. Seems so unfair.
Infuriating isn’t it. They should have some sort of cut off.
A lot of people round here rent to get them into the school, as I don’t know who’s buying at the moment as there are hardly any houses for sale near that catchment.
Feeling very flat today, just not happy with him at that school at all. X

Turquoiseturtle3 · 05/09/2023 10:06

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 09:30

@Turquoiseturtle3 we called at the end of last week and had moved back another 3 to 15. She said they had late applications, I was so cross it still happens so late.
DS started yesterday at 3rd choice. I’m not overly happy but he doesn’t know that.
Unless a miracle happens, I can’t see it changing.
Wishing you all lots of luck xx

Sorry to hear that!! I have never heard of so many late applications. What is going on. Do you think private applicants might have put their name down as a back up option? So bizarre. I’m going to try and contact the council today and see if any no shows.

Fruits81 · 05/09/2023 09:30

@Turquoiseturtle3 we called at the end of last week and had moved back another 3 to 15. She said they had late applications, I was so cross it still happens so late.
DS started yesterday at 3rd choice. I’m not overly happy but he doesn’t know that.
Unless a miracle happens, I can’t see it changing.
Wishing you all lots of luck xx

CloudsOverHead · 04/09/2023 21:36

Turquoiseturtle3 · 04/09/2023 20:20

I just wanted to wish everyone the best of luck for their new schools. I’m sure most will have started or are about to start. Fingers crossed for those wanting some movement.

Best of luck to everyone! Would be amazing to hear some positive stories soon fingers crossed!

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AnIndianWoman · 04/09/2023 20:29

It depends where you are. I know people in 100s in Kent and Bromley who got their places by Jan. I also know a poor sod who was 5th in Bromley and stayed 5th for a year until their parents gave him.

Turquoiseturtle3 · 04/09/2023 20:20

I just wanted to wish everyone the best of luck for their new schools. I’m sure most will have started or are about to start. Fingers crossed for those wanting some movement.

Turquoiseturtle3 · 02/09/2023 10:10

Anyone have any place updates? We’ve moved back 3 more again 😢

CloudsOverHead · 24/08/2023 22:18

Fingers crossed for you!

I’m still half hoping but it all just feels impossible now 😞

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Turquoiseturtle3 · 24/08/2023 22:07

Shame it’s not the other way around and that school starts first! Totally fair enough decision though. We are still of the opinion that we’ll move him - I’m now hoping a place comes up within a few weeks of term starting.

CloudsOverHead · 24/08/2023 21:43

I’m genuinely leaving it now. We won’t get a place before term starts - and the school we have starts a few days before school we want so they’ll have to start there regardless.

And once my child starts I can’t see them being willing to move unless very unhappy. It’s a big thing for them going to secondary and I can see the nerves have kicked in. Hard to do that new stuff again.

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Turquoiseturtle3 · 24/08/2023 11:02

Did you guys ask the council for the further offers? X

CloudsOverHead · 18/08/2023 17:52

Fruits81 · 18/08/2023 14:27

Thanks @Turquoiseturtle3, like you say you never know.
I should ask the council, whenever I call and get the number we are, I’m so meh I just want to get off the phone. 🤣 xx

Exactly the same here!!!

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Fruits81 · 18/08/2023 14:27

Thanks @Turquoiseturtle3, like you say you never know.
I should ask the council, whenever I call and get the number we are, I’m so meh I just want to get off the phone. 🤣 xx

Turquoiseturtle3 · 18/08/2023 13:30

CloudsOverHead · 18/08/2023 12:22

This is exactly how I feel. Maybe better to have had no hope whatsoever.

@Turquoiseturtle3 I'm much more open to moving mid term but not sure my child is. At this point though just have to accept it's not in our control. Shame as in previous years we would have definitely got in!

Yes, it’s a very frustrating year. Hopefully there will be a flurry of people giving up their state places once the private uniforms have been bought and locked in!

Turquoiseturtle3 · 18/08/2023 13:27

Fruits81 · 18/08/2023 12:43

We have gone back 2 places, now 13th.
I think I’m going to throw in the towel now 😞 xx

Do you have any information from the council as to patterns for the last few years? It might be helpful to know how many offers they made after term started to give you some hope. My friend was 13 the week before term started and was offered the day before. It does happen. Hang in there

Fruits81 · 18/08/2023 12:43

We have gone back 2 places, now 13th.
I think I’m going to throw in the towel now 😞 xx

CloudsOverHead · 18/08/2023 12:22

SleepyRooster · 18/08/2023 10:14

Still no news for us either. I'm coming around to the idea she'll have to do at least Sept at the 2nd choice school. What's annoying is I can tell that's compromising our approach to her starting secondary. It would have been better to forget about #1 completely...

This is exactly how I feel. Maybe better to have had no hope whatsoever.

@Turquoiseturtle3 I'm much more open to moving mid term but not sure my child is. At this point though just have to accept it's not in our control. Shame as in previous years we would have definitely got in!

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