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Son misbehaving at school

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bubble2000 · 29/06/2022 13:33

Receiving alot of detentions etc its heartbreaking

How do we discipline at home to ensure he stops before he's thrown out? He's 14

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Lowcarbfest · 29/06/2022 14:23

Lunificent · 29/06/2022 14:15

He may just be being badly behaved but he could have attention issues e.g. ADHD. Is this a possibility?

Not all badly behaved children have some kind of disability.

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bubble2000 · 29/06/2022 14:20

Yes it could be possible - should we take him to gp??

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LolaSparkle · 29/06/2022 14:20

You've just described my son and my 3 brothers too a tee
Trying to navigate through it with my son now but I'm happy to report all 3 of my brothers grew out of it when they matured a bit and are now fully functional and successful adults ... I'm clinging on to this hoping it's just a phase with my son .. I'm sending you a hug, kids hey!

Lunificent · 29/06/2022 14:15

He may just be being badly behaved but he could have attention issues e.g. ADHD. Is this a possibility?

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bubble2000 · 29/06/2022 14:13

Often he seems to blame others / says it wasn't a big deal /

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MintJulia · 29/06/2022 14:09

Have you asked him what he's playing at? Is he bored? Another issue? What does he say?

Has he met his first girlfriend and is trying impress?

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bubble2000 · 29/06/2022 13:48

Yes I have just emailed his head of year to suggest we have a conversation and to advise we have removed phone/ screen time etc at home 😪😪💔💔

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sotired2 · 29/06/2022 13:45

Have you tried discussing with school so you can work together on improving his behaviour?

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bubble2000 · 29/06/2022 13:41

I think he gets easily distracted by other kids / he likes being the funny guy etc so does silly stuff / forgets to pay attention - currently have removed phone privileges - this happened afew weeks ago we took phone away for two weeks ( other than a ten minute end of day message check ) while on school report card- behaviour at school/ home improved and was great but now more detentions and report card

He's really bright it's so sad

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Limesaregreen · 29/06/2022 13:37

Sorry to hear you’re going through this.

I guess if it were my son, I’d try to get him to talk about what’s rattling his cage, trying not to make judgements or interrupt him. Sometimes this is best achieved by going for a drive so you’re not facing each other. Sometimes they just need to feel listened to without judgement.

hopefully if he opens up a bit then you can try to get him to understand that the choices he makes have consequences. Ultimately he is in control of his choices but how this affects him in future depends which choice he makes.

good luck op x

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 29/06/2022 13:34

What have you tried so far?