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Opportunity to send DD to prestigious private school. Should I?

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Llamapalma · 18/09/2022 19:15

Just that really please.

DD (Y6) has the opportunity to attend a very well regarded, high achieving private girls school a few miles from us.

It's not something. We could have imagined would be possible. No one in our family has ever attended a private school, but she's very bright and it's quite an academic school and I do think it could benefit her in many ways.

I'm torn what to do.

It really feels like turning the chance down could be like I'm limiting her future prospects.

But would accepting the place cause other potential issues?

I guess I'm suffering imposter syndrome on her behalf. Worrying she'll be picked on (although doesn't seem that kind of place) as we just live in a normal house with normal cars etc.

I guess it's the standard parental worry of needing to make these big decisions and worrying I'll mess her life up somehow.

For the record she is in LOVE with the school. And I've been open with her that there are a lot of girls there who have very different lives to her. At 11 she is adamant that's fine and she gets it but at 14 it could feel very different I know.

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33goingon64 · 18/09/2022 19:21

What is the opportunity? Sudden access to money? If so, is the money ringfenced purely for that purpose? If not then presumably you have lots of things you could do with the money. Or is it a different type of opportunity?

Llamapalma · 18/09/2022 19:19

Thank you.

That's my gut feeling too.

I guess maybe I've been on MN too long and am believing family who are chipping in saying how she'll be bullied and won't get to learn what life is like in the real world etc.

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Twizbe · 18/09/2022 19:18

If she loves the school and it's a good fit for her, why would you deny her the opportunity?

Sure some people will have lots of money, but some will be very average. She will find her tribe within that.

Don't stop her going because of your worries.