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Inappropriate teacher

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Dougalwougal · 31/03/2023 21:10

I really need some honest feedback please
my 15 ye old daughter has been suffering abuse from boys recently with one calling a whore during class this wee.
I complained and then found the next day one of her teachers who found out she had ended a relationship with her boyfriend called her a floozy.
my daughter is now upset that people are calling her a slut that she thinks she is doing something to deserve it.
I reported it to the school but they do not seem interested o think it’s a problem that a teacher would say that to her.
what should I do?

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Dougalwougal · 31/03/2023 21:47

Thanks for your message
I am seriously thinking about it but with her going into year 11 next year I really don’t want to unsettle her more than she is and feel they are the problem. I know you’re right but I would feel that she is being punished and they would just say the same things to another girl

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Knockmealdowns · 31/03/2023 21:40

Can she move schools? It’s a big world out there.. she could simply move on… and leave their crap behind…

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Dougalwougal · 31/03/2023 21:34

Thank you so much I was starting to feel bad for raising it but I really want her to be able to go school and not have to face continued harassment just because the boys think they can say what they want and they somehow are the ones that get the sympathy. I was told today…. The boy did not mean to say whore!
The scary thing is these boys are going to be men in less than three years. What really upset me was that the same male teacher kept asking her about who she was dating and then called her that word, like they were judging her.

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monsteramunch · 31/03/2023 21:27

Appalling from the school.

I would absolutely escalate this, your daughter needs you to advocate for her.

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Dougalwougal · 31/03/2023 21:20

Hi
No and the boy who called a whore on Wednesday told the teacher it was because she goes from boy to boy and the teacher who phoned me to assure me it was unnaceptable and, then told my daughter the boy did not mean it, which makes me as a single dad feel so powerless to protect her when they clearly don’t see that language as damaging for a young girl. My daughter is actually really shy and has never had a real boyfriend but is now worried she is doing to deserve the comments.
last night she kept saying… dad do you think I’m a slut because if they are all saying that, I must be!

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lpaisn · 31/03/2023 21:13

A teacher called your daughter a floozy and the school don't see anything wrong with that?

MelloYellow · 31/03/2023 21:11

It’s really inappropriate language and I would complain again and then to the governors