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Playing along to delusions - costumes and PE

32 replies

GreenAndSpringy · 09/03/2022 21:26

One of my biggest peeves at Primary School was the expectation that children would be dressed up for a event, particularly World Book Day, AND take part in PE (Physical Education).

I had hoped this ridiculousness would be something the kids could be allowed to evolve out of, but no….

Culture Day!

There’s enormous pressure and expectation for the young people to be ambassadors for their ethnic heritage, and it sits alongside a refusal to acknowledge that many of them can’t just slip into and out of cultural clothing for a PE lesson.

There’s something icky and disrespectful about getting young people to compromise and “play at” cultural representation so that boxes can get ticked. It isn’t “inclusive” at all, some will get to reflect their heritage truthfully whilst others, if they do attempt to participate, end up doing it in a half-arsed and embarrassing way.

Somehow I have to square the circle so that my daughter doesn’t feel let down. Makes me so cross!

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Whatwouldscullydo · 10/03/2022 09:24

Cultural appropriation is not appropriate. Things have meanings fgs. There are outfits/traditional dress/ accessories etc that have alot of meaning behind them. Symbols of traditions and perhaps spiritual significance etc. Somethings aren't just an outfit.

Liverbird77 · 10/03/2022 09:20

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Camdenish · 10/03/2022 09:08

And yes, no one will notice if you’re dressed up or not. It’s a non uniform school. Paint nails with a countries flags, wear coloured socks, or do nothing. Honestly, it’s rant worthy but this is probably my not the hill worth dying on!

ancientgran · 10/03/2022 08:57

When I was at school in the 1950s, Catholic school, we had a big Polish population and the Polish kids always wore national dress on the National Day, can't remember when that was. In miserable 1950s England their costumes were so bright and pretty. I was really envious.

Not really relevant but just brought back some happy memories.

Camdenish · 10/03/2022 08:54

Ha ha! Maybe we should private message on this one.

I blooming love a dress up day, and the Y7 and Y8 have missed out on so much of the fun end of primary stuff. I can completely see that it’s some peoples worst night mare though.

What I have an issue with is the stereotyping that a culture day must bring. My child doesn’t have “a culture”, she’s really wound up about what to dress as.

I’ve got some wonderful ideas for her that would be just the right side of agitating, but she’s a good girl, doesn’t want to upset, and wants to fit in.

Tshirts with Heinz 57 written on perhaps?

Mumdiva99 · 10/03/2022 08:03

Is it that everyone has to get dressed up? Or if you want to....And if you don't want to then come in school uniform.

I would suggest if the latter you will only get a few of the more outgoing students partaking. Most won't.

boyblue · 09/03/2022 23:45

Never heard of stuff like that at secondary