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Year 7 boy - unorganised, dragging out homework - constant help and nagging

35 replies

Remmy123 · 16/12/2020 21:18

My son is very bright, But has got a lazy attitude.

I am on his case constantly - pack your school bag for tomorrow / brush your teeth/ hang blazer up etc around 29 times a night until he does it.

Homework gets left until the last minute then it's just slap dash despite me going on at him to do it.

My whole evening is taken up with this constant chasing and reminders.

Tonight I've had enough I've asked him since 4pm to do homework .. started it half an hour ago and it's wrong / silly mistakes so I've made him start again - he stil then has to pack his back for tomorrow and brush teeth which will be another dragged out event.

Any words of wisdom? Whst can I do?

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ToLiveInPeace · 16/12/2020 21:30

This sounds very much like attention deficit disorder. Referral and diagnosis can be slow so I would start looking at whether this is a possibility sooner rather than later.

OnlyTeaForMe · 16/12/2020 21:29

My DS was like this. Diagnosed with dyslexia at age 13.

louisethedisease · 16/12/2020 21:28

Watching with interest as my 11 year old is exactly the same!

ReindeerAntlerLights · 16/12/2020 21:27

A list that he ticks off the stuff he has done.

Homework is done between x and x time, phone handed over so no distractions.

Noticeboard or some other way to visually track homework, he writes on this as he gets given the homework and he can see what needs to be done and how much of it he has.

Alfiemoon1 · 16/12/2020 21:27

No advice but watching with interest my ds is year 11 and the same. Just this week he said he couldn’t do a piece of homework as information was missing everyone else must of listened in class and done it so he got a teacher detention forgot to go so it turned into a lunch time detention which despite me reminding him to go to he forgot and now has an after school detention?? All this over a 15 minute easy piece of homework pfft

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Remmy123 · 16/12/2020 21:26

Thanks - he comes home and looks at his phone, no x box etc - maybe I'll take that off him?

Gosh if I left him too it he would miss his train but it's tempting!!

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Leah2005 · 16/12/2020 21:25

*never

Leah2005 · 16/12/2020 21:25

Hmmm. I had one of these. He achieved well at gcse's and A levels. Now doing a science degree and uni has picked up that he has attention deficit disorder. He covered it well because he is intelligent and a pleasant kid and ever caused anyone any problems. I always said he was disobedient by the things he didn't do rather than did iyswim.

Wolfiefan · 16/12/2020 21:22

Stop reminding him.
A list of what he needs to do somewhere he can see it.
Let the school issue detentions if he doesn’t do HW or forgets stuff.

AllTheCakes · 16/12/2020 21:20

No screens until it’s done? I assume he comes home and wants to relax when he would be more productive getting everything done before switching off.