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11+ or not??

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TrooBloo · 10/03/2022 14:00

I live in an area where everybody is massively against the 11+. I can’t quite work out why, whether it’s because you need to tutor and therefore it’s for those that can afford it, or if they just don’t like the disparity between children. Not far away though, think next town, it’s a different culture. 11+ is the ONLY way to go.

I am on the fence between those two. 11+ for the right child.

My son is bright and an all rounder. He could definitely pass his 11+ And go to grammar school. But I don’t know if it’s a good idea. It would mean travel to a different town, therefore friends not necessarily local. I worry about mental health too - is high pressure a good idea? Is single sex a good idea too?

Has anybody else been in the fence, how did you come to a decision? I feel so stuck and can’t talk to anyone in real life as I’ll be shot down in flames for daring mention the word ‘grammar’ - people don’t even consider out of area schools, it’s the local comprehensive or nothing!

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TizerorFizz · 10/03/2022 14:28

You need to develop a thick skin.

You need to establish where your DS would thrive. Would he relish what the grammar offers? You don’t have to run with the pack or listen to them. In addition, friends should respect your position. Your DS is your responsibility, not theirs.

I would get the tutoring and see how he gets on. If he enjoys what he is being taught, why would you not give him the chance?

Plenty of DC travel to school to another town. No one where I was brought up declined a grammar place to stay local. Friends might come from a wider area but that’s ok and he will be fine with that. I don’t think the work is onerous for the children suited to that education. Don’t let your socialist neighbours put you off from doing your best for DS. You are guiding him, not their political views. Evaluate the schools and if he wants to try for the grammar, and you think it’s best for him, go with it.

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