Putney High or Emanuel school for all-rounder DD ?

When I called the school and spoke to o head of sixth form to say I think there is something amiss with the values/culture for this to be ok on multiple occasions, there was a complete lack of collective responsibility.

You’re pissed off because the school wouldn’t take responsibility for something their adult pupils did not in school time and not on school premises? Why are you not pissed off at your neighbour? It’s not the schools fault!

But where are the parents ??? Why don’t you talk to your neighbour first about it ?
You seem to be blaming the school entirely for antisocial behaviour people are having their own houses, which I find a little puzzling.
Emanuel has changed massively over the last few years, the pupils currently in the sixth form got into the school under the old leadership which was very different.
A lot of loose ends have now been tightened up under the new leadership.
We are also local and only hear good things about the school these days.

@StopAtTheRedLight that must be an awful experience! I have only heard only the good things about Emanuel, that’s why I am surprised.

@Seasunbeach. Neighbour’s dc goes there and has regular parties of classmates. Ans yea I know who they are and they are all classmates not local hangers-on. Disrespectful. Crashing vodka bottles on neighbour properties (thrown over fence — once even to the tune of «fuck the neighbours»). Beer cans thrown on to our sunroom roof. Rude. Disrespectful. And on multiple occasions. When I called the school and spoke to o head of sixth form to say I think there is something amiss with the values/culture for this to be ok on multiple occasions, there was a complete lack of collective responsibility. Mad ENT decision then and there that dc would never go there.

@StopAtTheRedLight Why do you think so? Have you had children in Emanuel?

I would avoid Emanuel. Irresponsible leadership. Irresponsible sixth form culture. Would never send my kid there.

@11plusNewbie
We are also choosing Emanuel, also had a hard choice, but went for coed! so we will see you there!

@GU24Mum I like that strategy! Or OP, in your shoes, I’d probably go with the closer school. A friend has a child at E and he is very, very happy there. That counts for a lot!

If they were next door to each other, would you definitely choose Putney? If not, choose Emanuel!

If you'd definitely choose Putney if the distance was the same, then it's a case of checking that you are happy with the journey which sounds longer but manageable.

If you aren't sure which you'd choose regardless, choose one to be heads and one to be tails. Toss a coin and instantly ask yourself if you're happy with the answer. If you are, go with that one!

Isn’t PHS much better, academically? If that matters to you, go there.

I would normally favour the easier journey

But in this case, the big choice is between single sex or co-ed

The schools are closely matched sporting rivals, so I doubt there would be any major differences, unless your DD wants to play lacrosse or is a gymnast, in which case PHS would suit better.

Isn't the girls vs mixed a bigger decision?

Sorry I did not understand your point about the location. If you live close to Emanuel, I am sure you ll have lots of friends who live close by?