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FFS prom dresses. How much are you paying?

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bellinisurge · 12/01/2023 11:28

It appears I should think upward of £300. Dd said "you'd think I'd want something quirky but I don't ".
We never had this bollocks in the 1980s when I was her age. School leavers disco.

We live just outside East Manchester. Nothing fancy. But all the effing shops seem stupid prices.

So what's your budget?

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The4teddybears · 12/01/2023 19:20

Ohh. I’ve got my 2 daughters dresses in the wardrobe . Been there for 5 and 7 years. I’m going to wash and sell them . Thanks for the reminder that it’s prom dress buying season .
Ps message me if you’re interested in size 10 knee length shocking pink, flared bottom , strapless sequinned top. Or a size 12/14 deep purple floor length strapless , fitted top. Both beautiful 😻

moonbows · 12/01/2023 19:20

Crumbs. first prom in our household coming up this year. What do the boys wear?? I have given this less than zero thought!

Hoppinggreen · 12/01/2023 19:19

Didn’t have a budget, DDs cost £350 plus shoes, hair, make up.
I didn’t mind and she didn’t demand anything and has very happy and grateful

IrisJoy · 12/01/2023 19:19

Another vote for JJs house. My dd has had two dresses there for under £100 and they look much more expensive

coralgeo · 12/01/2023 19:16

We're a way off this yet but given that my actual wedding dress cost £400 there's no way on earth DD will be having a prom dress costing hundreds. She will be doing her own hair and makeup too. It's a glorified school disco ffs.

jtaeapa · 12/01/2023 19:14

WTF
Shein
Not entirely sure on the ethics, but my dd got a special dress from there and it was about £20. It washes well and looks great.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 12/01/2023 19:13

DD1 wore a £80 sale price number from Monsoon. If she hadn’t left it until the weekend before to buy something, we could well have found a cheaper option.

Her VI form Leaver’s Ball outfit was only £24 from Topshop. She wore it again at a work ball this Christmas.

DD2 wore a 1950s green satin dress that I’d bought from a charity shop in Hull 25 years ago for £3 (price label was still on it). It did cost £7 to have it professionally pressed.

Shoes came from New Look and Primark. A £8 clutch bag (reduced by 70% in the Monsoon sale) was used for all 3 occasions.

DD1’s Prom and Leavers’ Ball took place in 2017/2019. On the whole, her friends seemed to have spent more than DD2’s friends, who had their Prom cancelled in 2020. Some had already bought outfits before lockdown, and wore them 2 years later. But a lot of them seemed to go for the charity shop option.

WombatChocolate · 12/01/2023 19:02

Yes, if you go to a specialist shop, where all the dresses are expensive, they are v likely to walk out with an expensive one and not want the £35 version that’s online.

I think that sometimes parents don’t think through budget first but just say ‘let’s go and look’at a specialist bridal/prom shop. Then it’s v. difficult to walk away and go for the cheaper option.

Work out a rough budget first then identify the kind of places in that budget. Those are the places to go and not elsewhere.

For people wanting to see dresses, big Monsoons (or online) have lots and they have good sales. Quiz have some big branches too. John Lewis have good evening wear and have good sales on now.

Of course those wanting to spend mega bucks can do so. I think the Prom for Yr11 is a relatively new thing, whereas a Leavers Ball at 18 often existed before. At 18 many have become a bit more sensible, but at 16, for some it really is about bling, fake tans and spending mega bucks and telling everyone what your dress cost, that seems to count. In my mind, really they are a bit young and like the Leavers Hoody working it’s way down to primary schools etc, by doing stuff too young, you lose the specialness of doing it at a more appropriate age. But it might be just me who thinks that and anyway Yr11 Proms are here to stay now.

For anyone feeling pushed towards the expensive dress who isn’t comfortable really, just know that there are heaps of dresses out there under £100 and under £50. Any girl going in one of those won’t look out of place or fail to have a good time.

AnyOldThings · 12/01/2023 18:50

Can’t lie. DD’s last year was £350 but it was utterly stunning and the memory of her in it will last a lifetime. I’d not set out to pay that much but it was worth it and I paid it in instalments.

It’s not necessary to spend that much. Just sometimes works out that way if you let them anywhere near the expensive rail 😂

WombatChocolate · 12/01/2023 17:41

The trouble lies when girls have an idea that only a £300 dress will do, along with shoes, bags, tans, cars etc etc. Some will totally believe this is what everyone has and their social life will be ruined forever without it all. If you have a girl who takes this kind of view, you have a hard job.

