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Horrible phone call with school😭

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ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/06/2022 09:05

My dd has bad anxiety and severe stress migraines. She’s struggled in through all her exams with blinding headaches. She was diagnosed 5 days before her first exam and medications are a bit hit and miss. She’s hardworking and diligent.

Last night she started with the worst one ever. Was very upset about her history GCSE today. She was not in a fit state to go. All of her problems have been supported by lots of GP evidence. I sent the last letter in yesterday.

Conersation with school 1/2 an hour ago.

’It’s only an hour, can’t she come in’
’Can’t she take medication’
’Not sure what the exam board will do’
’You’ll need a doctors note’
”Can’t you just encourage her’

Like l was fucking lying!!!
She’s so upset, l was upset by the call. It’s all documented and this is what you get. Gilt tripping when your poor 15 year old is too ill to think clearly ‘Can’t she just come in for the hour?’🤬🤬🤬🤬

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KneeQuestion · 21/06/2022 09:24

I get it OP

i understand them trying to encourage her but if she is clearly too unwell to get there and participate then they need to put protocols for this sort of thing into effect.

not knowing what the exam board will do is bullshit. There is protocol for students who are incapacitated by illness/injury.

hope you get things sorted and get settled with medication. I recommend rizatriptan if she hasn’t tried that yet.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/06/2022 09:24

She has had the worst migraine she’s ever had. It started last night, and has got worse through the night.

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/06/2022 09:24

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/06/2022 09:21

How am l meant to take a kid who is too ill to walk, with a blinding headache to an exam?🤷🏼‍♀️

The school has a duty to get all students in to sit the exam. Can you imagine if they just shrugged their shoulders at every kid that didn't turn up?

They still have no power over the exam boards decision about your daughter's final grade.

11Hawkins · 21/06/2022 09:23

I don't think the school are wrong here, they probably want her to try her best rather than completely fail. They are thinking long term here. All that work for nothing basically.

That said migraines are bloody awful, but if she was only recently diagnosed they haven't had time to prepare for this with the exam board.

mosesbassist · 21/06/2022 09:22

You still don't have to send her

mosesbassist · 21/06/2022 09:22

School are doing the right thing

HellyR · 21/06/2022 09:22

So she had the worst headache ever on the day of the exam (today)? Or the night before?

I can understand not being able to do an exam because of a migraine but is what is happening (I found your OP a little unclear)?

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/06/2022 09:21

How am l meant to take a kid who is too ill to walk, with a blinding headache to an exam?🤷🏼‍♀️

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enjoyingscience · 21/06/2022 09:20

The school are thinking of the long term here - I don’t disagree with what they have said here.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/06/2022 09:20

She’s too ill. She’s lying in a dark room with a blinding headache.

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/06/2022 09:19

There has been endless evidence from the GP, including the extensive letter sent yesterday.

The school still can't speak for the exam board. The evidence will be presented, but the decision as to what to do is the exam board's.

Yorkshireteabags · 21/06/2022 09:17

I would take her to the exam but ask the school if you can wait/take her in. Id wait in the car to reassure her you are there. Plenty of water and sleep first. She will be more anxious for missing it probably.

turquoisebuttons · 21/06/2022 09:17

Sounds like a difficult situation all round but I’d agree with the PP that it doesn’t sound like the school think you are lying they just really wanted your DD to be able to complete her exam.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/06/2022 09:13

I think you misunderstand. There has been endless evidence from the GP, including the extensive letter sent yesterday.

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Jalisco · 21/06/2022 09:12

I think you are overreacting. Of course they want to try to get her to her GCSE exam - after all the time she has invested to get to this stage they are hardly going to want her to miss the exam and possibly fail or not get the grade she needs. And of course it is up to the exam board, and they are very likely to ask for evidence because they won't give out free passes easily. I don't see any guilt-tripping or any suggestion that you are lying. Obviously you are worried about your daughter, but blaming the school for trying to ensure that she doesn't miss out, or not being able to answer for what the exam board will do is hardly doing them, you or her any service.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/06/2022 09:06

Guilt tripping.

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