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Daughter can’t go back to 6th form- what now??

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PacificFish · 14/06/2022 22:57

My dd is 17and is just finishing her first year of 6the form. But she’s struggling a lot with her mental health and school is making it worse.
They really have been crap.
if we take her out now, what next?

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sashh · 15/06/2022 08:21

Another option would be a medical PRU.

These are not the same as the PRUs the naughty kids (I'm being flippant) go to. They are small units, some are residential, most are not, some are located in hospitals.

They have teaching staff but also staff to attend to medical needs both physical and mental.

User12398712 · 15/06/2022 07:55

RampantIvy · 14/06/2022 23:14

She wouldn't get the funding for further education if she took a year or two out, unfortunately. It only goes up to age 19.

She could start year 12 elsewhere and take different subjects/BTEC instead of A levels.

I think that the funding refers to start date though, so if she took one year out, provided she started an A level or BTEC course by 19, she would be funded for the duration of the course. Check this though, in case I am talking out of my hat!

myrtleWilson · 15/06/2022 07:49

My 19yr old has just stopped 6th form. She completed yr 12 as 17yr old but was very ill with an eating disorder so didn't attend at all in yr13. She restarted yr 12 again in September but a few weeks ago we decided to stop. School was where her ED was strongest so it wasn't a helpful place for her (nothing against the school/staff). It's been such a positive move. She's working in a restaurant and is concentrating for next 6/9/12 months on getting better and being happy instead of anxious and sad. Who knows what future holds but for today it was the right move.

does your Dd need some space to think what will make her happy and contribute to improving her health before jumping into another college situation?

BetteDavies · 15/06/2022 07:46

Taking her out could be important for her mental health but it will affect funding - she is funded up to 19 yrs. If academically her goal is university she should then look at 19 plus education - Access courses delivered by Further Education Colleges - 1 year. You get a loan to study but this is wiped once you successfully progress to uni.

TeenPlusCat · 15/06/2022 07:38
  1. If you take her out completely no one will care, but your child benefit will stop.
    Then later she could do a foundation / access course for university if she ever wanted to.

  2. If her MH is so bad she is stopping college then she needs help, unless you really think it is the school that is causing it. Wait lists on the NHS can be long. Has she seen a GP? Is she on any medication or getting counselling? If not then getting help is probably a priority. Consider going private if you can afford it.

  3. Unless you have good reason to believe she will be better with her MH by switching to a BTEC then watch out. She may just feel uninterested if she really wants to do A levels. However the routine is good so it's a balance.

My y12 DD has just done a Level 1 course at college still recovering from major MH issues. Because the course is relatively easy she has been able to only have ~75% attendance and still be the first on her course to finish. It has been good to keep something going, but still have the flexibility to have down days.

MH is the most important. Everything else has to work around that more or less. The difficulty is working out what is best for MH.

Best wishes.

RampantIvy · 14/06/2022 23:14

KittenKong · 14/06/2022 22:58

Can she take a year or two out to focus on her MH then try again (if she wants)?

She wouldn't get the funding for further education if she took a year or two out, unfortunately. It only goes up to age 19.

She could start year 12 elsewhere and take different subjects/BTEC instead of A levels.

PacificFish · 14/06/2022 23:10

We are looking for a suitable FE course.

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spotcheck · 14/06/2022 23:01

She will still have funding if she has not yet completed a L3 course.

Can she go to an FE college?

PacificFish · 14/06/2022 22:59

I was told by another friend that would affect the funding - she will have not completed the first year to be honest.
Is it ok she is out of education?
What should I do with her otherwise?

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KittenKong · 14/06/2022 22:58

Can she take a year or two out to focus on her MH then try again (if she wants)?

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