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Is it acceptable for a child to be given a detention for being too early to lessons?

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Carsgoingby · 22/07/2022 19:12

Interested in other peoples thoughts on this - twelve year old turning up ten minutes early every time the lesson is after break / lunch. Teacher has repeatedly asked them not to.

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Smokealarmwakeup · 23/07/2022 03:02

I would give a detention for this too. My lunchtime is my only opportunity for a moments peace, a drink, food and the toilet. If a child is hanging about outside I’m no longer on a break I’m watching them. They are also very rarely stood quiet they are playing with the windows or putting their head in for a bit of paper, asking if the homework should be on plain paper or lined. What if I was on duty elsewhere and the fire alarm went off, if that kid isn’t in the correct place nobody will know where they are.

Those saying it’s the teachers fault for not being clear enough, please reflect on what you are saying. You are not doing your kids any favours by refusing to ever let them be wrong, being corrected teaches them how to make better decisions in the long run, you are teaching them they can do whatever they want.

Hercisback · 23/07/2022 02:40

Why are so many people assuming the teacher hasn't tried to look for a reason for the behaviour?

PMAmostofthetime · 23/07/2022 00:43

@Carsgoingby I think this is ridiculous-
Maybe it should be explored why child is going this- are they lonely? Anxious about breaks? Being bullied and seeking salvation? Why do teacher not try to identify what is behind the behaviour?

Herejustforthisone · 22/07/2022 22:41

I used to be early to my lessons when I was being bullied. My school was huge and being picked on in the vast outside space, spending whole break times on my own trying to find a friendly face or worse, trying to hide from the ones gunning for me, was awful. I never told a soul for fear of further repercussions but would be early to lessons as the presence of adults made me feel a little bit safer. If I’d been punished for that, I’m not sure what I’d have done.

It was an awful, awful time. I relive it often.

Herejustforthisone · 22/07/2022 22:37

Poor kid. 😟

3luckystars · 22/07/2022 22:25

Fuckology

detention!!!!! For being early???

MumofSpud · 22/07/2022 22:22

perimenofertility · 22/07/2022 22:10

I'm clearly the lone voice here but I don't see a problem with turning up 10 minutes early. The child can just queue quietly outside the classroom, the teacher doesn't need to let them in or supervise them.
As pretty much everyone has said, the child is obviously trying to get away from something/someone. Perhaps bullying, perhaps lack of friends, perhaps just prefers to be indoors instead of outdoors.
Ten minutes early definitely doesn't warrant a detention. And if the child has repeatedly ignored instructions, well I consider that the teachers fault - not making the instructions clear enough or not seeking to understand why they are not/cannot do what's asked.

But if there is just one child not following the instructions then how can it be the teacher's instructions!
Go outside at break / Do not come here til 19:40 (for example) are not very difficult instructions to understand!

FrippEnos · 22/07/2022 22:21

perimenofertility
Ten minutes early definitely doesn't warrant a detention.

Yes it does.

And if the child has repeatedly ignored instructions, well I consider that the teachers fault - not making the instructions clear enough or not seeking to understand why they are not/cannot do what's asked.

This is just excusing the child without knowing the details.

glamourousindierockandroll · 22/07/2022 22:17

perimenofertility · 22/07/2022 22:10

I'm clearly the lone voice here but I don't see a problem with turning up 10 minutes early. The child can just queue quietly outside the classroom, the teacher doesn't need to let them in or supervise them.
As pretty much everyone has said, the child is obviously trying to get away from something/someone. Perhaps bullying, perhaps lack of friends, perhaps just prefers to be indoors instead of outdoors.
Ten minutes early definitely doesn't warrant a detention. And if the child has repeatedly ignored instructions, well I consider that the teachers fault - not making the instructions clear enough or not seeking to understand why they are not/cannot do what's asked.

They can't be there alone because there is no supervision. If something happens to them, the first thing the parents will ask is "where were the teachers?" The teachers are not there because they are going to the toilet/ eating/photocopying/ on the phone.

Students are supposed to be in areas which are supervised by staff on a duty rota.

Some students also do not "queue quietly" in corridors where there are no staff. Some of them push, shout, swear, drop litter, run, gossip, vape, are mean to other kids etc.

perimenofertility · 22/07/2022 22:10

I'm clearly the lone voice here but I don't see a problem with turning up 10 minutes early. The child can just queue quietly outside the classroom, the teacher doesn't need to let them in or supervise them.
As pretty much everyone has said, the child is obviously trying to get away from something/someone. Perhaps bullying, perhaps lack of friends, perhaps just prefers to be indoors instead of outdoors.
Ten minutes early definitely doesn't warrant a detention. And if the child has repeatedly ignored instructions, well I consider that the teachers fault - not making the instructions clear enough or not seeking to understand why they are not/cannot do what's asked.

glamourousindierockandroll · 22/07/2022 22:10

OP still hasn't confirmed whether their child is loitering alone because they have no friends. Lots are assuming this based on nothing.

