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Year 7 ds keeps getting bad behaviour points

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elliejjtiny · 06/02/2023 14:16

He has 8 so far since he started in September and according to the school's behaviour policy if he gets 10 (presumably this is in one year but it isn't clear) then the school will call us on for a meeting, there will be interventions, referral to early help etc.

I know ds is no angel. He has adhd and has a tendency to speak/do first and then think afterwards. Every time he gets a behaviour point I talk to him about what he should have done. He agrees and then does it again. We are living with the in-laws at the moment while our house is having building work done which doesn't help as we are overcrowded but dh takes him back to our house every day to play on his trampoline and I take him to the park/soft play every weekend. It does help with his behaviour but it's not enough.

Is there anything else I could be doing to help him. It's low level disruption, anti social behaviour he is getting the behaviour points for so nothing severe but it's happening a lot which I know is just as bad as doing something really bad 1 time.

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RedHelenB · 07/02/2023 10:40

Does he have a timeout card?

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elliejjtiny · 07/02/2023 10:32

Thankyou. We have done lots of role play and when he is calm he makes all the right decisions but then when something/someone upsets him then he forgets everything. He has a very low tolerance with anyone touching his things so that seems to be a trigger. There is a boy in his class who has asd and they tend to set each other off. The other boy will pick up ds pencil case or something and then ds will do something to cause the other boy to have a meltdown. The school are trying to keep them apart but often they will seek each other out.

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TeenDivided · 06/02/2023 14:30

Are there trigger times or lessons or situations?
If you can identify any pattern it might help with adjustments.
Hitting the 10 trigger point may actually be beneficial if it helps them put in interventions, but not if it is just punitive.

steppemum · 06/02/2023 14:24

really hard as it is linked to his ADHD and impulse control.

Would he do role play with you? To act out some of your alternative things he could say?

He needs to get into the habit of the right response instead of the habit of the bad response.

try and drill down with him, is it in class, hallways, break times, and then try and make a plan with him to reduce the triggers.

Is any of it in class, and if so, would fiddle toys etc help?

Are school aware of ADHD and how supportive are they?