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Am I weird to ask about the screen time setting of the school iPad?

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CCCT · 13/03/2023 18:32

Hi all,

Re: the screen time function was being deactivated in the school iPad.

At the beginning of the school year, I am sure this function could be turned on and I set the downtime from 10pm.

Recently my daughter told me that she can access the iPad after 10pm. Therefore, yesterday night, I asked in the parent group for the settings of their daughters'.

Today, my daughter came home and she told me that, all her classmates said I am a weirdo?!

I do not understand... why asking the settings of the screen time of a school iPad is weird?

For year 7 students, is it unreasonable to check her screen time?

Please let me know if I shouldn't ask this.

Thanks
CCCT

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CCCT · 13/03/2023 19:53

um..,
let me clarify

I did not ask the other parents on how they set the screen time for their daughters.

actually, I found that the screen time function is being deactivated (GREY). But when I checked my daughter’s iPhone, the screen time function was not greyish.
I wonder if there is anything we accidentally messed up so that that particular function was being greyed.
so I asked in the parent group (with a photo showing the screen time function is grey), is it the same in their daughters iPad.
one of the parents replied me her daughter’s iPad was the same.
so I knew it must be deactivated by school then
and I said thank you to the parents.

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grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 13/03/2023 19:45

People have different rules. Nothing wrong with having a set rule for your own children. And maybe it's not weird to ask your friend what your rules are, but asking all the other parents what their rules are, is a bit weird for me. So does that mean you change your own rule according to what other parents do?

redskylight · 13/03/2023 19:39

Anewuser · 13/03/2023 19:36

That’s your daughter talking not the parents.

Children use the word ‘weird’.

Well it's probably the other children reacting what their parents have told them.

OP - I agree with the others. This sort of thing is embarrassing when you that age. Also, if it's a school iPad, don't the school lock them down?

Anewuser · 13/03/2023 19:36

That’s your daughter talking not the parents.

Children use the word ‘weird’.

Original poster
CCCT · 13/03/2023 19:34

Yes
I’ve learned my lesson
no asking in the parent group
thanks all for your advice

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amidsummernightsdream · 13/03/2023 19:24

I thought you were going to say primary age. I think in year 7 that would be embarrassing for her. Not the time limit itself but messaging other parents about a relatively trivial non issue. By all means set rules in your own house but I think the messages on the group have made you seem over involved

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CCCT · 13/03/2023 19:20

actually my daughter gave me her phone & iPad at 10pm every night after we discovered that the “screen time deactivated ” thing.

however, I was a bit sad , of hearing what my daughter told me that I am weird from her classmates’ mouths.
i just asked in the parent group about the settings, and I didn’t say anything about setting screen time.
thanks all for your reply.

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BeckyWithTheGoodHair010101 · 13/03/2023 19:18

I think it's strange to ask other parents. Your house, your rules. Doesn't matter what they are doing. Tell your daughter she has to leave the iPad downstairs?

CatJumperTwat · 13/03/2023 18:54

So at least one of their parents has told their kid that you turn off your daughter's iPad at night, presumably in a negative way? I would stop sharing anything in that group.

piscesangel · 13/03/2023 18:54

No I'm not sure that's the point - more that at that age you should just be setting the rules and enforcing them with your daughter personally rather than needing to use the 'screen time' function? So for eg the later evening use if you don't want her using it after 10pm just take it away at that time?

PuttingDownRoots · 13/03/2023 18:52

Easiest way is to confiscate the tablet at whatever time you deem appropriate.

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CCCT · 13/03/2023 18:48

so, you mean, starting from year 7
11 years old, it’s abnormal for me to check her screen time ? Oh, I don’t see that…. 😞

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TwilightSilhouette · 13/03/2023 18:34

I suspect it’s because in Year 7 you should just tell your daughter when she is and isn’t allowed on the iPad and she should follow those instructions.