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How involved are you in your teen's school work?

38 replies

allornothing77 · 29/10/2020 20:30

Just wondering how much parents help their children with their school work? Do you remind them to read, revise etc, do you help them revising, or do you just let them get on with it?

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longhaulstress · 01/12/2020 21:18

Dd(14) and Ds (12) both get on with it themselves. I help dd with revision sometimes before a test or they nip down to ask the meaning of a word sometimes but otherwise they do it all on their own.

I think I leant on my mum too much as a high school student and it meant I was never very confident in my own ability.

silkiecat · 01/12/2020 18:33

DD 15 - Pretty much gets on with everything herself but will discuss things with me and ask for advice.

DS - 13 (ASD) - Need to do everything with him or nothng will get done. So in lockdown / isolation that's me reading everything to him, writing his answers, researching topic so I can teach it, finding alternatives if he struggles with set work, same in isolations. Rest of time I monitor homework and get him to do with me. There's also daily e-mails from school and lots of meetings.

Lonecatwithkitten · 01/12/2020 16:38

From the start of year 7 you live with your own decisions don't do homework and get a detention your own problem.
I will provide help if asked, but only if asked. Usually my answer if another question designed to suggest the correct direction or tease out the answer via a different route.

Pipandmum · 01/12/2020 01:44

None after primary. My son dod (hes in college now) need a lot of prodding but I didn't sit with him or anything. My daughter is extremely organised and needs no help at all (except last night when she laughed hysterically at my German accent while quizzing her for her oral exam). She got a distinction so must have helped!

lljkk · 30/10/2020 16:32

Only can truly help to end of yr11. After that they start doing stuff beyond my usual reservoir of knowledge. Mostly I let them get on with it on own, but will always help if asked.

NotDonna · 30/10/2020 08:54

All my 3 crack on with it themselves. I never ever see what they submit. If they’re stuck they may ask me or each other. I will ask DD3 (11) if she’s up to date with hers. They sometimes tell me bits about what they’re studying DD2(15) especially chats about her history topics and I may ask questions around that but it’s more of a discussion iyswim.

tostaky · 30/10/2020 08:42

I painfully sit next to my 3 children wondering why they are not more independent...,
(I think i know what i am doing wrong!)

LynetteScavo · 29/10/2020 21:25
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It does feel like days

LynetteScavo · 29/10/2020 21:24

At the moment very.

I just let my DSs get on with it or not I've spent years whole of half term doing GCSE work with DD or that's what it feels like

missbunnyrabbit · 29/10/2020 20:57

When I was at school, I just got on with it unless I needed help, then I asked.

Lougle · 29/10/2020 20:38

DD1 (14) doesn't get homework (special school - they feel that the effort of school life and travel to/from school is enough of a challenge).

DD2 (13, ASD) often needs me to sit beside her, because she gets very stressed and anxious. Today, she couldn't remember what 1×4 was, because she'd got stressed over a new word in maths.

DD3 (11) is very independent, so I just keep an eye on Google Classroom. She tends to do the work, then asks me to read it before she presses submit.

GuyFawkesDay · 29/10/2020 20:37

At the moment, letting get on with it. So far, all ok. I will help when asked or if I thought things were slipping.

SocialBees · 29/10/2020 20:34

At the moment I just let them get on with it (DS age 14, DD age 13, DS age 11). But I am prepared to get more involved if I ever need to, eg if a report or parents evening was concerning.

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