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Guilt over school commute

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Allotment123 · 21/09/2022 18:27

DS just started year 7 aged 11. Now has to get the bus to school. Could go to local school, this school is better. Buses been utterly rubbish, should be 40 minutes, 1 hour door to door. Today it took him almost 2 hours to get home. I feel so guilty but it is a much better school for him. When he's older he could cycle in less than an hour but all roads do not an option now. Do other parents have this guilt. He comes back so tired and grumpy

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Beamur · 21/09/2022 19:16

Do you drive?
My DD has a longish bus ride but coming home seems much worse. We have a car share with several of her friends which makes life easier. She gets herself to school which takes about 40 mins and driven home.
If he's on regular bus services (not dedicated school buses) this was our problem too, too many kids and not enough seats. Alternatively, can he go to the library after school and do homework and set off home later and miss the scrum for the bus?

Hercisback · 21/09/2022 19:16

That's a long commute. Does it also mean he's living further away from friends?

Are there any ways you could drive him at least a couple of days?

Nameless3 · 21/09/2022 19:16

I'd feel guilty about that.Two hours to get home from school is far too long.

TeenDivided · 21/09/2022 19:14

Can you drive him?
I think 1hr each way is massive for school aged 11 and that's before bus issues.

Are there no other options?

(I'm driving my DD to college which is an hour round trip for me and I'm shattered afterwards.)

hugefanofcheese · 21/09/2022 19:14

Why was it 2hrs, random accident or could.this be a regular thing? How much better is the school, that's a really tiring commute if it keeps happening, could negate any good effects.

Wannakisstheteacher · 21/09/2022 19:12

You eventually want him to cycle for nearly 2 hours a day!?

Personally I think it’s cruel to expect an 11 year old to have a 2 hour commute each day.

midgetastic · 21/09/2022 18:40

2hrs to get home and at least an hour to get in

He'll be too tired to benefit from the better school, his friends will be miles away

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