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How many detentions is normal/average?

31 replies

elliejjtiny · 02/12/2022 14:38

DC1 had 2 level 1 detentions (for homework being late) while he was at secondary school and dc2 has had 1 so far for having an autistic meltdown in class and throwing a sponge (now in year 10). But dc3 has now had 5 detentions already and he is only in his first term of year 7. They are all level 1 detentions (10 mins at break time). He has adhd and struggles to think before he acts and gets easily distracted. Not sure if dc3 is really struggling or if dc3 is normal and my older 2 are perfect.

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Chiwawa · 02/12/2022 21:31

My DS also has adhd and has frequent detentions. Talking to friends of my kids, the ones with adhd get loads of them. Our school dishes them out a lot. Not having a blazer on at all times, asking the time, asking questions, being “disengaged”, the list is endless.

overgrowngrass · 02/12/2022 19:55

DS has ADHD and gets them frequently.

Whycanineverever · 02/12/2022 19:52

DD1 Y11 none.

DD2 Y7 - 1 level one. Tbf she is dyspraxic and forgetful / disorganised so I do expect she will accumulate a number over her school career.

fannyfartlet · 02/12/2022 19:50

Eldest two went all the way through 7-11 with no detentions. Middle one now in Y11 has had 2 and youngest in Y8 has also had 2 so far.

KindergartenKop · 02/12/2022 19:04

It also depends on the class really. If the class is generally manageable then there'll be fewer detentions given out because they self regulate their behaviour. If they're a bit wilder one has to come down on everyone like a ton of bricks.

sheepdogdelight · 02/12/2022 14:52

It depends on the school. Some schools give them out like confetti; at other schools they are reserved for more serious infractions.

DC's school only gives after school detentions (no time at break for detentions then) and they tend to be for more serious things. So most DC will go through school without getting any.