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Mufti/own clothes days at secondary

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Atypical13435 · 05/10/2022 18:01

Interested in a quick straw poll on how your secondary age children feel about mufti/own clothes days? My children's school has one tomorrow and they are both stressed about it and tell me that all their friends are as well. They are agonising about what to wear, what people will think/say etc etc. They are both generally reasonably confident and happy girls with good friendship groups, but this is causing them a level of anxiety. I'm intrigued to know if this is a common thing. They're in an all girl's comprehensive if that makes any difference?

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PhotoDad · 05/10/2022 19:07

When my DS was in Year 7, he turned up for a non-uniform day in a three piece suit with his tap shoes. Can't remember if he wore his bow-tie too.

Now he just wears joggers and a hoodie like all the other lads.

lljkk · 05/10/2022 19:03

no stress
DD is a fashionista
DSs have no opinions about it

Notcontent · 05/10/2022 18:44

i can imagine it could be stressful if there is pressure to have a certain look. At my dd’s old school (private girls) there was a really big mix of looks and so it didn’t seem to matter. At her new sixth form she gets to wear what she wants and there is a bit of stress by too many last minute changes of outfit!! But I think that’s just me getting stressed when it’s time to leave and she does a last minute dash upstairs to change her top or whatever… 😂

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 05/10/2022 18:17

Day pupils at mixed sexed boarding. No shits given. Even 6th former, still no shits given 😂. Maybe it's because evenings are spent in home clothes anyway?

Friends DD's (state schools) really stressed every time. But they all end up looking like clones... yesterday the local school, had mufti I didn't see one girl not in black leggings & black tshirt/hoodie. Boys in a variety of joggers/jeans various coloured T-shirts/hoodies.

hopefully if they just wear clothes they like & are warm:comfortable they'll be fine.

I remember the 'worry', draft really as we all spent loads of time together out of school!

Owlplant · 05/10/2022 18:10

My DSD12 just had a non-uniform day and thankfully wasn't anxious about picking clothes. Hope your girls feel happy with their choices soon. I wonder if it's worth having these days if it causes all this worry.

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 05/10/2022 18:07

Mixed boarding school. Most students don’t seem to care and come in joggers. Some girls are a bit more dressed up and there is a fair mix of quirkier styles.

There are probably some that are stressed but doesn’t seem too many.

TeenDivided · 05/10/2022 18:05

It didn't cause my DDs stress. They wore jeans and a hoodie.
But I did have an argument with DD1 once regarding she still needed the usual things for school like planner, calculator etc.

sheepdogdelight · 05/10/2022 18:03

DC's school never has them. However school sixth form DD (with fairly relaxed dress code) agonises most days over what to wear.

I guess this is why schools have uniforms :)

Talipesmum · 05/10/2022 18:02

I’ve got two boys at secondary and it causes them no concern whatsoever. But I can imagine it might to some so not being dismissive.