secondary school fee support

Ahhh OP, I think it’s unlikely that your child will get funding unless from the school itself. You should speak with them directly.

Please note though, a primary success characteristic is parents engagement. You are clearly engaged and your children will succeed in the state sector if need be

Depending upon what you do, some employers provide loans or a package instead of a bonus. All is up for negotiation. Not the full cost however a contribution that will help.

I agree. Depends on the school and the child. I also agree that state schools are perfectly fine! If your child is one that would ‘have a lot to offer’ a private school they will have just as much to offer a state school.

Do you work? If so, maybe ask your employers for assistance?

Dear employer, please pay me an extra £15k a year (after tax!) for the next seven years so that my daughter can go to private school. Or you could just pay the school directly and gross up the PAYE and NI on the benefit through a PAYE settlement, that will only cost you about double.

What’s that? No chance? Don’t you value my contribution enough to do me this small favour?

This is why we have state schools. Most children go to state schools.

@NoToMisogyny like always it will depend on the school. We have friends who have dc at independents and one family is totally fine and part of the school the other is a teacher so dc are subsidised in the school (which is a feeder for Eaton) and the horror stories she tells me of those with superiority complexes over the teacher’s family are truly hideous. She’s a teacher for the love of it with a first class Cambridge degree in maths and her dh is a high earner but because she’s “just a teacher” some parents (the minority) treat her as staff. She turned up to a play date with her ds, was offered coffee so stayed and the “host” presented her with coffee then said she’d be back in an hour because my friend was a teacher so used to dc and could watch them play while the mum (whose house the play date was in) went for a run, because the nanny was off sick.

Anyway, depends on school and child. The independent I liked just closed (went bankrupt) but the supposedly good local independent didn’t impress me at all to the point I preferred the state school. Bursaries are great but not just for the sake of a posh school. Posh doesn’t mean good imo.

educational-grants.org/find-charity/?all=1

Here. However, I think you will find they are all aimed at very specific groups (e.g children of specific work types, or bereaved) or for children who are already at private school and have exceptional circumstances for requiring a funds to continue.

Yes but people have implied that poorer kids shouldn’t be around wealthy kids/ families anyway.

I’m sure there are issues sometimes but the kids I know who attend top ranking indie schools with (sometimes 100pc) bursaries are very happy. Their friends don’t give two fucks about the house they live in.

@Mummy195

But OP doesn't want a bursary. She wants someone else to fund her child's education because she thinks they're 'special' and she's already had an identical thread where everyone said the same.

I meant no nastiness. We looked at independent schools for dd but felt we’d rather use the money for family holidays and providing dd with a good home life and spare money than her be one of the poorer dc at the independent school we looked at. It would have been a stretch for us. I think dc can be cruel often pick on the weakest, whether they’re in state or independent schools. If you live in a three bed semi and your friends at school all have mansions it’s easy to feel not good enough. The benefit of private education is a combination of small classes, opportunity and networking links but likeminded families of similar wealth tend to mix together.

Tend to agree a bit with @mummy195 - it does sound a little like OP does not have english as their first language (forgive me if I'm wrong here OP - certainly not meant as an insult). Perhaps she isn't over familiar with the educational system here? Nothing wrong with wanting the best for your kids OP but lots of state schools are great.

A lot of nastiness in this thread. Mocking someone’s English is really low. As is mocking the idea of a less well off child being among those with wealthy parents. Ok, so the OP’s daughter may not qualify for a bursary but what are you saying about all the children that do?

An education trust? Do you mean like a charitable foundation? Or do you mean a fund that grandparents or parents have set up?

What am I missing here?

OP it sounds as if you will have to accept a state school for your child. For what it's worth the majority of kids at top universities went to state schools - they're fine.

On the basis you can't even string a sentence together then I highly doubt you've got any chance of persuading someone to give you money to educate your child when their is perfectly good FREE education available

What is ETF in this context please, @Avatar1

I’m intrigued why you think putting a dc in a school full of wealthy families when your dc is charity funded would be a good idea?

Last thread got deleted because OP didn't like the replies

Do you work? If so, maybe ask your employers for assistance?