Sh05 · 22/07/2022 22:07

If the child is repeatedly doing this then the detention is because they're in a part of the building where they're not allowed to be at that particular time without supervision.
If detention was giving for arriving early the first time then I'd say it's ott but after being told multiple times then detention is the right way to go although I'd want to get to the bottom of why said child doesn't want to spend time with friends instead.

glamourousindierockandroll · 22/07/2022 22:02

Getintoyou · 22/07/2022 21:28

I can assure you that secondary aged students love to do the opposite of what they're meant to. If you tell them to go out, they want to be in. If you tell them to stay in, they want to go out

I work in a secondary school and I see the vulnerable children hanging around adults and looking for a safe space.

Some of them do, and the adults know who they are.

Many of them just want to wander about with groups of their mates shouting "Suiiiiii" down the stairwells.

FrippEnos · 22/07/2022 21:59

SingingInParadise
T h the teacher being grumpy about a student arriving 10mins early feels like a huge fuss out of nothing.

A third of your lunch break is hardly nothing.

ArcticRoll2
That is ridiculous. If it bothers the teacher so much why doesn’t HE/HER go elsewhere?

Where should they go? not all schools have 'offices' where teachers can go or even a staffroom.

CallOnMe · 22/07/2022 21:56

Yes I assume the corridors and classrooms are out of bounds at break and the child keeps being found in there.

If this was a one off then it would be unfair.

If this is your child then you need to get to the bottom of why they’re in the corridoor instead of outside playing.
Do they not have any friends?
If not could you encourage joining a lunchtime club?

MellaY · 22/07/2022 21:30

glamourousindierockandroll · 22/07/2022 21:09

I can assure you that secondary aged students love to do the opposite of what they're meant to. If you tell them to go out, they want to be in. If you tell them to stay in, they want to go out.

I work in the first aid room and deal with all the sickness/ injuries/ prescription medications throughout the school day as well as a whole host of other health related bits.

You absolutely wouldn't believe the amount of students that would happily miss out on break or lunch just to mill about in the first aid room. I spend way too much of my day kicking out kids who wanted to say hi to make way for genuinely unwell kids.

Getintoyou · 22/07/2022 21:28

I can assure you that secondary aged students love to do the opposite of what they're meant to. If you tell them to go out, they want to be in. If you tell them to stay in, they want to go out

I work in a secondary school and I see the vulnerable children hanging around adults and looking for a safe space.

SummerL0ving · 22/07/2022 21:24

No way. There are plenty of reasons why a child might turn up early for lessons. The reason I suspect the most is that they are being bullied or are not happy/do not fit in with their peers and want an escape. I don't know about you but making this child sit alone in the toilet for this 10 minutes seems the only alternative option.

Yes, the child is not following instructions. But this situation is probably bigger than that. They need support, not punishment.

MellaY · 22/07/2022 21:21

I work in a school- I'm not a teacher but work as part of student services. I'd agree with those saying that the detention is likely not for being early as such but for being in an out of bounds area or repeatedly failing to follow instruction and would say that's absolutely reasonable.

Where I work we have staff that lead wellbeing and/ or safeguarding and I would hope that the matter has been passed onto a member of staff with a similar role in your DCs school to check in with you DC to make sure that any root cause is dealt with such as bullying, lacking friendships ect.

Students being in an unsupervised area/ unknown location during the school day is a safeguarding risk!

Hercisback · 22/07/2022 21:16

Why is it ridiculous?

If students have been repeatedly told not to come early, they need to not be early. It's unfair on teaching staff tk have to supervise students during their lunch break.

Find out the full facts before you say anything OP.

RE bullying, I hope most teachers would use their professional judgement and have a conversation with the students.

Axahooxa · 22/07/2022 21:14

No that’s a ridiculous response! Challenge it

Fraidwo1 · 22/07/2022 21:12

Giving detention for being early is a load of bull. I was bullied in school, so I used to hide in the toilets to kill time before my lesson to avoid people. I was made fun of by nearly everyone in my year (bar 2 of my friends), so it was impossible for the teachers to crack down on it, even so, I felt awful and stressed all the time and developed an eating disorder as a result. Maybe the bullies are in the toilets? Maybe being near a teacher is the only safe place for this kid? Anyone ever considered that?

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/07/2022 21:10

Detention? No.

asking why, absolutely.

glamourousindierockandroll · 22/07/2022 21:09

Getintoyou · 22/07/2022 20:48

No child willingly misses their break time. It's really mean to pull them up on it. I wouldn’t mind if they came in and read.

I can assure you that secondary aged students love to do the opposite of what they're meant to. If you tell them to go out, they want to be in. If you tell them to stay in, they want to go out.

WonderingWanda · 22/07/2022 21:04

At my school break time is 20 mins long and students are not allowed in the building till the bell goes. The child is not really turning up early to punctual, there is an underlying reason for it. If they are there to avoid bullies or because they are socialy isolated then they would need support to identify a safe place to go. We have arrangements like this in place at our school. If however they were just rocking up to mess about or for somewhere warm to eat their food and drop their litter when everyone else is outside ot in the canteen being supervised then they would need a sanction for that. So it really depends.

To be honest your question 'Is it acceptable for a child to be given a detention for being too early for lessons' sounds just like the many parents I deal with who ring me up outraged that their precious child has been sanctioned for 'asking for a pencil' when in actual fact their child shouted out over the top of my teaching, then the proceeded to get up and wander around the room laughing, talking, totally disrupting the lesson. When asked to be quiet and sit down they then delcare that I should calm down. Then they've gone home and told parents that I'm picking on them because all they did was ask for a pencil.

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