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Secondary school

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emma1988 · 01/03/2021 14:25

Help. So my daughter goes to her dad's for a week and stays with mum for a week. Dad lives in a different county around 30mins away. We can not agree on secondary school for September. Both parents applied with different school choices so council didn't process either application. No school place has been offered. Council are suggesting if parents can't decide on 3 schools for application no school will be offered and both parents taken to court for no education. Can anyone tell me if this is true as they originally said if parents couldn't give 3 choices which were agreed the council would just place in a school with places.

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meditrina · 01/03/2021 14:36

It is entirely correct for the council not to adjudicate a parental dispute over educational decisi NHS.

When there are two applications for one child, it is entirely correct to process neither until parents can clarify which application is the one to be taken forward

It is also correct to remind parents that if the DC is out of education in September, parents can be prosecuted.

Your school choices have already been limited by missing all the normal applications deadlines. You now, in either area, will have the choice of undersubscribed schools only

So she's unlikely to be moving with her friends, and schools which have vacancies might be convenient for neither parental address.

Basically, the parents need to step up and get this sorted out. No-one else is going to do it for them, and as pp says the only person who suffers is DD.

SoupDragon · 01/03/2021 14:34

You made an incorrect application and now need to sort the mess out.

Start by finding out what schools are still available and what schools have working lists etc and which are convenient for both of you.

AlexaShutUp · 01/03/2021 14:32

Poor child!

You and your ex need to get past the disagreements and put your dd first. You both need to compromise - there must be schools in between your respective homes? Please put your dd first and get this sorted.

Biscuitsneeded · 01/03/2021 14:29

Has either of you stopped to think what this must be doing to your DD? Not knowing where she will be going, thinking her parents are so determined each to have their own way that they can't put her first? Suggest you ask DD to make the choice, and failing that, apply for whatever school the majority of her primary classmates will be going to. Poor kid deserves a little stability.