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Grandparents funding private school for one child only

103 replies

Chasingstatus · 06/09/2022 11:43

Looking for opinions on an odd one!


DH and I send our children to private school. We can afford it ok - but that’s because he works very hard in a highly stressful job that requires sacrifice from us all, and him most of all ( cancelled holidays, missed school events etc)


DH’s sister and her partner upped and moved to an area where they knew nobody mainly because it had good state schools, and they couldn’t afford private.


Now, DH’s other brother has announced that as there “ no good state schools” where he lives and “they don’t want to move”, their parents have offered to put his two boys through private senior school. Not our children nor his sister’s, just his. For context, he changed careers recently to allow him to spend more time with his children and is a low earner so would not be able to afford the fees himself


Thoughts?! AIBU to think this a tad unfair and is going to cause resentment?

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YelloCar · 06/09/2022 11:56

I know what you’re saying but at the end of the day each child will have accessed a good education, isn’t that the main thing?

I don’t really like the idea of private education in general but it does even the playing field for them all a bit.

Andromachehadabadday · 06/09/2022 11:48

What did they say when you asked them to contribute?

Butterdishtea · 06/09/2022 11:48

Yes that is annoying but I guess the grandparents are looking at how to level things up for their grandchildren. Annoying that this means the family is being given more. Maybe it evens out in the legacy.