Ebay has new dress sellers with perfectly decent dresses for £30. To be honest, unless you looked really closely, you probably wouldn’t tell the difference. Given it will prob need adjusting, it’s good to keep cost down.

Do bear in mind that most girls will then refuse to wear the same dress to their 6th Form leaver ball and want another.

My view is YOU set a budget. Don’t be told by them. Make sure the budget includes accessories. Realise parents can get caught up in this too and start chatting with their mates so it feels £500 is necessary and normal.

Perfectly nice dresses out there for £35, for £50 and under £100. Bargains to be had for £10 if they are willing to try secondhand.

This is a good time to talk about values and what matters. They will all look beautiful.

MargaretThursday · 12/01/2023 16:10

Go looking and see what she likes.

DD1 found her ideal dress on the just-about-to-throw-out bargain rail for £25. It had a bust seam, but was perfect for her.
She then got very stressed because the shoes she liked were £40 and she thought it was ridiculous to have shoes more than the dress. 🤣
DD2's got cancelled because of covid before she'd shopped.
Ds has just announced he's wearing football kit with a black bow tie. He's not impressed that the dress code is "black tie" and is blaming the girls for such a silly idea. Apparently "no one would actually want to wear that stuff." The last time he wore a suit was 10 years ago for a wedding and his face said it all. he looked very cute in a suit though

DPotter · 12/01/2023 16:02

£99 from House of Frazer in January sales - point of honour from DD that she didn't want anything expensive.

IggyAce · 12/01/2023 15:51

Under £80 and from Quiz, we couldn’t afford one costing £100s.

unclebuck · 12/01/2023 15:45

DD spent £25 on DPOP and sold it for £25 a week after the prom.
I didn't pay anything. I did pay for her to do a surfing course with her friends post GCSE as a reward. I don't understand the Prom Dress culture and won't play the game - it's just bullshit isn't it.
The shop most girls round here go to buys the dresses from China (I found them for sale on Ali Express) and they are £20-£40 - they give everyone prosecco, stand the girl on a plinth, take photos and charge £300-£500.

purplepencilcase · 12/01/2023 15:44

How utterly ridiculous. Why does this event even happen? I feel desperately sorry for those who can't afford it but feel pressured into conforming to this nonsense.
What horrible pressure for everyone. I bet it's not worth the stress half the time,

dinmin · 12/01/2023 15:40

ASOS (constant sale and often an extra 20%) or TK Maxx. I’ve actually had full on ballgowns from the latter for 50 quid or less in the past. You just need to go to the right branches or sometimes they have decent options online. Spending on proms these days is mad. I actually just gave a load of my old evening dresses to a teacher in a low income area to give to her students who can’t afford this stuff for their prom

Peterbear · 12/01/2023 15:36

We got a couple of gorgeous dresses from charity shops . Some have specialist bridal/prom bits. X

LegLegLeg · 12/01/2023 15:31

My friend's daughter got a cheap but beautiful and elegant long black dress that they blinged up with a diamante belt and other accessories they sewed on. If you google dress decoration trims or applique lace or dress decoration jewellery etc you can make a completely unique dress no one else has.

AxolotlEars · 12/01/2023 12:28

In our town there is a charity shop that has a wedding and prom department. I would not be above asking friends and acquaintances if they have anything that could be borrowed. It is one of those things that languish in people's wardrobes. When one of my friends was having a clear out before a house move she gave me 15 prom/bridesmaids dresses for my girls!

TeenDivided · 12/01/2023 12:10

For both DDs we found something they liked on ebay and paid for alterations. They described what they wanted and I sourced. Shame DD2 never actually got to wear hers (2021 year).

bagsofbats · 12/01/2023 12:06

TK max £25 - excellent! I am going halfs on accessories & hair and a family member is treating her to get her nails done

bellinisurge · 12/01/2023 11:58

Thank you everyone

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Seeline · 12/01/2023 11:57

The quality of the two dresses we had from JJs was great.

redskydelight · 12/01/2023 11:57

£40 from ASOS. We ordered a few; she tried them all on and picked the one she liked best.

If you want a "proper" formal dress you will be looking at £200 as a bare minimum.

Lemonsole · 12/01/2023 11:56

JJ are fine if your expectations are in line with a cheap dress. Yes, it's a bit of a gamble re returns, but lots of satisfied customers. They're true to size.

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